Friday Open Thread

Clever Manka, · Categories: Open Thread

I barely made it through this week (I am queuing this post on Thursday and I don’t know for sure that I’m going to make it to work on Friday).

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159 Responses to “Friday Open Thread”

  1. CleverManka says:

    I'm at work, but barely. It was touch and go this morning. The only thing that got me out of bed was I need to save my precious sick time for the day(s) after the Kesha concert next month.

    I'd like to see a matinee of the new Kingsman movie this weekend but I need to prioritize eating Actual Vegetables which means going to the grocery store (and then doing something with the vegetables). Tonight's my first experiment with the sleeping medication, though, so who knows, I might wake tomorrow refreshed and invigorated enough to go to a movie and the grocery store! Wouldn't that be something!

    BTW, Amy's not able to write a history post for Monday. If anyone wants to send me something to put up, that's cool, but no pressure. If I don't get anything to post, I'll put up an open thread.

    • meat_lord says:

      You're going to a Kesha concert next month? AWESOME. Crossing my fingers and pre-emptively sending you good health & energy vibes for that! Also, best of luck with the sleep meds! I hope they prove effective.

    • RoseCamelia says:

      Congratulations on getting to work. I know each successive detail of getting dressed and out the door was discouraging, costing emotional as well as physical energy. Nevertheless she persisted. It's a real accomplishment.

      Yes, Actual Vegetables are a priority. But the personal energy in going to the store and doing something with them can be considered optional.

      It is possible for someone else to bring you veggies. It is possible to make said veggies tasty in labor-saving ways. Unless the shopping and food prep are personal pleasures, consider delegating them to willing friends.

      The Kingsman matinee will be a reward for responsible delegation. Unless shopping and cooking are better rewards.

      • CleverManka says:

        each successive detail of getting dressed and out the door was discouraging, costing emotional as well as physical energy
        Thank you for perfectly understanding and putting that into words, yes. And then I get here and every minute I spend with my ON switch flipped at the office is a minute I don't have to be ON doing things I want to do. Discouraging.

        The Burgomaster is obviously physically capable of going to the store, but has no training on how to pick the good stuff. I enjoy grocery shopping as well as cooking so there's the extra insult-to-injury my not being able to do it lately. And I'll admit I'm incredibly spoiled by my own cooking (not to brag, but…) so having others cook for me is not something I'm thrilled to try. Come to think of it, pretty sure I'm the only one of my close, local friends who cooks for enjoyment as well as necessity. There's a reason I'm the Will Bring Food For All friend.

        That said, I think more than the usual amount of pre-washed, packaged vegs are going in the cart than usual this time. Thank gods for bagged baby kale.

        • meat_lord says:

          Pre-washed, packaged veggies are a goddamn lifesaver.

        • RoseCamelia says:

          I was thinking of veggie prep plans that limit your time investment, like one-dish casseroles or stir-fry. You can be the head chef and delegate the veggie washing, peeling, chopping to sous chefs. You still get to assemble the ingredients with your own hands, do the stirring over the fry pan, etc.

        • littleinfinity says:

          Do you have Instacart or similar services where you are? I'm not sure if that's only a big city thing so far, but I have a couple of friends who have been singing the praises of grocery delivery lately. Apparently you pick what you want from the store website and they go get it for you, and they will text you if there's any question (e.g. "you wanted baby kale but they only have dino kale, is that ok").

          • Kazoogrrl says:

            I was talking about this in the Wed thread, where Manka and I were united in our veggie selecting particular-ness. I'm going to let go and let God, I mean, try to delegate this to a delivery service. It's going to be hard.

          • littleinfinity says:

            Oh I missed that! Yeah, I have my doubts about the veggie selecting too (and I haven't tried any of these services so I can't speak for them). Let me know if it ends up working out for you!

          • Kazoogrrl says:

            Will report back! There is Instacart, Peapod, a local store's version, and Amazon delivery. They all hurt my soul a little because I WANT to hit the farmer's market first thing Sat morning, but I've been using that for playing with the dog, and drinking coffee while knitting. I am my own worst critic.

