Friday Open Thread

Clever Manka, · Categories: Open Thread

So. How was your week?

118 Responses to “Friday Open Thread”

  1. woof says:

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    MANKA HI. I'm so sorry i haven't been coming around but i finally made it to your OT! I'm so glad this place is still going, how're you?

  2. vladazhael says:

    Aside from all the stress I'm not feeling emotionally deciding to manifest as physical symptoms instead, my week has been great. This guy I've been texting obsessively even likes Hamilton. THIS IS NOT A DRILL.

  3. Kazoogrrl says:

    Exhausting. So I'm putting some links to things that are catching my eye this week.

    The Carlsberg beer ad with Mads. I finally get to hear him say hygge (and snuggly):

    This amazing band a friend recommended, DakhaBrakha. Their NPR Tiny Desk Concert is amazing, and they are on Spotify for those who use it:

    The Love Song of William J O'Reilly is . . . gold.

    • Kazoogrrl says:

      Also, last week the American Gods at Bard event:

      – Upstate NY is so lovely, and out air b-n-b was fantastic. The company was also good, I went with three friends I was very glad to spend time with, and we spent a delightful Saturday afternoon at Hudson Valley Distillers (great drinks, great bartender, excellent snacks including the best veggie burger I've ever had)

      – The Fannibal meet-up was nice but odd, I'm having Thoughts* about people and their relationship to fandoms/creators that are ricocheting off ideas I've had recently about my dance troupe. *these thoughts are also bouncing off ideas about constructive criticism vs trolling vs never being critical of creators, especially of fanfic, thoughts that would probably make me fandom unpopular

      – The first ep of AG was fantastic, though there is some troubling/triggering imagery at the end that I hope they explain/build on/something because it's very relevant to our times. I can explain further if people want. The acting and directing is A++ and I'm looking forward to the rest. The Bilquis scene? It's all there.

      – The Q&A w/ Neil and Bryan was tops. Sadly didn't stick around to meet Bryan with the Fannibals, my friend was over people, am now kicking myself for not giving her the car keys and lurking for a bit.

      • CleverManka says:

        So glad you are (mostly) pleased with the AG stuff! YAY! Also, yes, thoughts on fandom and how people do it. *sigh* Tumblr has been amazing for fandom, but it's also been so…well. I hate using the term "problematic" but…yeah.

        • Kazoogrrl says:

          Someone posted a "you can never criticize fanfic because people pour their hearts into it" thing, and oh I disagree. You should not be a jerk or troll, or be mean. But constructive criticism, I'm all for it. Or fact corrections, I say yes to those too. My thoughts: if you put it in a public place, then people get to engage with it how they want and you can't control that. Hopefully no one is an asshole, but it may happen.

          Side thoughts: Recently it seemed some people were thinking of pulling their fics for low engagement, then a person in social media responded that they ran some numbers on kudos/comments in AO3 and the response/engagement is something social media folk live for. It made me think, you cannot both tell people how to respond to your work and complain that people are not responding to your work in the numbers you want.

          Am I an unsympathetic former English major with a mean streak? Probably.

          Second side note: I am also a part of a fandom that is in and of itself full of problematic material, so if people try to police that? Good effin' luck.

        • meat_lord says:

          Man, my experience with Tumblr fandom has been….profoundly disheartening and disturbing. *sigh x 2*

          • CleverManka says:

            I'm super lucky that my main/home fandom is super chill and friendly (and small) and we have only one troublesome person that everybody knows about (there's even a Tumblr blog named for them out of humorous spite). But I'm also pretty ruthless about unfollowing people who reblog drama. Even if they're not involved, I still unfollow because nobody needs that shit on their dash for real. If you want to, I hope you find a way to enjoy Tumblr. It can be a lot of pretty if you can just get to it safely.

          • Kazoogrrl says:

            There is currently a blog all about pointing out that they think the fan run Hannibal con in Toronto in Nov is a scam. It's both ridiculous and amusing at the same time. There is a none whackjob in the fandom that everyone avoids.

    • CleverManka says:

      I love Tiny Desk Concerts! Thank you for the link!

  4. Lynn says:

    Did your day get any better, yesterday, Manka?

