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Make your own tiny, too witches portable magick kit.
Google search results are the truth serum of our times.
If people consistently tell us what they think we want to hear, we will generally be told things that are more comforting than the truth. Digital truth serum, on average, will show us that the world is worse than we have thought.
But there are at least three ways this knowledge can improve our lives. First, there can be comfort in knowing you are not alone in your insecurities and embarrassing behaviour. Google searches can help show you are not alone. When you were young, a teacher may have told you that if you have a question you should raise your hand and ask it, because if you’re confused, others are too. If you were anything like me, you ignored your teacher and sat there silently, afraid to open your mouth. Your questions were too dumb, you thought; everyone else’s were more profound. The anonymous, aggregate Google data can tell us once and for all how right our teachers were.
Because I can’t post enough about emotional and domestic labor: a Captain Awkward column from 2013, and a more recent Bitch Media piece.
“We Remember Your Childhood Well,” a poem about childhood trauma and a lengthy analysis of the piece.
Grounding techniques for people in emotional pain.
I’m 99.9% sure The-Toast ran an essay that talked about Marjorie Hillis’s 1939 book Live Alone and Like It, and it was nice to see it referenced again in The Billfold this week:
Hillis is right when she notes that “the notion that it ‘doesn’t matter because nobody sees you’ with the dull meals and dispirited clothes” is not helpful. Loneliness isn’t a problem for me, but letting things slide when I’m alone, like making proper meals and wearing non-ratty clothes, is. Live Alone and Like It is a helpful reminder that treating your time alone like a treat is worth it. And it does make a difference — I feel very pleased with myself whenever I put on my new nightgown or enjoy breakfast in bed. I still have areas to improve (hobbies), but I like to think that Hillis would be proud.
I can see, though, how quickly costs can add up when you’re justifying purchases in this way, like how the Parks and Recreation mantra of “treat yo’ self” has become a consumerist slogan used to sell everything from candles to handbags. In her second book, Orchids on Your Budget, Hillis advises adhering to a practical monthly budget. Writing during the Great Depression, she was certainly familiar with the need to watch one’s money carefully. Much of her advice is very fun—liquor! impractical bedroom garments!—but without the solid foundation of realistic money management that she also espouses (and which it’s easy to overlook in favor of the part about cocktails), my life would take a quick trip to Bankruptcy Town. As someone quite fond of the “treat yo’ self” ethos, this is the most important lesson I take from my experiment.
In 1995, Clifford Stoll accurately predicted the general shittiness of people on the internet and apparently he still hasn’t been forgiven for that. Don’t read this if you’re already feeling down on humanity and don’t need more evidence for despair. I wonder if there were many women’s voices in the mockery of Stoll’s pessimism. I think his bleak vision is pretty spot on: Your word gets out, leapfrogging editors and publishers. Every voice can be heard cheaply and instantly. The result? Every voice is heard. The cacophony more closely resembles citizens band radio, complete with handles, harassment, and anonymous threats. When most everyone shouts, few listen. If you read the article and need a pick-me-up after, this might be a good option.
Menstrual-friendly boxer briefs for everyone!
For those who have the spoons, Fandom Trumps Hate has a daily activism guide.
Black goth men are dispelling the myth of hypermasculinity.
Outside of the subculture, (black men) are expected to be strong, emotionless, fearless, hypersexual in addition to entertaining. Zaria Cornwall states, in Toxic Hypermasculinity: a Discussion for Black Men, that they are “not allowed to be emotional beings, and they are definitely not allowed to identify as queer lest they be ‘exposed’.” Though the goth subculture lifts the pressure off these men, their image is still not as present in the scene as black women. That is not to say they are smaller in number; rather, their appearance in media is quieter. A simple search of hashtags #blackgoth or #afrogoth on Pinterest or Instagram will show that black women outnumber men by a long shot. Could more visibility of black goth men help promote other modes of positive self-expression? We will explore how an increased presence of black goth men in the media could challenge images of hypermasculinity.
NPR’s list of the 150 greatest albums made by women. I’m ignoring the fact that many of these include mixed groups like The Carpenters and Sonic Youth. Nice to see a few albums from my own collection included that aren’t very well-known (Ofra Haza, The Roches, Against Me!) and a good listening list for future additions.
I’ve talked up MyNoise.net several times (also Calmyleon), and I’m pleased to recommend a new(ish) resource by the same person. Purrli mimics a purring cat, with adjustable settings. Please note Purrli and Calmyleon have auto-loading sound.
Women’s Voices Now! Free streaming movies by women!