          • Absotively says:

            It's ok! You have a limited number of Saturday mornings, and a large number of potential Saturday morning activities, and it's ok if the farmer's market generally isn't quite a high enough priority to wedge its way in there. You are spending your time on other things that are important and rejuvenating for you, and there's nothing wrong with that.

          • Kazoogrrl says:

            I think the hard thing is I want to go to the farmer's market, but it's just the Thing That Does Not Happen, Except Occasionally. Now that we have the Dog Clock, I'm even up early enough to avoid the crowd, but sitting around drinking coffee? Too tempting.

          • CleverManka says:

            I used to subscribe to a veggie delivery service, but the ones near me are super unaccommodating for people with particular dietary needs. If, after meeting with my new nutritionist next week, she says I can expand my food choices a little more, I might check it out again. But I might not, because on weeks like this where I'm simply not capable of cooking them, that's food and money wasted.

            I'm absolutely not walking the Burgomaster through the process of washing and preparing greens. Or peeling and roasting beets. I'm sometimes embarrassed to be one of those enabling women who doesn't let the man do domestic work, but he hates working in the kitchen, he's terrible at it, and he's already overworked/over-committed at his paying job, so…

          • littleinfinity says:

            I hope you find something that works for you and the Burgomaster! I get it – sometimes it is just. not. worth. the. effort. If he hates it and is terrible at it then – not worth the fight.

          • CleverManka says:

            I'm so glad people here sympathize. The guy already shoulders everything but cooking and laundry duties (and doesn't say a word when the sheets don't get washed for a couple weeks).

          • meat_lord says:

            I wouldn't say you're enabling so much as uh, strategically choosing what to train him on. I don't think I'd touch those skills either, if I were in your place.

          • CleverManka says:

            Right? It's all about picking your battles.

          • RoseCamelia says:

            I hear you. It's not delegation if it takes more work than doing it yourself.

        • mowinda says:

          What are your go-to veggie meals/sides? I am horrible at preparing vegetables other than just putting lettuce in a bowl with dressing or eating baby carrots.

          • Kazoogrrl says:

            We do a lot of mixed roasted veggies, steamed broccoli or cauliflower, sautéed summer squash (I have a little hand spiralizer, I like the squash thinner), roasted or mashed sweet potatoes, steamed or roasted asparagus, roasted brussels (or I shred them with a knife or in the food processor and sauté in bacon grease), chopped fresh veggies (cucumber/peppers/radish/etc.) maybe with a salad dressing dip, baked winter squash. I never think about sauces and such, so they tend to be fairly plain, though I have a roasted garlic oil from a small company called Cucina Aurora that I'll use as a finishing oil. Mark Bittman's How to Cook Everything can be good for basic veggie recipes. Oh, in the summer sometimes I make a big batch of potato salad or coleslaw.

          • mowinda says:

            I'm adding that book to my Amazon wishlist, thanks! I feel like I have extra sensors for bitterness or something (I definitely am one of those cilantro tastes like soap people) so even when I do stuff like roast brussel sprouts with garlic or drizzle oil or lemon juice on them, they still taste HORRIBLE. I have the taste buds of an 11 year old

          • Kazoogrrl says:

            When I saute them I only do it until they are bright green and still have some crunch. Despite all the hype, you don't have to like them! I like strong flavors, and I love things like cabbage and turnips.

          • Räven says:

            I had the first Brussels sprouts of the season today! (I cut them in half, put them face down in a pan with olive oil, cover & let them caramelize while also lightly steaming; later, toss in a sliced shallot, sauté til the pasta is done and use as sauce.)

            I also do a lot of mixed roasted vegetables. I generally start with potatoes and add other things as I can be bothered to chop and add them.

          • Kazoogrrl says:

            He has a vegetarian one too, though I haven't used it as much. In the original one, in the veggie section it's broken down my veggie, then there are some recipes, and a lot of times there's a box with easy variations. Actually, that's throughout the book. It's one of the cook books I go back to again and again.

