Friday Open Thread

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Tomorrow is October. How are you feeling about that?

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  1. Kazoogrrl says:

    Good, though I'm waiting for the usual MD fall heatwave. Wondering where the summer went. Trying to balance fun and things that need to get done. Trying not to eat my emotions or primal desire for all the starches.

  2. Doc_Paradise says:

    This past year has been like one of those nightmares that one vaguely recalls after waking, but which leaves one with emotional and physical exhaustion that is hard to look closely at.

    It's almost turnip burning time and I am very much looking forward to that. Turnip burning is the "turning of the year" for me so I'm hoping to put a bunch of stuff behind me and have some sort of "end" to the year.

    • Doc_Paradise says:

      I was overwhelmed this morning and my partner volunteered to stay home for the morning to take care of the things I really shouldn't have had to deal with (cat urine, landlord shit, delivery and installation of a major appliance that landlord has been an ass about). That means I can actually do something for me today. (I'd been rearranging my day to deal with what HAD to get done and cutting out what I desperately NEEDED.)

      So today I've already started my slow-cooker chowder, showered, and sat with the cat. I have some paid work I HAVE to do, but I now have the emotional space and energy to do other things for me (like clean my personal space so that I can feel more comfortable there and enjoy watching Luke Cage tonight without having to either scrub cat urine or sit in it, and finish writing the turnip post).

      Maybe this year will be better. Today is promising for that.

  3. Lynn says:

    My Toast tote came in the mail!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I carried it to work today while listening to the new Regina Spektor album!!

    We get to go home in two hours as a thank you for our hard work this week (I am not the only person who had multiple events before or after the gala).

    I have decided to be in a good mood about all these things and we'll deal with impending print deadline next week.

  4. vladazhael says:

    Much as I resist the departure of summer and dread the coming of winter (even the half-assed southern version of winter), I have to admit that this week's sudden onset of pleasantly cool autumn air agrees with me. It's a good season, even if what comes afterward is grim and awful. (Wildling by birth, but my heart is in Dorne.)

    Also, I have this conspicuously cute new planner/journal/thing that I started with October as its first official month.
    This is an out-of-character level of cuteness, and I can't read all the Korean captions, but look at that round little bunny! LOOK AT IT!

  5. Rianne says:

    My fiancée is moving in tomorrow. October is great!

  6. CleverManka says:

    Ugh. What a week what a week. I told the Burgomaster on Tuesday that I wasn't contemplating suicide (at all, no worries), but I wouldn't be terribly disappointed if I just spontaneously died.
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    I have absolutely nothing planned this weekend other than the usual grocery shopping, food prep, and laundry. I am going to do my best to not stress about how:
    I'm not getting anything done and I'm a week behind on my yoga asana homework (although I'm doing okay with the readings)
    I don't have the mental energy to write
    Even my appetite has disappeared

    I have my next visit with Dr. Sexy on Tuesday. Here's hoping he has a miracle for me.

    Also, LiveJournal seems to be down so I've been unable to access my gif collection for 24 hours.

  7. MissBadcrumble says:

    I'm feeling a bit sad about the ending of an ESA space mission that has been strangely touching. Earlier today they ended the Rosetta mission by landing/crashing the spacecraft called Rosetta into the comet that she has orbited and observed since november 2014. The whole journey started 10(!) years ago when Rosetta was launched into space in 2004.
    There was a really good live stream from the mission controlroom for the last hour or so of the descent towards the comet. The very last minutes were quiet, with the camera on the screen that showed Rosetta's response radio signal. Finally it flatlined, Rosetta had touched down and the contact was broken forever. So emotional!!!!!

    • CleverManka says:

      That is emotional! I'm surprised the Burgomaster didn't mention it. Or maybe he didn't want to bring it up because I'm already on the verge of tears all the time…I love the emotional connection that scientists and engineers have with their spacecrafts and missions. <3

    • Rillquiet says:

      I cried in front of my boss when Rosetta landed (this may be why he was not shocked that I put in for solar eclipse leave a year in advance). It IS emotional. We did a magnificent thing, but it is in an unbelievably vast universe, so it's equal parts sadly insignificant and beautifully defiant, and whoops, there go the feels.

  8. Merripat says:

    Not sure how I feel about impending October. The academic year in my country starts in October, so for the past years, fall has meant new beginnings for me. And of course I have one this year, too, but it doesn't feel as good as hoped.
    I am slowly coming to terms with the fact that my anxiety made this life decision for me. And admitting that it's the anxiety actually helps me coping.

    My life is not over. It's a new beginning, not the one I wanted, but one that will be alright. I will always have options.