    Literally minutes after I commented here Wednesday about how much I liked our air mattress, boyfriend texted me that there was a big rip in it. We went ahead and ordered a new one because we need it for guests but , like, it seriously couldn't last six more days?

    I picked a fight with my boyfriend over cleaning habits yesterday. We got over it but I really don't understand why he thinks my leaving coffee cups in the place I was actually drinking from it is the same thing as carrying a dirty plate and wadded up paper towel into the kitchen – and then setting it on the counter, a foot from both the sink and the trash can. Am I wrong? Isn't the second thing objectively more annoying?

    • CleverManka says:

      Literally minutes after I commented here Wednesday about how much I liked our air mattress, boyfriend texted me that there was a big rip in it.
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      Also, you are not wrong. Like, at all.
      (oh, also, it didn't get better then, but it is better now yaaaaay!)

    • Absotively says:

      That sucks about the air mattress.

      I think you might be wrong about the cleaning, not because the second thing isn't objectively annoying, but just because my dad used to do the first thing and the coffee cups grew mold, so I think maybe they're about equal.

      Of course, the coffee cups aren't a problem if you or someone else cleans them before they grow mold, but then the same argument could apply to the plates. Perhaps the issue actually hinges on who is cleaning up the abandoned dishes.

      • Lynn says:

        That's fair. I think part of the issue is I usually make at least one sweep a week through the house (usually on Sundays and the coffee cups are from that weekend) , picking up after myself but also actually cleaning (wiping down counters, vacuuming, etc.) and when he gets around to cleaning up after himself literally all he will do is throw the paper towel away and put the dish in the dishwasher. So I don't understand why he pauses his cleanup if that's all he's going to do and he doesn't understand that I didn't put the coffee cup away because I'm going to spend an hour or two cleaning *everything * later.

        As I like to say, he is "neater" than I am, but I am "cleaner" than he is.

    • Heathered says:

      NO! I'm so sorry, it feels like I hexed it by complaining about their poppability. UGH.

      • Lynn says:

        Eh I probably did it by bragging about how reliable ours was.

        Actually it's *really* the fault of the company cleaning our furniture, as if they hadn't taken twice as long as their original estimate we wouldn't have had to sit on it for six weeks and wear it out. (Or if they'd been honest about the time required originally we would have rented a couch for a month.)

    • CheddarBiscuit says:

      I don't think you're wrong. My husband will regularly take his plate and debris into the kitchen, past the trash, leave it on the counter directly above the dishwasher, and walk away. It mystifies me.

  5. CleverManka says:

    OH MY GOD Y'ALL. What. A. Fiasco.

    So. Yesterday, the worst day of my job (so far) in sixteen years turned out to amount to absolutely nothing. Those of you who watched the first two seasons of BBC Sherlock remember the pool scene cliffhanger and then the opening scene of Season 2 was Moriarty going "eh, nvm" well that's basically what happened. I can't give details (tragically) but it was just…I came in to work this morning dreading my email and then there's this message that pretty much means the whole fraught situation was over NOTHING and I'm like *blink*blink*. Welp.

    But of course I got no sleep last night over it and even after I fell asleep, I woke up at 3:30 starving because of course I hadn't been able to eat much all day and I'm just so so so done with everything but fucking huzzah the student isn't going to suffer needlessly and everything all worked out for the best and s2g I couldn't make this shit up. Really wish I could tell details so you could be angry with me at ACADEMIC FACULTY but whatevs. It's done and over and no lasting damage.
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  6. Flitworth says:

    Met with social workers who come by every month to check in on us and the tiny human. Feedback on the biofam never does my blood pressure any favors.

    Today we have two different de-leading contractors coming to do estimates.

  7. Doc_Paradise says:

    Thank you EVERYONE who sent me birthday wishes last week. You are all wonderful!

    It has been a good week for me. My birthday weekend was lovely. LOVELY! The card my best friend gave me summed up the whole thing: a heart surrounding the words "May you know you are loved". Therapy is going well. I'm writing. My arms are developing muscles. Muscles! Fuck… I want another tattoo. I feel like celebrating.

    BTW… does anybody have exercise advice for reducing the size of one's bust line?

    • meat_lord says:

      I'm so glad you've had such a great week and birthday! Congrats on muscles and writing!