          • CleverManka says:

            During the summer, I keep a gallon ziplock bag or two of washed and pre-torn romaine lettuce along with bowls of pre-chopped red peppers, cucumbers, and a big bowl of shredded carrots (thank gods for my food processor).

            On days we don't have a green salad, I use the chopped vegs for things like tuna or chicken salad (I used to roast a chicken every week for this sort of thing). I also use the shredded carrots for carrot-raisin-mayo salad that I hated in my youth but absolutely love now (I add roasted pepitas for extra crunch and protein).

            Zucchini noodles are one of my favorite things, but too much work rn. Also, roasted anything–carrots, brussels sprouts, cabbage. I even roasted green beans and they came out great, I thought. Just cut them into pieces (although I left the green beans whole), toss them with a dollop of oil and any seasoning blend that you like (one of my faves is this one from Penzey's, but I haven't NOT liked any of their blends that I've tried).

            My girl Mel Joulwan has some great vegetable recipes on her site, too.

            ETA: Oh, and if you feel like adventuring into Greens territory, I recommend collard greens. They're easy to clean because they're flat, and you can (should, imo) overcook them without them getting gross like kale and chards can. Collards are very forgiving and not as strongly flavored as some of the other greens.

          • mowinda says:

            Thanks! I am going to use that collard greens tip. One day I'll learn to love our green friends, the vegetables

          • m vasterling says:

            I am southern and can recommend collard greens. In fact, they want to be simmered for some time to become toothsome. We eat the 'pot liquor' also. That's what cornbread or good flour bread is for. Tasty.

          • CleverManka says:

            Nobody but me gets the pot liquor from a batch of collard greens. I just pour it straight into a mug and if I can't drink it all at one sitting, it goes in the fridge and woe betide anyone who even looks at it with curiosity.

          • CleverManka says:

            Jenavira has a question about beet greens, above, if you can weigh in!

          • jenavira says:

            Oh, I know what I was meaning to ask! Any suggestions for beet greens? I have A TON from my CSA share and I want to do them justice.

          • CleverManka says:

            It's been so long since I made beet or turnip greens I honestly can't remember if they benefit or suffer from over-cooking. The recipes I'm seeing online mostly recommend blanching them before sauteeing, which seems like SO MUCH WORK but also might imply they can be safely simmered for a long time.

          • jenavira says:

            Hm. Good to know. (I wonder if I could spin something off a palak paneer recipe?)

          • ru_ri says:

            Wash them well, saute red onion and garlic in olive oil, add pine nuts and raisins or currants, salt, then beet greens. Finish with a touch of balsamic vinegar. The raisins and pine nuts help cut the weird puckeriness of the greens.
            Be careful with your paneer, beet greens tend to turn cheese sauces a really unappetizing shade of pinkish gray…

          • Lee Thomson says:

            every vegetable I have ever roasted was great except for broccoli and Mr. Crow liked that one,so.

            Green beans, asparagus, cauliflower (my fav, in part bc it looks like BRAINS) carrots, summer squashes, winter squashes, mushrooms (not a veg, I know, but nest to them at the groc store) anise bulbs, all the oniony and garlicky things…. I've even heard good things about leafy things, esp kale but I don't kale personally.

          • CleverManka says:

            I've made kale chips and I like them but they're a lot of work, tbh, and I don't have that in me rn. I've never tried roasting summer squashes! Does that…work? o_O

          • RoseCamelia says:

            "my fav, in part bc it looks like BRAINS"

            I love this about you.

          • jenavira says:

            I hate making "sides" because I cook to have leftovers that I can bring to work, and reheating a main dish + sides in the work microwave with a line three people deep is Not On. I have adopted the philosophy that meat is a seasoning, not the core part of the meal, so most of what I make is stir-fry, curry, or some kind of stew that's 90% vegetables. (For cooking vegetables all together like that: sort them out by firmness/cooking time first: potatoes/carrots/squash take the longest, then broccoli/cauliflower/peas in shells, then shelled peas/peppers/soft-crunch veggies, then most greens. If you put spinach in at the same time as carrots you will be sad.)