  9. freshwaterpearl says:

    I've developed a little bit of tinnitus, a fuzzy staticky sound in my ear. I went to an ENT and they said I probably just have to live with it. It's very quiet, and I'm trying to keep it in perspective, but right now reminding myself how very mild my case of tinnitus is (compared to, for example, the guy on This American Life who has two dissonant tones playing loudly in his ears at all times) just makes me worry about it getting worse. I think this anxiety is adding itself to my worries about US politics, so that I wake up in the morning with my stomach already in knots and then lie there fearfully listening to my own ears, after which I fearfully get up and check 538.

    I'm a Quaker, the kind who worship in silence, so this has a potential bearing on my spiritual life that I'm sad about. I'm listening to Indigo Girls right now and trying to calm myself.

    • CleverManka says:

      Oh my gosh, bb, that sounds wretched. Can you get a second opinion?

    • littleinfinity says:

      I wonder if something like noise cancelling headphones could help? I know it's inside your head so maybe not, but might be worth looking into if there is a solution for Quaker meeting.

      I went to a Quaker high school and we had silent meeting too, I can imagine how annoying it would be if you just had a constant bzzz 🙁

      • freshwaterpearl says:

        It might–I'm not sure how noise-canceling headphones actually work, but white noise does help. It's an idea worth trying, at least!

  10. Xolandra says:

    T-6 days before surgery is literally all I can think of October. I'm trying desperately to squeeze as much fun into this weekend as I can.

  11. damngoodcoffee says:

    I love October, always, because of the changing weather and the lead up to Halloween. But I am in a weird place/mood rn, partly because of hormones and lack of sleep and partly because of other situational stuff-

    *Still–and perhaps this will be an always thing–feeling a bit isolated, even though I really do like a lot of my coworkers, they all have ties here and I don't and I don't know how I'm supposed to generate them

    *I go back and forth on how suited I am for my job. I like my career in librarianship, but I just don't think I have the right personality to be an academic instruction librarian for the long-term. It's a frustrating feeling, because I do fine, and I enjoy a lot of it, but my coworkers just seem to 'fit' better in this type of role, and I don't think I'm quite there, or will be. I mean it's fine, my job and my coworkers are really good, and I know it's unreasonable to just expect perfection, but like I said, it's frustrating to feel like you don't quite fit, like maybe you could do something else a little down the road but you don't really know what or if you have the time/resources to make it happen.

    *I was approached creepily by a random young man (probably student) on campus yesterday, and it was enough of a reminder of how vulnerable I look and how certain types (it's always been men) react to that by taking liberties/being invasive, and I hate that. I wish I was 6 ft tall, or looked like Furiosa or something. Anything that could make people stop thinking they can take liberties w/me that they can't with other people, just b/c I'm small & look vulnerable.

    Ugh, anyway, aside from all THAT CRAP, I usually love October. I just need to focus on that and not all the other stuff.

  12. Räven says:

    WAIT WHAT. I am saying no to October. Because I love fall weather but I am Not Ready for anything else about this.

  13. LaxMom says:

    Dammit was getting over my crush on kid's therapist but he got a new haircut and, whoops, nope, crush still there.

    Woke up to still not being able to eat (it's been since monday! my brain is gone at this point), have 2 proposals due today and all this semester's work is on my second hard drive which my computer decided to lose connection to.
    I seem to have recovered access to that drive for the moment. Let's hope it lasts until the papers are turned in.

    Teen boy. sigh. Those of you who may have been following me for a while might know the saga of teen boy and hand injuries/broken bones. At therapist. Saying that overall I was pretty impressed with him lately. He says, I have something to confess that might change your mind. Proceeds to tell me that he found a mousetrap at school and wanted to see how much it hurt, so he stuck his finger in it. It hurt. Wasn't apparently convinced enough, stuck ANOTHER finger in it after resetting it? Tells me today, he thinks the first one is broken at the knuckle. No big deal, he's just gonna go find the old splint….

    I need a slamming my head into the wall emoticon.

  14. Theo_Winterwood says:

    I love October in theory, because Autumn and crispy weather and Halloween and leaves and everything, but man, this October is stressful, 'cause we've got no money and five million things in life are converging inconveniently from every direction on top of that.

    Also it's been raining all week, so I've been feeling very bleh about things.

    So I'm gonna try and enjoy the things I love about October and try not to worry about whether my seasonal depression will hit hard the second it's November as is sometimes wont to happen.

    BUT. I am also looking forward to trying to do the "31 Horror Movies in October" thing. I've already started putting together a mental list of things that I've been meaning to get around to watching.

    • CleverManka says:

      Yay scary movies! What's on your list so far?

