Friday Open Thread

Clever Manka, · Categories: Open Thread

Taika Waititi might be able to get me to give a shit about at least parts of this franchise again.

But seriously, I’m 100% ready to get off this planet. You?

225 Responses to “Friday Open Thread”

    • CleverManka says:

      I'm having stress dreams about going to the Kesha concert.

      Tuesday night I had a dream that I was with my dad and he was walking so fast to get to this event I couldn't keep up. Eventually he jumped over a fence and I was like "I cannot jump over that fence" and walked for what seemed like forever until the fence started to go down a hill until it met the ground so I could sort of scoot over the top and jump the rest of the way. Then I saw that he was standing at the front of this restaurant that had a giant staircase and there was just no way I could climb that staircase and I got so sad it woke me up.

      Wednesday I dreamed that I was in a theater (an old opera house, like Liberty Hall or the Uptown) with a bunch of Farscape looking creatures (including Claudia Black!) and we were sneaking in to fight a monster. When we got to the stage area there was an enormous thing there that looked like a cross between a mech and Darth Vader. It took up nearly the entire stage, up to the ceiling. It removed its helmet and oozing Cthulu-style tentacles started coming out. Claudia looked at everyone and said "run" but I couldn't run so I woke up.

      Then last night I was out in the country with some friends and needed to get back into town for some emergency reason. A woman who looked like Amanda Abbington loaned me her car but I had problems controlling the steering. It was like I was driving on ice and I kept oversteering. Then something happened with the engine and I had to find a mechanic. I found one who could help, but we had to walk back to Lawrence (we were just outside of town on K-10) carrying the door of the car (dream, man, wtf). The door was so heavy I eventually had to ask him to carry it. We finished getting to the top of that one hill (right where it used to change speed limits before they built the new highway) when he realized he'd forgotten his phone and had to go back. There was some reason I couldn't just wait for him (oh, also it was REALLY COLD) and the thought of walking back up the hill was so impossible I woke up.

      All of these have happened between 3 and 5 am and I wake up so stressed and frustrated that I can't fall back asleep for at least an hour (and on Wednesday morning I never fell back asleep at all).

      Oh, and I started my restricted food diet today because why not. At least the first soup I made for it is delicious!

      • Kazoogrrl says:

        Ugh, stress dreams are the worst, especially when it's about something you actually like.

        Oh, I just printed out that recipe. Fennel? SIGN ME UP!

      • damngoodcoffee says:

        I'm so sorry you're having stress dreams! I hardly remember my dreams but when I do, and their bad, it sucks, trying to get rid of that feeling. Is cooking something that (aside from helping work with a restricted food diet) is relaxing for you at all/does it help at all with the stress? I'm not a fennel fan, but it is turning more and more towards soup weather and that makes me want to make some, too.

        • CleverManka says:

          I rarely remember my dreams, but when I do, it's usually because I had to wake myself up from them from some sort of negative emotion. So the fact that this has happened three times this week is pretty significant.

          I LOVE COOKING SO MUCH. So so much. I went way overboard yesterday and made two soups (that one and this one) and I prepped a beef soup for the crockpot so all I had to do was pour in the broth and put it in crockpot before work today. I'm paying for that energy expenditure today, though.

          • Xolandra says:

            I made ginger soup yesterday too! It was butternut squash and roasted garlic and ginger, but hey! Other weird parallels!

          • redheadfae says:

            I want that recipe! I love ginger.

          • Xolandra says:

            Recipe? I love your optimism 😛

            Basically I just roasted a butternut squash and two heads of garlic, then smushed them up in a blender with veg stock and onions (1 medium) and ginger (about 2 tbsp) sauteed in a cast iron pan (tryna use that cast iron more because Iron Issues!). I threw all of THAT into some cumin seed sauteed at high temp in grapeseed oil and boiled with a bay leaf. Then I decided there wasn't ENOUGH ginger, so I rasped in another tbsp or so, and added water to reach desired texture.