          • mowinda says:

            Thanks! I can attest that you 100% saved me from being sad sometime in the future

          • ru_ri says:

            Sorry this reply is so late. If you have an immersion blender you can make homemade mayonnaise in a pint jar (1tsp salt, small clove garlic, crushed, 1.5 tbsp lemon juice or cider vinegar, 1 egg yolk, blend together in jar then slowly add 2/3 cup cold pressed peanut or safflower oil, pull blender up gently as the mixture emulsifies) and eat it with lightly steamed veggies. Just a note, it might seem like a good idea to use olive oil in homemade mayonnaise, but it makes it very bitter which is not nice. Stick with neutral oils.

        • jenavira says:

          Oh, having no energy to cook when you want to cook is the actual worst. 🙁 (I have a whole CSA share worth of veggies in my fridge and I HAVE HAD NO TIME since I picked them up on Tuesday!) At least it's getting closer to soup weather?

    • Kazoogrrl says:

      I am hoping for the best sleeping outcome! And the freshest of veggies and some movie going energy!

    • Räven says:

      I hope you find it in yourself to do both movie and grocery, but either one will be a feast.

  2. meat_lord says:

    Today is National Coffee Day! (Every day is Coffee Day for me, but…y'know.)

    I let one of my pals crash at my apartment the other night, and when I got home from work the next day, I found out that they had done all my dishes. WHAT A SAINT. I've had such a mental block about washing dishes lately, but I needed to get it done so that I could uncover my broken garbage disposal and then put in a work order. Now I can get that fixed after months of ignoring it because I'm ashamed of my housekeeping and feel that it reflects my shortcomings as a human being. So, big ups to L., who is a cinnamon roll.

    Datefriend is doing really well in college so far, and their mental health is probably the best I've ever seen it in the five or six years we've known each other. Things are kind of completely awesome on the relationship front. Mankanauts….my partner is adorable and I am Gay.

  3. Kazoogrrl says:

    Not sure how I made it, maybe the cat cafe visit boosted me? I was feeling fraught yesterday after reading another essay about emotional labor, and then getting into a bizarro world discussion with a (usually way more0 feminist friend about hetero partnerships, home management, and division of labor. Also, it was hovering around 90 degrees all week, until it finally broke yesterday/last night.

    Sat I'm hitting a friend's yard sale to pick up some pre-selected items (burgundy leather jacket, black stretch mini dress), then (oh wonderful day!) going to HMart, a massive Asian grocery store. I have a growing list of stuff to pick up, I want to try making kim bap and jjajangmyun (black bean noodles). I'm worried about going there mid-day on a Saturday, last time I did J was almost run over by the aunties and their grocery carts because he wasn't paying attention. It can be hectic.

    Sun morning we're having a play date with Ranger's foster mom and her new foster dog. I am expecting him to 100% act like an ass and bark like crazy, but hoping he chills after a bit and gets some playtime. 1 week count down to meeting with a dog trainer.

    Some recommendations:
    – Speechless is back on TV, we're watching it on NBC. Great 1/2 hour comedy with some really excellent emotional points.
    – if you want a melancholy piece of piano music, this one may fit the bill, ir reminds me of Yann Tiersen's work

    • CleverManka says:

      Think of me while you're shopping at the Asian market! That sounds delightful. There's a massive international grocer in Indianapolis that I visit when I see my parents and I know what you mean about the aunties on a mission.

      Also, fuck yeah leather jackets! One of the questions on my nutritionist's intro questionnaire/form asked "Do you want to lose weight" and I marked yes only because I so much want to fit into my leather jackets again (as well as a couple pairs of my old favorite jeans).

      • Kazoogrrl says:

        I have a 1970s leopard print jacket with brown leather trim that a friend gave me almost 20 years ago. It was pristine when I got it, and years of bars and clubs gave it a velveteen rabbit look. I'd really like to fit back into it, as well as the $5 thrifted motorcycle jacket I had a friend paint for me.