    • CleverManka says:

      I'm so glad you had a great birthday! MUSCLES FUCK YEAH.

      Sorry to not have helpful info, but when I was lifting, my boobs got a little smaller but only because I was also dropping fat. Any visual difference was counterbalanced by the additional mass of my pecs, though. Soooo….

      • Doc_Paradise says:


        I've never really had muscles. This is very cool.

        Ah well. That's something. I am converting fat to muscle (slowly… thank goodness. I can't afford to drop weight quickly.) so we will see what happens.

    • redheadfae says:

      BTW… does anybody have exercise advice for reducing the size of one's bust line?

      If you find any, share them.

      • Doc_Paradise says:

        So far the only possibilities I've got are: 1) anything that promotes general weight loss, 2) push ups, 3) bench presses.

        I'm going to try the push ups and bench presses (and other upper chest exercises) since that also aligns with my goal of having a muscular upper body. That said, increasing muscles on my pectorals may have the inverse effect of making breasts look bigger simply because the muscles underneath are bigger. We'll see how it goes.

  8. Flitworth says:

    I want these kittens

    I was campaigning husband to get them, arguing that we would get kittens and TH's biofam would have kittens over it.

    I got a tweet liked by a musician I dig!

  9. CleverManka says:

    OMG THOSE KITTENS but seriously that frozen kale info is super helpful and I'm sending that to one of my gardening friends thank you!

    • Flitworth says:

      VEB's whole blog is pretty fun if you are looking for a good read. She started veering into PETA-style rants occasionally but I quite like her and her fixation with Giant Fancy Things (GFTs).

      • Doc_Paradise says:

        That was a rather incredible amount of kale… her freezer must take up a significant portion of her house.

        • Flitworth says:

          Chest freezers can handle 1 adult human corpse of average size or 10-15 laundry baskets of shredded, packed kale. Despite these incredibly useful and far more human-scale ways of depicting the usefulness of a chest freezer, they usually give the dimensions in inches.

          • Kazoogrrl says:

            No no, the human corpse scale works perfectly for me.

          • Absotively says:

            Are you sure? I think most of the chest freezers I've encountered could fit two average size adult human corpses. It's not like they're not going to complain if they're a bit squished together.

            But perhaps I just know people who buy large chest freezers.

          • CleverManka says:

            I was thinking the same thing. Like, my old chest freezer could definitely have fit me and a smaller friend.

          • Flitworth says:

            I was thinking of the residential-ish one we have. Certainly, my grandmother could have fit at least two in each of hers.

          • Doc_Paradise says:


            That is literally all you would have to put in a cover letter to get me to hire you as a minion.

    • CleverManka says:

      I…have no idea why this didn't post to Flitworth's original comment? Nice to see IntenseDebate is back up to its old tricks. Feels like old times. Yaaaay.

  10. Heathered says:

    It's sunny out! I was able to buy groceries and am now procrastinating on the tiny bit of work I have. A strange cat was cooing at me and rubbing up against the screen door & I'm very tempted to slip it a Friskie and see what happens. Oh, and I'm trying to figure out any and all ways to reduce the size of uterine fibroids, since mine are so numerous and voluminous it's like I'm carrying a 4 month old fetus. Drinking coffee isn't helping, but it's the only antidepressant I've got, so this is going to be interesting.

    • CleverManka says:

      I'm very tempted to slip it a Friskie and see what happens
      Are you in the market for a new cat?

      Best of wishes with the fibroids. They told me the only/best way to reduce mine was to go on HBC and that wasn't guaranteed to work. It's why I opted for the hysterectomy. Ugh. Best wishes, bb. That is a lot of not fun.

      • Heathered says:

        I'm not allowed pets where I live, but the landlord accidentally RoundUpped my nasturtiums and this cat was literally trying to Star Trek itself through the screen and into my lap, so I was very tempted. I'll figure out the other thing–it was a relief just to understand why people would go in for a look and need to comment on how HUGE MY UTERUS IS. Like, what's the right response to that? Thank you? I'm sorry? I think I can get them down in size because I am a new age freak, but to get the energy to do a billion affirmations with no caffeine…will require a whole other set of affirmations. Affirmative clusterfuck.