      • Theo_Winterwood says:

        Off the top of my head (and with the disclaimer that I haven't seen any of these yet, so if they are terrible I don't know):- Stake Land (I'm not really a vampire person, but I feel like I've been told this was good?)- Let's Scare Jessica to Death- Lake Mungo- Fright Night (I have had the DVD on my shelf forever and haven't gotten around to it)- We Are What We Are- Last ShiftI swear there were others, but now I'm drawing a blank. Most of my to-watch list at the moment is admittedly where the Venn Diagram overlap is between “movies available to stream on Netflix” and “movies I vaguely remember people recommending.” (If anyone's seen any of the ones above and really doesn't recommend it, please let me know.)I will happily take any recommendations, though, if anyone's got any favorites. I could probably come up with a much longer list of movies I've already seen that I'll probably end up rewatching this month at some point 🙂

        • CleverManka says:

          The original Carrie is still so so SO good. Ugh, talk about a hard to watch movie. I was super let-down by the terrible re-make. Total waste of amazing actors, ugh.

          The Woman in Black is a fantastic ghost story and is visually gorgeous (also Crimson Peak), just ignore the last two minutes or so when they completely screw up the ending.

          I need to see Fright Night, too!

          • Theo_Winterwood says:

            I've been meaning to get around to Woman in Black but haven't–I don't really have many friends who watch horror films, so I hadn't been sure if it was worthwhile, but I'm a sucker for a visually gorgeous ghost story, so I will definitely have to check that out.(I actually ended up buying the two-pack of both Carrie movies about two years ago, because weirdly it was cheaper than either of them on their own–Then again, I'm probably the also the anomaly out there that didn't completely hate the 2013 one. I have a kind of strange relationship with Carrie, though, in that I will defend different things about the novel and both movies, while also having a bunch of things about all three that come up really short for me.)

          • CleverManka says:

            I didn't think Woman in Black was frightening (I'm only frightened by movies like Seven, ugh THE WORST), but there was one jump-scare bit that the lead-in was so incredibly perfect and beautiful. Ahhh! It really is a lovely movie and is definitely worthwhile, IMO.

            I could talk about Carrie A LOT so I understand completely.

          • Kazoogrrl says:

            Woman in Black scared the pants off of me, there is a lot of tension in that film.

          • CleverManka says:

            There is a lot of tension. I need to remember that most types of scary movie scares don't affect me when I talk to people about horror movies…Thank you for chiming in!

          • Theo_Winterwood says:

            I'm the weird kind of horror movie fan, where I watch them, but–assuming they're well-done at all–am definitely easily frightened.I'm the kind of jumpy where sometimes I startle when someone walks into a room and I didn't see/hear them come in, even if they weren't being quiet or sneaky, so I know that I will jump at most jump scares, but somehow that's made me have particularly high standards for what makes a genuinely good use of a jump scare vs. just an easy scare to make someone like me jump and go “aah!” So that makes me even more interested in seeing Woman in Black now :)I could talk about Carrie for pretty much ever too, probably. There's an audiobook version of the novel read by Sissy Spacek as well, actually, that I enjoyed. Her narration somehow softens some of the things that annoyed me about the text of the book, I think . . .

          • CleverManka says:

            You'll know that jump scare moment in Woman when you see it! I went with a friend who is a HUGE horror fan and when it finally hit (suuuuch a good lead-up), we turned to look at each other like
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        • damngoodcoffee says:

          I loved Lake Mungo- v. eerie!

  15. Lynn says:

    Yeah, I was definitely in the first batch (one of the only times in my life I was on my computer at exactly the right moment), and my coworker who ordered in the second batch doesn't have hers yet.

  16. Heathered says:

    October–whooo! Sort of. A witchy acquaintance pointed out that there's a black moon (second new moon in a month) tonight, and it's a great time to do a releasing ritual (e.g., make something to symbolize what you want to let go of, charge it with energy, burn it and let the ashes go into water moving away from you(the toilet is fine)). Took me a while to figure out what and how, but I think I'm going to do this tonight. Then, three months of my usual work, then quitting it and jumping into the void. Hopefully I get a little pumpkin spice action between now and then, either literally or as a euphemism for smooching, why not.

    • CleverManka says:

      I love the idea of flushing my problems down the toilet.

      • Heathered says:

        I realized I'm going to compost mine in hopes of transforming it into something useful rather than a full release, but hell yes, if I were you I'd send that energy dip right into the sewer system.

    • CheddarBiscuit says:

      Oh man, I cleared a bunch of old papers out of a file yesterday and was already planning on shredding them today, but now I'm going to think of it as a releasing ritual because it seems so much cooler.

    • LaxMom says:

      Reading this too late to actually do anything tonight, im exhausted. Do you think I could sneak it in tomorrow ? I am lying here in bed thinking I need to reframe a few things, this would be a good way to do it.