    • Flitworth says:

      H Maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaart! I miss it! Husband is going to get a bowl from there and coax tiny human into eating bimbimbap. If you haven't had kimchi mandu – do! It is delightful.

    • Doc_Paradise says:

      Mmmm… burgundy leather jacket… I have a personal love for red leather of almost any type.

      Was it the "not nagging" article on emotional labour?

      • Kazoogrrl says:

        My too, I hope this fits! I have a dream pair of red boots in my head, similar to Fleuvogs but stompier.

        Yep, it was! First she picked apart chores vs household management (Um, they go hand in hand). Then she seemed to be saying that women should just stop doing stuff/managing so their partners pick up the slack, or should lower their high standards because their partners may not have been raised to meet that, to which I say: Fuck. That. Noise. Or, long form: "A bare minimum of responsibility is hardly a high standard, AKA cooking some meals, picking up clothes strewn about, doing a pile of dishes. I agree that people shouldn't constantly be criticized for "not doing it right", but grown ups should also know that just not doing, or throwing up their hands and abandoning responsibility, is also unacceptable."

    • Räven says:

      Tell us about your h-mart haul. I have a tiny one near me, but the prepared food case is always a treat.

      • Kazoogrrl says:

        It's all in the kitchen, but from what I remember: cubed radish kim chi and the black bean and seaweed salad ban chan to have with kimbap (so I got laver, a rolling mat, pickled radish and burdock, imitation crab, spinach, and I'll use some carrot and cucumber from home). Jajangmyeun fixings (black bean paste, and I hope I bought the right kind, and fresh noodles). A small case of Shin ramen, sesame oil, horseradish (I might make some fire cider), a 3 pack of fresh udon instant soup things (had one, it was ok, I'm going to add a bunch of toppings to the next pack), fresh okra I may pickle, Korean hot pepper for making kim chi. Snacks! Strawberry Kit Kats, some different types of Japanese rice crackers, yuzu gummies (my faaaaaavorite), squid peanuts for J, dried sweet potato, cappuccino creme wafer cookies, some other interesting chips. I hadn't been in a long time, so between finding everything and a lot of standing in front of shelves reading labels and hitting Google, it was a 2 hour trip and my brain was tired when I got home. I did not buy any cute rice bowls, no matter how much I wanted them.

    • redheadfae says:

      Lovely finds~!
      I like Speechless as well, even if it gets pretty corny at times.
      My go to is Empire, because I'm such a sucker for all the music-based shows, ie Nashville, Treme.

  4. littleinfinity says:

    Another late-to-the-link-party link! Take to the sea!

    Timelapse of a 30-day journey on a container ship

    • CleverManka says:

      I love time-lapse photography so much. Thank you for this link, I love it and I'm probably going to watch it again when I get home. This is so beautiful! That dude's whole channel looks interesting, tbh.

  5. CleverManka says:

    Oh, dang, I should've included this in yesterday's Dump. The Atlas of Beauty is a gorgeous (and reasonably-sized) coffee-table book if you're in the market for that sort of thing. My pre-ordered copy arrived earlier this week and I spaced mentioning it here.

    She's trying to get her sales numbers up to place on the best seller list for the week and the fact that it's even a possibility for an independently published book is amazing. It's excellent quality, especially considering the price. She has links to sellers world-wide, too, for those not in the U.S.

  6. Flitworth says:

    I met Katherine Clark. I asked her about Puerto Rico on behalf of a friend, she didn't have much to add on what mainland citizens can do beyond donations/calling congress. I also pinged her about Brianna Wu, who is challenging incumbent Steven Lynch (D-MA) in 2018. I think Wu is a voice we need more, ignoring the fact that Lynch hasn't been too vocal in opposing Trump to my knowledge. I did thank her for having a spine and referenced the fact that Ryan can't find his. Didn't want to monopolize so I didn't ask her if there were any actions the Ethics Committee could take in regards to the fact that Ryan (allegedly) has the tears of the poor and uninsured in his water bottle (and uses it to mix pre-workout powder).