    • Flitworth says:

      My friend acquired a cat with taquitos once. I witnessed it.

      • Heathered says:

        That's like a children's book waiting to be written. SkippyJon Jones just felt a goose walk over his grave.

  11. meat_lord says:

    I stayed up very late last night, which was a fun but ill-advised decision, and oh god I can't wait to get done with work. TIRED. Can't focus. Brain is filled with itchy fog.

    Related to the above: Has anyone here played Deadly Premonition? I'm only a little way into it, and it is just a deeply, deeply batshit game. It's like Twin Peaks, if Twin Peaks was a video game made by Tommy Wiseau.

    • CleverManka says:

      Oh, those fun-but-ill-advised-decisions. I do love a good poor choice once in a while.

    • vladazhael says:

      It's like Twin Peaks, if Twin Peaks was a video game made by Tommy Wiseau.

      I'm not sure how to feel about this other than delighted at the metaphor.

      • meat_lord says:

        I'm not sure how to feel either. This is a very bad game (UI, combat, game mechanics, graphics, writing) but it's very entertaining. It's hilarious, but ….not on purpose.

    • Lee Thomson says:

      is it button mashing or puzzles? I love the puzzle things, but get stuck every time it speed is required.

      May your afternoon pass quickly and smoothly, and respite arrive soon!

      • meat_lord says:

        It seems to be more along the line of exploring your environment + combat, but there may be puzzles in the future.


  12. Lee Thomson says:

    It has rained three nights running, and the river is high and the puddles are deep and all that rain actually makes me pretty happy, and also (for no good reason) incredibly productive.

    I got two pieces accepted a show in Ohio, and I am debating driving out (from Mass…) for the Quilt Surface Design Symposium that goes with. There are all these classes I am tempted by, when what i really need is to stand in my room and bash stuff together.

    A handful of excellent children worked so hard and well that the set for Tempest is basically done. the rest of it is fabric, and I am teaching three kids about sewing and fabric. Honestly it makes me feel like a wizard. But also watching Hellen Mirren in Taymor's 2010 Tempest also makes me feel like a wizard, so.

    I think I'm gonna go get another beer. I had one with my dad at lunch and it was perfect, but starting to wear off.

  13. LaxMom says:

    So two weeks till finals, guess whose laptop died?? Oh, and autocorrect just tried to correct "whose" to "Maori", what?

    Yeah, so I did a minimum amount of crying, went into campus, did minimum there with no data. Am debating feeling guilty over backing out of spending Sunday at the lacrosse tournament, because I either need to be moving, packing, or doing homework, and I just remembered it would be a whole day spent with EX and i dont really want to spend time with him now.
    The laptop may be fixable with a dremel? And I have a spare battery so it's nore like in laptop ICU but still the timing sucks. I met with my advisor fortuitously and solved her GIS problem, and I don't care that it's nice out, before I do anything else im taking a nap to regroup. Then I may go to my mom's to check on the laptop and buy paint for the new house.

  14. Lee Thomson says:

    This woman is my new inspiration for aging – the hell with the Red Hat brigade (to demonstrate your individuality, you wear a red hat a la the overused poem "When I am an old woman…")

    • LaxMom says:

      Omg, this explains so much of my attitude this past year. I've begun recreationally swearing at strangers in my car just for venting/practice, which I haven't done in years. Unfortunately this clashes with me ever wanting to date again. Bitchy is winning.

      • Lee Thomson says:

        yes. I have been yielding to the urge to minimize aggravation, and if it shows up, rebuke it roundly. It has been invigorating. Mr. Crow suggests it is an outlet for repressed rage at the current president, which made me yelp with astonishment and amusement in the middle of brunch today.

    • CleverManka says:

      Oh my goodness that is getting included on the Thursday Dump and how.

  15. redheadfae says:

    I had the obligatory first sesh with the therapy person and no warning flags raised, I only teared up once, at the mention of being bipolar and holding it together this long and we'll see how it goes.
    My dryer went on the fritz, leaving me no clean DRY socks and cold weather again, but .. I survived, and I WILL color my hair this weekend. So there's that.
    Red AND purple.

  16. Onymous says:

    Went to the Albuquerque March for science petted all the dogs.

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