      • Heathered says:

        I totally think it's valid–the time between now and Halloween is ripe for that kind of reflection/reframing before seasonal hibernation and later emergence as butterflies (or whatever metaphor most pleases you).

  17. littleinfinity says:

    October is a hard NO for me. I love summer, and I'm spoiled because in SoCal we get a lot of it, but the time change and the impending darkness make me sad. I don't do well with the short days and long nights.

    Also I have a conference coming up in a few weeks that hopefully will go fine, but I get anxious about work trips :/

  18. Kazoogrrl says:

    I've also been doing my yearly "should I buy another pair if boots" online browsing (contemplating Blunderstones, though I know they are not as great as they used to be), and thinking about a crafting day to make bullroarers.

  19. CleverManka says:

    Y'all, I need to share this picture of the Burgomaster that someone in his writing group posted to FB this morning.

    I encouraged him to start wearing kilts a couple years ago and have s-lo-w-l-y helped teach him how to build a style and this is what he put together this morning all on his own! SO PROUD.
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  20. Onymous says:

    So I watched Man of Tai Chi, vaguely famous for being Keanu Reeves' directing debute and I mean the movie is fine it's just a kung fury flick but the basic plot is rich people fund underground fight club, TWIST it's not about a fight club it's about quote "taking a kind humble man of tai chi and watching him become a killer".

    But I mean either way, is that the most interesting thing rich people can think of to spend their money on? Paying some poor guy to beat people up until he becomes an asshole? This is sort of general problem. Rich people in movies are always being hedonistic in really boring ways.

    I'm just saying give me a billion dollars and there's gonna be exploding bears on flaming motorcycles. Flaming bears on exploding motorcycles at the very least.

  21. Onymous says:

    So my grandmother died last Friday, we all knew it was coming and I hadn't spoken to her in years and years so I love her but she was pretty abstract and I am just sort of whatever about it.
    BUT the following email chain:
    Great Aunt wrote:
    " Family….
    Just wanted to let all of the family know that [grandma] will be cremated and her ashes will be spread in the White Salmon River, at some point…per her wishes."

    Cousin once removed wrote:
    "Thanks, Aunt [N]. I wish I could be there.

    Here's an article of interest regarding the whole cremation and ashes thing:

    I hope the family can find a proper resting place for Aunt BJ's ashes, as believer's in the resurrection of the body. Let's also keep her in prayer!"

    Some guy I assume I am related to wrote:
    "[N] so sorry for your loss, and that we also cannot be there.
    Please follow HER wishes, and not those of someone wrapped up in their own personal melodrama!

    Some times I forget that half my mother's side is so (BIG C) Catholic they will get in shouting matches if one of them says the phrase "guardian angel"

    Also excellent use of Namaste, good job guy.

  22. Räven says:

    On the upside, I'm going to the Maker Faire tomorrow? I am looking forward to it, but already pre-exhausted, and I didn't get around to making clever portable food so argh.

    • Heathered says:

      When will science find a cure for pre-exhaustion? I hope you rally and have a good time.

      • Räven says:

        RIGHT? Someone should be working on this problem!!
        No, I'm really excited, but it's going to be raining and it's going to be really crowded and most of it is outside and my shoes will be muddy and there's nowhere to sit but the lawn and, and. And somehow the guide to all the makers doesn't tell you which zone they are in, which, just, WHY. HOW. HOW WILL I FIND ANYONE. that said, really I have been and am looking forward to it!

        • Doc_Paradise says:

          Someone there ought to be able to make a robot for that…

          • Räven says:

            I KNOW RIGHT?
            No, I had a good time, it was great. I was there half the day and had seen everyone I came to see *that I could find*, plus been surprised by two really nifty projects I didn't know. I met two cool artists and a gorgeous designer. And I did not run into my ex! Okay only because I was fast, and ducked out of the arduino tent before he looked up.
            Overall, the day was a win.
            For real, though, at the zone 3 information booth: hey do you know where beagle board are set up? Info: they're in zone 3, yes! Me: yes that is why I came to you! but do you know which pavilion, do you have a booth map, I didn't see them? Info: do you have the app? The app will tell you! Me: that isn't true, the app doesn't even say zone 3….
            Apparently none of the map information had loaded into the app before the faire started. Lol. It's all fixed for today, but today I am not in queens. IT IS A TECH FAIR, HELD AT A SCIENCE MUSEUM. Whyyyyyyy.

          • CleverManka says:

            I'm so glad you had a good time and that the app tech fail was the worst of it.

          • Räven says:

            🙂 and I realize that's a huge first-world whine, but honestly, it's a first world tech fair and tickets are not cheap. It isn't too much to expect a map.

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