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Women helping women and being rewarded for it despite the attitude of the misogynist who created the award, fuck yeah.
This article about improving your work ethic (which I translate as “internal motivation” because “work ethic” smacks of corporate capitalism and the demand for productivity over humanity) is perfectly timed between Foreign Lauren’s A Few Words from an Anthropomorphised Crisis and my upcoming post about goals (tentatively scheduled for September 7).
Yeah, when you were a smart kid who didn’t have to try especially hard to excel at the things that brought you positive reinforcement, you can end up not developing much of a persistence muscle. You didn’t need to! Things were pretty easy, and you were probably able to avoid anything that wasn’t easy for you without much trouble, because your talents lined up well with the things that school and most parents reward. Then you hit adulthood and discover that when you have to do something difficult, that persistence muscle is atrophied and weak and it feels easier to just not bother. That can work out okay when the difficult thing is “learn to paint” or “do the Whole30,” but it tends not to be a viable option when it comes to your job.
I’ve never had a head injury and I don’t have a neurological illness, but this article about cognitive fatigue still made me think oh, shit.
The author never says the word, and he might have never been called it (unlikely, but possible), but this is why I hate the term “trash” applied to fandom/fans. I grew up around and was friends with people who were called white trash on a regular basis. If they want to call themselves trash, that is their choice. It is not fandom’s word to reclaim. I tweeted about this over the weekend, but this is a big thing for me, so I’m including it here.
Black people need to be in SF. Black people are in SF. The fact that we are still explaining and defending that in the year 2016 is obscene.
I was surprised at how interested I was once I started reading the history of T.G.I. Friday’s and its decor. I remember the first time I sat in a (similarly decorated) Bennigan’s restaurant. It was right after we moved to Kansas, the summer of 1981, and we were new school clothes shopping in Wichita. I remember two things about the experience: their Monte Cristo sandwich and Mommy’s revulsion at the decor–not because it was kitchy, but of her concern about how they could possibly dust all of it.
There’s fake it ’til you make it, there’s gaming the system, and then there’s this guy.
Brazilian soccer star Carlos Kaiser had it all: exclusive contracts with popular teams, money, fame, and women. The professional soccer star was only missing one thing: the ability to play soccer. Arguably the greatest con artist in all of sports history, Kaiser (birth name Carlos Henrique Raposo) was able to maintain a career that spanned nearly two decades while playing in as few games as possible and never scoring a goal.
I’m honest and open about the fact that I perhaps spend less of my free time sober than the average person. It’s nothing that keeps me from getting things done and I’m fine with it. I’ve given up cigarettes (mostly) and casual sex (sigh). I’ve worked hard to overcome anger issues and emotional eating. I try every day to be a better person. Fuck if I’m spending my free time sober unless I absolutely have to. I still loved this article about women and their drink.
A woman with a single malt scotch is bold and discerning and might fire you from her life if you fuck with her. A woman with a PBR is a Cool Girl who will not be shamed for belching. A woman drinking MommyJuice wine is saying she’s more than the unpaid labor she gave birth to. The things women drink are signifiers for free time and self-care and conversation — you know, luxuries we can’t afford. How did you not see this before? I ask myself. You were too hammered, I answer back. That summer I see, though. I see that booze is the oil in our motors, the thing that keeps us purring when we should be making other kinds of noise.
And finally, another music recommendation, found via this article.