  7. Rillquiet says:

    Last night I went to a farewell show for a small local club that's closing at the end of the month, featuring one of my favorite bands from when my serious ex-BF and I were dating a decade ago. The ex was also there, so we had a nice time catching up before the band hit the stage. And then halfway through one of the songs about heartbreak and loss, I remembered waking up in his bed to find a mug of coffee and a vase of tiny fragrant wild roses from his garden waiting on the nightstand, a moment of happiness that somehow I hadn't thought about for years. Man, we didn't work for a number of reasons, but he set the bar unreasonably high.

  8. jenavira says:

    Stitch is me, I am Stitch. Last night at work: our shiny new AV system failed AGAIN, half an hour before a full program with 40 people waiting outside the door. Coworker and I spent a full half hour trying to get it to come up, with no success. (This morning the first thing I got was impromptu training on what went wrong this time. That's three times now that the system has failed when we really needed it and we find out afterwards what we could have done to fix it. I explained to my boss (did not cry, which was an achievement) how incredibly frustrating this is, she agreed, hopefully we will get actual training soon, even if we have to write it ourselves.) Then the power went out. *headdesk*

    I have had A Week, and I am super ready for the weekend, except for the part where I have to go back to the dentist on Monday for Part I of two crowns. Next weekend, though, my best friend is coming to visit and we're doing a cocktail crawl, I can't wait.

    (I swear I had other things I was going to say on the open thread, but right now I am a ball of AARRGH)

  9. Absotively says:

    I think I've pared down my pre-vacation to-do list to a probably manageable level. Probably. Assuming that the MRI (which is tonight!) doesn't take too very long, but it doesn't sound like it should.

    I did the stuff for my co-op building that involved lugging heavy things around yesterday. It cost me more in Uber fares than I'd have liked, but I'm trying to remind myself that taking Uber sometimes is still cheaper than owning a car.

      • Absotively says:

        Thank you!

        My cough is basically gone, and the reminder phone call included instructions on how to get to the right department in the hospital, so that's the two things I was most worried about dealt with. Now it's just hoping that I don't suddenly discover I have claustrophobia, and then waiting for the results.

        Biggest remaining worry is that they'll call me to tell me the results are ready on, like, Monday, and then I'll be waiting to go in and hear them for my entire vacation. But I'm sure I can find enough distractions in Vancouver to deal with that! I'm trying to get used to my new doctor's tendency to have me come in even when the results are fine, at least if there's anything to be followed up. This is a good thing, but it's not something my previous doctor did, so it's taking some adjusting.

        • Doc_Paradise says:

          My doctor also doesn't give results over the phone. One of the things I've done (when I've been swamped with life) is ask if the results are an emergency that I should come in immediately or if it can wait until I can arrange to get there at a better time. That has helped me with worries and timing.

          • Absotively says:

            I've never had a doctor who would give results over the phone. Or I don't think I have, I suppose I've never asked. But I will assume that if it can't wait a week, they'll tell me so. And hopefully I can get an appointment early the day after I get back.

        • LaxMom says:

          MRIs are my favorite medical test, because it's like an enforced nap.

          • Absotively says:

            Ha! I have never had one, so I don't know if I'll feel the same way, but here's hoping. I suppose I do prefer tests that don't involve people poking me, such as x-rays, so that's a point in the MRI's favour.

          • redheadfae says:

            I have to take a Valium or some such anti-anxiety first or I'm on panic attack mode the entire MRI. I also ask for a blanket, headphones with music and an eye mask, even if it's just a washcloth. I've found if I can't open my eyes and see the tube above me, I can relax and not panic. I also pretend the noise is just electronica/club music, LOL

    • RoseCamelia says:

      Paring down. Manageable.

      Adulting A+

      Best wishes for super good music while in MRI.

      • Absotively says:

        Thank you!

        Probably manageable. Maybe a bit ambitious still.

        Whatever, it's not like I've never packed a bunch of dirty clothes and washed them at my vacation destination before.

