Open Thread

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Amy’s back is out again (please send her good vibes!) so there’s no history lesson this week and I have an appointment with Dr. Sexy this morning. Homeroom talk time!

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  1. Onymous says:

    I watched Trolls on Saturday.

    What I did not realize going in is that the 'bad guys' are all desperately chronically depressed, which I did not realize until the very god damn end of the movie because it spends it's focus on a deeply unhappy troll with the obvious external stressor of being a member of a species that is regularly eaten.

    So then the denouement hits: the bergens depression strikes me with out an hour and a half of movie to ease into it. The one-two punch of sudden self recognition and follow up inescapable question of 'why can't it be that easy for me' basically wrecked my god damn shit.

    Just you know fair warning for people who see it on Netflix and think "oh yes people described it as a 90 minute acid trip and I like a lot of Dreamworks' works". It's not like a secretly heavy movie but it's got a very specific knife.

  2. CleverManka says:

    Aaaaand guess who got her appointment time wrong and has to go back for her actually-at-noon appointment?
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    • meat_lord says:

      Oh, what a pain. I hate when that happens.

      • CleverManka says:

        At least it wasn't the other way around? Showing up at noon for a 9am appointment would definitely be worse.

        Now I just need to remember my Thursday appointment really is at 9am.

    • CleverManka says:

      I finished Miss Fisher's, though! I enjoyed the series, although I wasn't expecting the occasional appalling mis-steps in regards to race stuff (I don't know why I wasn't, but I wasn't) and during the episode with the intersex character there were a few moments where I physically cringed.

      This week I'm marathoning The Get Down which I believe will have fewer moments like that. I think?

    • RoseCamelia says:

      How frustrating! I hope it doesn't tire you too much.

  3. meat_lord says:

    Hi, y'all! This weekend I went to a friend's wedding in LA. It was a delightful trip, featuring, among other things, a rosewater iced latte, alarmingly friendly squirrels, bouquets in Erlenmeyer flasks, and a whole lot of laughter. I really have a good feeling about my old pal's new life with his awesome wife; I think they're going to be very happy together. Makes me all sappy :')

    However, I forgot the specific type of Christian that both of them are, and so I was surprised mid-ceremony by that godawful "wives, be subservient to your husbands" crap. The preacher officiating the ceremony tried to put a modern, not-sexist spin on it, but that it made it worse somehow.

    Oh well, still a lovely trip! I'll put a T update in a subcomment.

    • CleverManka says:

      The preacher officiating the ceremony tried to put a modern, not-sexist spin on it, but that it made it worse somehow.
      Ugh, yeah, that would be worse. Just…leave it out, ya know?

    • meat_lord says:

      T stuff: It's been three months on a steady dose of 50 mg/week, and my voice is definitely for realsies starting to crack đŸ˜€ I didn't expect to be quite so thrilled about it changing. I sound ridiculous and I am very happy about it. I think the initial hungry/horny/irritable trifecta is subsiding. I'm still pretty dang hungry, but it's less overwhelming than it originally was.

      Subcutaneous injections are the way to go if you're taking testosterone, IMO. Intramuscular injections seem to be more painful & easier to botch. If you use the topical gel, you have to make sure not to get it on anyone else, which seemed like a level of hassle I wasn't prepared for. There's also a patch, which you're supposed to leave on all the time. Some people swear by it, but some people say it feels like wearing a dirty Band-Aid (eeewwww) and I think I'd be in that camp. ETA: In general, insurance is less willing to pay for the topical products, but if you have a good healthcare provider they can fight for you to have them.

      That said, almost everyone gets redness and itchiness at T injection sites. I definitely do. It's annoying, but it's something I am more than willing to put up with.

    • RoseCamelia says:

      Subservient. How hard did you roll your eyes? Did anyone squirm visibly?

      Mr Rose asked our officiating minister to do a mostly traditional Protestant ceremony. But warned him. If there's anything the slightest bit sexist, his bride would laugh loudly and walk out, with her groom close behind her.

    • RoseCamelia says:

      Congratulations on your voice change!

    • vladazhael says:

      that godawful "wives, be subservient to your husbands" crap

      I encountered that once at a wedding that I thought wasn't going to be religious but very, very much was. I heard the sexist nonsense and my vision sort of telescoped and I didn't realize I was rising up out of my seat until I felt my at-the-time boyfriend's hand on my leg and looked over to see the "please don't take a swing at the minister" look on his face.

    • MLISCostFan says:

      Retroactively waves at your flights as they travelled over head. I live in LA county.

  4. Rillquiet says:

    One of my favorite dance partners referred to the Planters Peanutmobile that cruised past on Sunday as "the creature from the black legume," and my crush may now be visible from space.

  5. RoseCamelia says:

    When the movers were packing, Mr Rose found a stray DVD on the floor. The man who had just taped up the box of DVDs apologized for missing it. But Mr Rose said it's ok. Then they started laughing. The DVD title: The Forgotten

  6. Lynn says:

    Hey y'all. Lovely commenters who have had hysterectomies/partial hysterectomies/ovectomies I could use some advice (specifics in reply).

    • Lynn says:

      So one of the side plots of this "we aren't going to know what we're dealing with until we get in there" surgery is that I need to tell my surgeon how aggressive I want him to be if it is cancer. And given my age the doctors all phrase it as a decision about my future fertility which I don't really care about (I have always been ambivalent at best to the idea of having biological children). But it suddenly occurred to me yesterday that I do kind of care about being forced into early menopause especially since I'm not going to know for sure it's happening until I wake up from surgery. (I realize this seems super contradictory given I do not care about my fertility but this goes back to my control issues.)

