Friday Open Thread

Clever Manka, · Categories: Open Thread

It’s the last weekend in July! I have already booked myself for something in every weekend of August! What poor life choices did you make this week/month, friends?

117 Responses to “Friday Open Thread”

  1. CleverManka says:

    Last week the Burgomaster made a digital copy of this ancient photo of me, age 25 or 26, taken at a Kansas City fetish ball. It's technically SFW (the only thing showing is a lot of Very Young Manka Leg), but beware of the truly appalling background "decor."

    I still have the shoes.

  2. ToastiewithCheese says:

    Poor life choices! I just had coffee with a friend – not just my second cup of the day (which is usually my last) but a third cup too. Now a little jittery. But, otoh, I had a great time with him and stayed away from the office for an hour, so I guess it's good to have the coffee to keep me awake until I can go home!

  3. nia_74656 says:

    I am going to Burning Man this year, and had planned to just cut up/decorate old clothes instead of spending money on costumes this year. Then I saw Ghostbusters. Cue instant, passionate need to cosplay Jillian Holtzmann. *facepalm* I guess if I had to make a poor choice regarding my bank account, at least it's the BEST POSSIBLE CHOICE in every other way, right?

  4. Fancy_Pants says:

    My life choices were suspiciously on point this week. I could tell that I was one bad sleep away from getting sick (probably from too much excitement last weekend), and so I managed to steer myself away from trying to *~Do All The Things!~* and as a result I don't feel totally zonked today. Living an adequate life, if not my best life!

  5. Rillquiet says:

    I committed to stay up to watch Hillary's acceptance speech, lest my not-dead grandmother send her spirit out to smack me upside the head for missing history. But I also had a personal training session earlier in the evening (RIP, lats, you were great), so by the end of the night's celebration I was too sleepy to really take it in. Still #WithHer, but after 8 hours of rack time.

    • vladazhael says:

      Ohhhh, that weird pressure feeling must be my mom willing me to watch it. Thanks for the reminder.

      • Rillquiet says:

        "I felt a great disturbance in the Force, as though millions of voices had cried out, 'Don't you DARE take this for granted!' and were not to be silenced."

        • vladazhael says:

          I just looked it up and realized it's an hour long, which is too much for a casual viewing at work.

          Sorry, millions of voices. I'm not taking this for granted; I'm just being a strong, independent woman with a job that requires my attention, and saving the speech for the weekend when I can give it the attention it deserves.

          • exitpursuedbyaclaire says:

            Hear, hear. I haven't had time to watch a single speech of the DNC this week, but next week I will be on vacation. Plenty of time then.

          • littleinfinity says:

            Same. Time for all the feminist feelz tonight/ tomorrow. I've been living vicariously through all my friends posting versions of "omg tears!!"

  6. kayjayoh_ says:

    Moses supposes his toeses are roses.

  7. MuseKray says:

    My bad but also life choices involve buying coffee cake. This is funny to me because every time after my jujitsu class I walk by this health supplement store which has a picture of a super muscular women, and I think "Yeah! I need to adjust my diet to be the best warrior evaaah!" Then I reward myself with cake.

  8. katerkins says:

    Hey Manka! I haven't commented before now, but I've read everything and I wanted to thank you for setting up such a great space on the internet.

    I'm going on vacation today and because I hate travel planning my husband booked everything and it's basically the opposite of everything I would have done (expensive flight/cheap hotel) and I'm really bummed. Whenever we've traveled before we've always been on the same page and better about discussing things; like, he would do research and then we would pick together. Instead of being super excited about this amazing trip I'm about to go on, I'm really disappointed and we haven't even left yet. Maybe it's just nerves? Maybe it's my period? I just wish I could stop crying at my desk and be thankful we can afford to travel. Whatever, we're going to have a great time no matter what and at least I won't have to be at work.

    • CleverManka says:

      Thanks for joining in!

      we're going to have a great time no matter what and at least I won't have to be at work.
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    • Fancy_Pants says:

      I always find travel really fraught. I love it, but I am always stressed about how it's a lot of discretionary spending and that puts a lot of pressure on it to be perfect and magical. I'm sure it will work out better than it seems right now though!

    • iosognodisonno says:

      I've lately found traveling more stressful than I'd care to admit, but ultimately once you're there and doing your thing, it's very likely you'll be able to enjoy yourself or at least switch tack midstream (although for me the flying's the more stressful part, so spending more should certainly ease that part!)