    • CleverManka says:

      Joining in the chorus of MRI well-wishers!

      Ugh, yes, CAR$. I lived without one for a few years but I can't imagine doing it now. Serious respect for those of you who can and do.

      • RoseCamelia says:

        When I lived in an East Coast city with excellent public transportation, I kept a log of my car-related expenses (insurance, repairs, gas). At the end of the year I divided that total by 52 and found I could rent a car every weekend for what I was spending maintaining my old car. Had it not been paid-for already, the cost of subway/trains/cabs would have been covered as well.

        • Absotively says:

          They look so expensive!

          I should learn to drive, though. Or re-learn to drive. We have what seems to be a decent carshare here, and there are definitely occasions when it would be useful to be able to rent a car for the weekend.

    • Kazoogrrl says:

      Best of MRI luck!

    • Absotively says:

      Update: I have been magnetically resonated! I have put clothing into the washing machine! I have knocked off a couple more to-do list items, and am totally going to get up from the internet and work on the rest of them any moment now!

      But also: I feel slightly queasy. And my milk did curdle in my oatmeal this morning, and thanks to being wrapped up in the internet on my phone while I was eating I didn't notice right away. But! A couple of Pepto Bismol seem to have helped a lot, so hopefully this will pass very quickly. Maybe it's all in my head?

  10. Heathered says:

    Feeling kind of dead today, but I am thumbs-upping you all most sincerely.

  11. Doc_Paradise says:

    Feeling crampy today. Attempting to adult in fuzzy pants. Doing okay at that.

    Has anybody used AirBnB? Does anybody have opinions on AirBnB?

    • CleverManka says:

      All I know about AirBnB is that our neighborhood association (which I hate so. so. so. much fucking uptight busybodies ugh) is trying to get the city to pass some sort of ordinance that disallows them in our neighborhood. IDEK. This is why I'm not on the email list.

      Anyway. I hope someone can give you some actual information instead of an unhelpful rant.

    • Kazoogrrl says:

      I haven't booked myself but I've used it when someone else has, all good experiences. Once was a night room in a home in Pittsburgh (kind of weird b/ the owners were there but they didn't bug us, it was quiet and clean, nicer than a sterile hotel and we could walk to stuff), once was a cabin rental in WVA (awesome, great owner, left us snacks, hot tub!), once was a house rental in rural Red Hook, NY (great house though the doors didn't lock and that freaked out my friends but didn't bother me, also left pastries).

    • Rillquiet says:

      I've done it several times as a guest, usually in areas where the hotels were either booked up or unmanageably expensive, and been generally pleased. If you're a first-timer on the site, it's not bad to offer to answer specific questions the host may have and to make an extra effort to be pleasant. Once hosts have reviewed you positively, people may be more comfortable renting to you without preliminary questions. Be polite and follow the house rules (for the love of decency don't smoke in nonsmoking properties) and you should be fine. If you have allergies, be sure to mention those in your profile; some places have pets on site, and that can be an amenity or an affliction, depending on your immune system's reaction.

    • Fancy_Pants says:

      I'm a little late to the party here, but I love AirBnB! I've had great experiences. Its usually a great value, and having contact with the host is fun, and it's cozy to be a in an apartment. I usually look for places that have multiple good reviews.

      It really depends on what you like though. I find hotels to be kind of creepy and sterile and they make me sad, especially if I'm alone. But not everyone is going to feel comfortable in someone else's space, and might be nervous not knowing exactly what you're going to get the way you do with a hotel.

    • Lee Thomson says:

      I've used it a couple times, and results have ranged from pleasant to fabulous – I've found I prefer to have a house and someone around, although organizing myself breakfast can get strange. The younger crow and I had an eyrie that was amazing and lovely and aside from a sleeping couch that we had to shift onto the floor bc sleeping couch it was roughly perfect.

    • redheadfae says:

      I haven't used it but I have a friend who travels for work and won't use anything but AirBnB. The people whose profiles I read in Colo Springs, where we almost went to use it just all seem so friendly and welcoming.