            Could still have used more ginger. And more roasted garlic. But using up a whole head always makes me sad, so roasted garlic is a thing I don't do a whole lot of, you know?

          • Doc_Paradise says:

            I bet you could substitute carrots for squash and create another variation that would also be yummy. Smoked carrots are particularly nice.

          • Xolandra says:

            Totally! I stole the inspiration from a friend who made a carrot and ginger soup! I think the texture is better with carrots, personally, but butternut sqaush is what GentlemanX grew, so butternut squash is what I cooked ^_^

          • redheadfae says:

            Oh, so you cook the same way I do!
            Thank you, I can take it from that. 🙂

          • Onymous says:

            >>FTA: "If someone asked me, “Do you like soup?”

            I would punch them in the throat and shout SOUP?! FUCKING SOUP?! SOUP IS LIFE!

      • Xolandra says:

        O my pizza, anxiety dreams. I hates them. I made and then ripped apart a hat this weekend because of anxiety dreams.

        Idk if it will help, but at one point in my life I was all "HOW COULD YOU MISS BURNING SPEAR" at one of the coolest cats I know, and his response really stuck with me. Simply, eloquently he replied "Can't see em all, you know?", and then he shrugged I hope that you find the spoons to see Kesha, but if you do not, I hope that you manage to find a blazé, laissez-faire attitude about the whole thing.

        • CleverManka says:

          Thanks. I'm almost there with the attitude, tbh. I'm not going to be able to stand or dance, so why not give my tickets to people who will go and have a great, energetic time? On the other hand I've wanted to see Kesha for years and this is a tiny venue and maybe not seeing her at all is worse than seeing her in circumstances I'd rather have otherwise? sigh

          • Doc_Paradise says:

            If you can go to the show. Go to the show. Kesha would probably *get it*.

          • CleverManka says:

            Yeah, she would! =D If only it was assigned seating and I knew I'd be able to sit somewhere I could see over the people I know will be standing. Alas, it's General Admission and I don't have the stamina to stand in line….that's really the crux of the matter.

          • Flitworth says:

            Can you call the venue and see what they can provide for accommodation? The ADA is the law of the land….

          • CleverManka says:

            I just got back from picking up a cane and a rolling walker from a friend of mine who had her knees replaced last year and I'm going to call the theater to confirm that I can get in early to get a seat (it's a very old theater and they don't have removable seats for wheelchairs–I already asked that).

          • Xolandra says:

            So, right after space laser, teleportation device.

            You don't have to stand or dance. I am learning to cede the dance floor to The Youths and tho it kills me, they're just… more willing to flail about than I am these days. And the people sitting/standing at the back nodding? In my day, being those humans was fucking lifegoals. Like, no matter what crap life throws at you, you're gonna enjoy the show. And I personally LOVE IT when people in wheelchairs show up to shows, because it kinda forces everyone in the vicinity to be less of a jackass. ymmv, of course.

            As someone who nearly got kicked out of a show because my owvaries were being awful at me, I can wholeheartedly recommend seeing a show while in excruciating pain. Like, I may not have seen much of Lee Scratch Perry, but I did get to see more of his drummer than I otherwise would, and that was pretty frigging magical.

          • CleverManka says:

            Thank you for the support, fellow live music lover! Thanks to everyone in this bar, I'm a little bit more committed now to finding a way to get to this show…

          • pseudonymica says:

            I know this struggle well. Last night I decided it was best to miss a show I had been looking forward to.

            But that makes the shows I do attend even more precious. It sounds like this one is special to you, so I have no doubt it will be worth it.

            I get the anxiety too. Getting ready to go is a nightmare because I already have trouble getting dressed and then I'm weirdly *afraid* of the thing I'm preparing for, which makes no sense and therefore frustrates me. I feel that doubt up until the last minute but I should trust myself more.