  9. Merripat says:

    I haven't been here as much as I wanted, but today was my last day at the internship, so I'll spend the weekend sleeping, doing laundry, and catching up with!
    I don't think I made any really poor life choices lately, but I did postpone the decision about my master's which may or may not turn out to be not a good decision.
    But I definitely made the good life choice of semi-asking out my PT crush – I wrote him a postcard as a thank you and included my phone number. You may recall that he was slightly problematic, so it's maybe for the better he didn't react. But it made me feel really good to just do this!

  10. FriendOfDaja says:

    My poor decision was watching season 3 of Bojack Horseman. It's awesome, but so deeply dark and depressing. But hey, first time I've seen a character come out as asexual, like, ever, so that was cool!

  11. 30Litresof says:

    Hi everyone! I've been meaning to join you all again post Toast for a while but haven't got round to it. But I've had a difficult week to say the least, so now seems like a good time. Details in a reply (which might be distressing to some people re: mental health, suicide mention).

    • 30Litresof says:

      One of my oldest friends killed himself in the early hours of Monday. I found out Tuesday night from his brother. It was completely out of the blue – he seemed happy, he had lots of friends, there were no signs that anything was wrong. I saw him six weeks ago when he was in Manchester with friends of his and we had a great time. He didn't leave a note or anything. We'll never know why he did it. And that's hard in some ways, but in another sense for myself anyway I feel like it's not a case where someone could have done something, there's no 'what if?' It just happened. That makes things easier for me I think.

      I'm 24. There's one person very dear to me who says he would have killed himself if I hadn't been around for him at a particular time in his life (he had tried previously). There's someone else who I helped get out of that place where he was having suicidal thoughts. And now someone's actually done it and I couldn't help him. This is all in the past three years. I don't feel guilty about that or anything, I just feel tired. That we live in a world that quite frequently drives people to want to do that. That this probably isn't the last time I'll lose someone in this way. I don't know. I just don't know.

      • Crivens_the_hag says:

        Infinite toast hugs for you. I'm so, so sorry.
        As much as we love someone and want to help hold them up, it is hard to remember that love and support isn't enough sometimes. And love doesn't cure depression/mental illness. Please try to be kind to yourself in grief.

      • Heathered says:

        So sorry to hear this. The loss is compounded when it feels like it could have been prevented but sometimes it just can't, and that's awful. Take good care of yourself.

      • iosognodisonno says:

        I'm so sorry 🙁

        Treat yourself in whatever way makes you feel best this weekend and know internet strangers are sending kind thoughts your way.

      • dreamingintrees says:

        I'm so very sorry

      • dancingcorvid says:

        that sounds so hard – hard and careful work helping people out of places in their lives here they were suicidal, and so so hard to lose a friend this time. I am so sorry.

  12. aqueousmedium says:

    My immune system apparently made a poor life choice recently because I woke up sneezing frantically this morning. Unless it knocks it the fuck off in the next 90 minutes, that mean no yoga today which is a grumpy life choice.

    On the up side: about to embark on a 4-day weekend! Let's hope it's not spent entirely on the couch blowing my nose.

  13. jenavira says:

    I, too, have booked myself for every actual weekend I have in August (and, thanks to the weirdness of summer scheduling, I only have two actual weekends in August, meaning I'm going to travel, work five days, have one day off, work five days, travel…)

  14. Kazoogrrl says:

    Well, Wed I went to see Bombino play, so I was out late on a school night, but on the other hand my thought process during the show was, "Due to the power of the internet I am watching this amazing guitarist from Niger who has at times lived in exile and been a shepherd and is Tuareg (I've never met anyone who is, that I know), and we're in a club in Baltimore and he just delivered another blistering solo and this incredibly mixed crowd is rocking out". So worth the tired Thur.

  15. grapefruitlife says:

    First post in an Open Thread here! *waves*
    I am at my parents' place and I have awesome plans of doing basically nothing for three days and maybe taking advantage of having an oven. I will hunt for recipes later, wheee. If anyone has tasty, not-too-difficult, summer- and one-person-appropriate ideas for cooking with oven and proper kitchen space, I'd be really happy?

    As for poor life choices? Hm, apart from working too much and drinking slightly too much coffee and/or beer, nothing I can think of right now. Maybe I'll remember later.

  16. telzeyamberdon says:

    Poor life choices? No thanks, I've made enough of those! I'm only now climbing out of the deep well of wasted time and money they gifted me with.

  17. laurenipsum says:

    I am also already overbooked for August and also already mad about it. Gonna try to be better about getting more sleep during the week to make up for it, I guess.