      So I could really use some thoughts from people who have gone through gynecological surgery and been immediately menopausal in the aftermath — was it awful? was it worth it? How bad were the symptoms even with provided hormones?

      • RoseCamelia says:

        I'm sorry. I hate not knowing. Limbo is torture.

        And I'm sorry I can't help here. My hysterectomy allowed me to keep my ovaries where they belong. And even if they'd been removed, I'd be on-schedule for menopause, at my age. It's coming for me any day now.


        • Lynn says:

          Thanks. I know one ovary is probably 99% certainly going (even if it's just endometriosis it's so huge they won't be able to remove it without taking the ovary). So it's basically whether or not the other one goes. Which is where I get stuck.

      • CleverManka says:

        If you can keep one of the ovaries, I'd recommend doing so–as long as it's not going to endanger your health later. Menopause takes a fuckin' toll on your brain and your body, and the longer you can put it off the better. I got to keep both my ovaries, but the surgeon said they were on their last legs and I was probably already in peri-menopause.

        TBH I felt so terrible before the surgery, health-wise, that I really didn't feel all that worse afterward.

    • Absotively says:

      If you're on the Slack, maybe see if there's a channel there where it would make sense to ask this? I don't know of a specific channel to ask, but the Slack seems to have a lot of people and a lot of fairly specific channels, so I wouldn't be at all surprised if there's one that would suit.

  7. vladazhael says:

    Project for anyone with the time and energy: CALL YOUR SENATORS, U.S. FRIENDS! And maybe a few other senators, especially those who are wavering. This health care bill is a shitshow and my family stands to suffer for it.

  8. ru_ri says:

    I sat this morning, thanks to Manka and y'all (thank you!). And realized I definitely need to make a habit of it. So if anyone wants to join, I'll be sitting from 7:30 to 8 ayem EST every day for the next two weeks, just to see how it goes. No need to comment either way but the very possibility that Mankanites will be sitting too is going to help me stick to this program.

    I found a 12-inch Copco enamel-lined cast iron pan with lid at a secondhand store last weekend. Forty bucks seemed like a lot at the time but it was like new and I have been enjoying it *so much*! Small pleasures.

    After three kinda crappy Tinder dates (not even bad enough to have a good story! But lousy enough to make me sad) I have turned off the app, canceled all current conversations, and resolved to meet prospective partners some other way. I just can't spend the time and energy on that shit.

    • MLISCostFan says:

      As part of the sleepy West Coast contingent, I will join you on a time delay when I get to re-starting my kata practice.

    • Lee Thomson says:

      I'm delighted to hear of others pleased with cast iron pans – they seem so useful for so many things, including as a weapon in a pinch!

      • ru_ri says:

        They make excellent close-range weapons, indeed. Although this one is so large that it's a little unwieldy. I've been sauteing vegetables in mine and they've turned out really tasty!

        • Räven says:

          I cook almost everything in mine. I just leave it on the stovetop. Very good for things like fish and mushrooms where you want a really hot pan. I wish mine was a little lighter, but not enough to invest in a second indestructible pan.

  9. CleverManka says:

    I'm back from my appointment (mostly fine, we're tweaking a couple things) and got hit with a freaky anti-social hammer like wow. Really unusual for me to not even want to be on social media. Ugh, very unsettling. I'll check in every hour or so to approve any comments, but other than that, um…I'm abandoning my own party? Sorry, y'all!
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  10. MLISCostFan says:

    I survived the birthday lunches/dinners this past week. Yummy end with a fruit sushi roll.

  11. Lee Thomson says:

    my nam is lee
    i'm growing old
    i go to sleep
    wen i am told
    i crawl upstairs
    slep like im ded
    i drool and snore
    i lik the bed

    also the boat is boat shaped, with the wires holding the planks together sticking out all over it like some kind of deranged copper wire hedgehog. Now, we glue. Photos here:

    and I am shopping for a random orbital sander and two lawn chairs to overlook the boat construction when I need a break.

  12. ru_ri says:

    Hey, that looks like a real BOAT! Congratulations! Somehow I thought it would be more miniature, but you're going to have a proper seaworthy vessel when you're done. (Well, maybe more lake- and river-worthy, but still–BOAT!)

    • Lee Thomson says:

      It is HUGE!?! I mean I knew it said 15 feet but still I had failed to understand the rest of it. I think it is also good for shallow salt water – so coastal puttering and gunkholing (sounds obscene, right? It means exploring shallow waters. Although my first sentence describing it was "in and out of small harbors on the coast" which also makes me snerk if I think too hard about it.)

      • ru_ri says:

        "Gunkholing" is a new word for me. I love it! The perfect way to Take to the Sea…

      • Räven says:

        Yes, that's as wide as my bedroom! Well, as long as my br is wide. I was also imagining it would be more like half that size. You're not even going to have to hang your sign, everyone will easily see that you are a builder of boats.

  13. Flitworth says:

    Does anyone know how to tell when green gooseberries are ripe? Google is not helpful. I need whoever knows to come over and eat some of these for me. F'ing gooseberries.

    with love

    • ru_ri says:

      They get softer–you don't wanna eat 'em squishy, but there should be some give when you squeeze. If in doubt, taste one. If it puckers your tongue, they're not ripe yet.

      ETA: Gooseberry jam is WONDERFUL if you need to do something with them–also they make a nice syrup.

      • Flitworth says:

        I feel like this is going to be like f'ing avocados and they're going to be unripe today and rotting tomorrow. Every. Day.

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