          • CleverManka says:

            I'm weirdly *afraid* of the thing I'm preparing for, which makes no sense and therefore frustrates me.
            <img src="https://ic.pics.livejournal.com/clevermanka/1047329/268925/268925_900.gif"&gt;

      • redheadfae says:

        I remember when you weren't dreaming at all, but damn, this is not what we wanted.
        That soup sounds delish, how fennely is it? Although I suppose one could sub curry or turmeric as well.

      • Doc_Paradise says:

        Eww. How very unfun and counter productive.

        Have these dreams started since you went on the new medication regime?

        • CleverManka says:

          Hmmm. I stopped taking most of the supplements (on Dr. Sexy and Amy the Nutritionist's joint recommendation) two weeks ago. The dreams started on Tuesday. I'm not taking any new stuff yet because they haven't arrived.

      • LaxMom says:

        Negative dreams are terrible, terrible, I think because it's so frustrating that you are feeling attacked by your own brain. It has taken me a long time to be able to forgive my subconcious for some of the things it's done to me!

        I don't know, I think I'd go to the concert. But I made the same decision when I had to go to disneyland on a planned vacation in a wheelchair. Later, when I knew all the facts, I wished I hadn't. But that was several days of pain, not one evening. I still have regrets over bands I didn't see in high school–I got grounded and missed out on love and rockets AND U2. And have never had the money to go to concerts as an adult, so I am probably vicariously rooting for you to go.
        I don't want you to be disappointed, that's just so unfair. Either way its affecting something you've wanted for a long time, and I"m going to (virtually) stomp and pout on your behalf.

        • CleverManka says:

          I considered the wheelchair option for a long time but came to the conclusion that I don't want to be the person that helps exacerbate the stigma attached to people who need them and their being able to get around without them. I dunno, it's still an option, I suppose…at least we could get in early!

          • Flitworth says:

            The stigma surrounding wheelchair use is the problem of the people judging, not you. If the wheelchair is a tool that in your case off-sets a physical limitation in a way that allows you to live a productive (as in functional/content, not capitalist cog) way, then it doesn't matter that you can technically walk. The solution isn't for you to deny yourself something, it's for everyone to be less able-ist (which includes all the Judge going around about handicap/ADA stuff).

            PS, I'm riding the cold medicine dragon so, y'know, I'm possibly being a bit much. sorry.

          • CleverManka says:

            No, this isn't too much at all. In fact, everyone's supportive voices here have convinced me to put more energy into finding a way to make this work, so thank you!

          • jenavira says:

            Using a wheelchair because you can't get around entirely under your own power for as long as you need to be out, even if you can *~technically~* stand and walk, is not contributing to stigma. I would be willing to bet that more than half of wheelchair users can *~technically~* stand and walk (like my mom, who walked around on LITERALLY NO HIP JOINTS for years because they thought it was the unfixable MS making it hard for her to walk). Any judgement other people have about the use of a tool that allows you to live your life is their problem, not yours, and definitely not something you're contributing to.

            (…I have Feelings about ableism, ask me about them sometime! Or don't, and I'll tell you anyway!)

          • CleverManka says:

            Thank you for chiming in, bb. I just got back from picking up a cane and a rolling walker from a friend. I'm gonna try to make this work!

          • redheadfae says:

            No no no. A lot of people use a wheelchair, or scooter in the stores, so that they conserve their limited energy in order to finish the trip. That is no different than what you need it for, to fully attend a concert AND enjoy it.

          • CleverManka says:

            Good point. I think I'm just so unused to being the person in this situation, you know? Even after all these years of decreasing energy, I still feel like "well if I really wanted to…" and that's not helpful.

          • redheadfae says:

            I understand that feeling. I had an entire session with my therapist examining it, and the end result was when she helped me to realize that wanting to work a full day and being able to do it without painful repercussions were two different things and I had to accept that, without the guilt that my work ethic hung on me.

      • Lee Thomson says:

        I am always blindsided by the power of the dreams I have to leave me emotionally hungover for the rest of the day – so much of my life happens in my brain that the dividing line between stuff that happens to my body and stuff that happens only in my head is pretty fine, and nightmares just rip that all to shreds, in unnerving ways.