  18. Crivens_the_hag says:

    Poor life choices. Next week we are going on vacation with old friends who live several states away. I suspect that they may be ….republicans…not trump voters I hope. Blergh. Let's just hope you don't see me on the news after I snap…
    Solidarity, breadfriends.

  19. Miss Catherine says:


    Oh, bad decisions. I am the poster goddess for bad decisions right now. It has been a rough stretch. I tend to spiral into bad choices when my health breaks down, though awareness of how my physical health affects my mental health is coming to me slowly but surely. This week I went head to head with my mom about why she hates (hates!?!?) Michelle Obama and Hillary Clinton, My Current and Future Political Leaders. It was not pretty and I had nightmares all night.

    I have been kind of collapsing under stress for a good couple of weeks so this weekend I flung my toddler at my parents and booked a very nice hotel in San Antonio, overlooking the Riverwalk, with a balcony and a gorgeous bathtub and room service and I MAY NEVER COME HOME AGAIN. Until they kick me out. 😀

  20. [sic] says:

    Poor life choices: letting Illy the Hatey Cat leave. No more fluffy scowls in my life. But she gets a forever home and a Persian younger sister to boss around, so it's for the best.

    Also, I'm using the open thread to brag about the contents of the Toast Care Package I mailed this week (and document them in case it gets lost/stolen/damaged). I went on a crafty spree and here are the results:
    <img src="">(the pendant is a mini chalkboard)

    Side B of the totebag:
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    • CleverManka says:

      Oh my gosh, did you do that embroidery yourself? GORGEOUS!

    • Heathered says:

      *applauds* That's for you and little scowly muffinhead both.

    • dreamingintrees says:

      This is amazing! My poor life choice is I spent a bunch of time putting my package together, and, haven't mailed it yet….

      I keep going to the post office and the line is out the door and I give up and say I will do it tomorrow. I really will do it tomorrow!

  21. Heathered says:

    It was a GOOD life choice to get ice cream for dinner because it has been over 100 degrees this entire week and I am fucking over it. Slept with my front door wide open last night (in a studio, mind you) and still woke up in a puddle of sweat. More interestingly, I live in the small redneck county seat of a sprawling hippie county, but this is the third day of an East Indian wedding ceremony that's been going on right next door. Today the groom's party literally paraded down my block, with drone photography, the men doing that dance-fight thing with their scarves, caterers running ice water to everyone and offering it to those of us who were out on the street to cheer (I would have been too shy but an ex-boss and friend of the bride's father was there, besides which they were basically in my front yard). So many beautiful people, so many cars that cost more than my lifetime accumulated net worth. A nice change of pace from the usual "There's a tweaker yelling at his own hand, do we call the police or what?" routine that makes up daily life here.

  22. Sara Davis says:

    I have stayed up way too late nearly every night this week, because I had plans after work and wanted to catch up on DNC coverage and also wanted to enjoy some good old before-bed escapism (which this week has been playing Dragon Age Inquisition multiplayer). I have a sinus infection to show for it, so my self-sabotage was highly effective.

    "Sara hurts herself in her confusion!" as my Pokemon-playing neighbor might say.

    On the plus side, the only plan I have made for the weekend is to go see Ghostbusters with my gentleman friend. My second time, his first. I think this is a Good decision.

  23. vladazhael says:

    Bad life choices include eating and drinking a bit more than is advisable one month out from a costumed event (because desserts and booze are good), fucking off on gym plans to go play Harry Potter trivia (2nd place, no thanks to me), and avoiding chores so thoroughly that I've forgotten some of them exist.


    Wait, those sound like pretty good choices now that I type them out. Go, me!

  24. littleinfinity says:

    Bad/ good life choices: my coworker's birthday was today and I have eaten ALL the churros and tamales in the world. ALL. So full. So non-regretful.

  25. iosognodisonno says:

    For three days running, I've actually finished my to do list on the day of! Because I've been dealing with weird fatigue issues that I haven't been able to figure out the cause of, that's become a serious rarity. Somehow in spite of having a couple of tired af days this week though, I miraculously got all my shit did on the schedule I wanted to.

    No weekend work! No late night work! Life is good (except I'm kinda tired right now).

  26. Es_Petal says:

    I have had the busiest week off in the world and have barely been online! Which was nice in a way but v busy and now I need another week off to recover, instead of which I have to work tomorrow.
    My week off consisted of 2 5.30am starts and 7pm finishes, some donkey-wrangling, piglet-cuddling, a lot of Pimms, more ponyriding than my back is really happy with, a fireworks cruise, Gangsta Granny on stage and not eating a single vegetable until Saturday dinner.

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