  12. CleverManka says:

    EMERGENCY EMERGENCY I JUST SAW THESE ON TUMBLR AND I NEED TO KNOW WHICH TO BUY: GOLD or WHITE?

    Update: the Burgomaster said both so BOTH IT IS.

  13. LaxMom says:

    got nothing done, but had decent morning with Teenboy. Am currently attempting to get Teengirl to go to the Asiatown Night Market (last of the year) with me, as my friends are as frazzled and behind as I am (but I want good fried squid, dammit!). 70 mile drive for a night out, anyone? (40 home, 27 to market). (then 27 back but I'll be well fed so that won't count, right?)

    (ETA–add another 12 miles if I have to go to Teenboy's counselor office first to look for the wifi adapter for my mouse/keyboard, since that is where I think I lost it, ugh)

    • CleverManka says:

      That is a whole bunch of driving. Better be pretty good fried squid!

    • faintlymacabre says:

      I love driving and used to do a 70 miles one way commute to work, so… sounds totally okay to me? I am willing to admit my perception may be skewed! Tell Teengirl she can pick the music to bribe her to come?

    • LaxMom says:

      it worked out! I got there and as I parked found out that teengirl's plans had fallen through, so I felt a little guilty being there without her. I went and hung out with my friend at her booth, and then my neighbor (teengirl's best friend's dad) called to ask if I wanted to go–I said, I already was, but could he come and bring teengirl? He did, she came, and then my other friend who bailed ALSO showed up. So it worked, but they were out of squid. Didn't matter, the food was all very good and we had a decent time. Tomorrow, band and homework and cleaning.

  14. Räven says:

    I've chimed in here before about my basic failure to konmari anything in life – things, for me, hold such memories and such power to summon the past, basically everything I touch is a madeleine, and how can you cast such a thing away. But the one thing konmari has been very good for is harnessing or redirecting my animism issues, to be able to — eventually — throw things away when they've completed their roles in my life. Something I have struggled with as long as I can remember, still do, but I worry less than I used to about living a long life amidst broken toasters and torn scraps of old dresses.

    In short, I took a couple of bags to goodwill and feel like I've come through a war. But maybe… maybe?… in a good way? Ugh.

  15. Lee Thomson says:

    Wednesday was the nadir of my week, and I am perked up and happy on account of A) rowing today, on the river, which was glorious and exactly as wonderful as I'd hoped it would be and 2) I have completed 9 tarot cards – only 69 to go! Woo! and III) I have started using the drafting tablet on the computer to practice drawing and it is way more fun than I expected. Also N) the freaking weather is more to my taste and I am deeply grateful.

    • Lee Thomson says:

      Also I wanted to yell about this: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/09/28/magazine/the-m

      be he is one of my favorite writers and human beings and his books on geology hit me at exactly the correct moment and helped me keep going

      • LaxMom says:

        Oh wow, definitely going to sink some time into that essay.

        I bought a replacement pen for my drafting tablet only to find out that (although teengirl and i both have that tablet, we have both lost our pens) the upgrade means that you can't buy replacement pens for less than the cost of a whole new tablet. Of course found this out after spending $30 on a pen that won't work.

        The weather was lovely. We didn't have any weather like that all summer. It would have been EXTRA lovely to have had that weather in the beach-time and grow tomatoes season, and not in the "rake leaves and wear fall boots" time that it was supposed to be this week. I am glad it is back to sweater time, because it was just weird melting in summer dresses while leaves fell off the trees.

    • CleverManka says:

      I am LOVING your tarot cards and am wondering if you'll be willing to sell them individually? I already have my eye on at least one…email me about it if you'd rather not discuss here.

    • redheadfae says:

      Lovely! Congrats on the great week.

  16. redheadfae says:

    My Monarch eclosed! First one to survive and he saved my life by giving something to distract me from my sadness about Pablo. He flew off to Mexico today!

    <img src="https://www.flickr.com/photos/royarae/37161025100"&gt;

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