        I've got no real help to offer. I mean, my fix is to get up, wake up all the way, stomp around the house, wake up Mr Crow, drink an glass of very cold water, and try to bring my body temps waaay down, like goosebumps but just before teeth chattering. I dunno what steps of that are actually important, or if it is the entire process I find re-centering, but it seems to help.

        I hope you end up going, and enjoying the hell out of yourself, regardless of what your brain is trying to tell you.

      • Fancy_Pants says:

        It's also totally okay to go for part of a show and leave before it's over! I hit diminishing returns on music enjoyment pretty fast, and it's often nicer to leave before crankiness/fatigue/sensory overload sets in. I bet you can soak up a lot of glitter magic even in just half an hour.

        • CleverManka says:

          I hadn't even thought of that! Although I think once I'm there there high of it will probably carry me through a lot of fatigue (although it's guaranteed to catch up with me the next day).

      • Heathered says:

        I know you'll do what's right for you when the time comes to decide, but I'm hopeful the universe will clear a little pocket of space for it to be the fun thing, and that you'll be released from stress dreams into quality slumber.

    • CleverManka says:

      Oh, and I have to call the store about my lovely new(ish) oven again. They've already come out twice because it's getting so hot on the front that the bezels for the stovetop knobs are cracking and last night the broiler decided to stop running for more than ten seconds at a time.

      I think I'm justified asking for a replacement range. I hate being That Customer, but this is the reason I bought from (and paid more) to a local store instead of buying from Nebraska Furniture Mart or something–so I'd have a local store to support me if something went wrong. I'm not out of line here, am I? I mean, something is obviously wrong with this stove and I don't feel like I should have to pay for repairs or an extended warranty on a stove that has already exhibited two major problems before its one-year warranty expired.

  1. Kazoogrrl says:

    I already have tickets for Ragnarok and it's about the only thing keeping me going through early November, and beyond (just realized between Aug 28 and Dec 1 I will have had the opportunity to take a total of 11 personal hours at work because we're such a mess, though at least I'll have Thanksgiving and the day after off). While co-worker is gone for the month of November I may start instituting morning job hunt time when less people are in, it's usually impossible because I'm in an open office and I sit with my back to the room.

    Going to try to get some creative stuff in this weekend because I am at a super pessimistic low right now. Am also going to do some mild retail therapy for items I've been putting off picking up. I want to try eshakti, so I may start with a shirt.

    Fall/Halloween movie recs? I'm into atmospheric, but not scary. I love Cabin in the Woods (my horror limit) and Crimson Peak. I actually liked The Village for the look/feel. I may watch the original Alien, I've never seen it, so I expect to be freaked out by it. I'm actually motivated to try it because I got into alt-J this week and they have a song called "The Gospel of John Hurt".

    • CleverManka says:

      Don't let us down, Taika! I've liked all the clips I've seen so far and in every single one it looks like they're all having a good time making the movie which is a hell of a lot more than I can say for the last few MCU movies.

      Good luck with the creative stuff! What are you gonna work on?

    • jenavira says:

      I haven't seen a movie in the theater since Wonder Woman (and that was at the dollar theater because I realized I left it too late) but Ragnarok is on my calendar. (It is definitely time to get off this planet.)

      Fall movies not horror: Practical Magic, Something Wicked This Way Comes, Tim Burton's Sleepy Hollow are my annual go-tos. Stoker is a good atmospheric contemporary gothic (trigger warning for sexual assault as a major plot point). I just watched The Blackcoat's Daughter earlier this week, which I think I enjoyed but I was a little too spoiled for; very atmospheric, possession narrative but not super horror-y, trigger warning for bloody decapitations (but not a lot of gore). Penny Dreadful is a TV series, not a movie, but it's about on the Crimson Peak level of Gothic Creepiness, with only a few full-on horror movie moments, mostly involving large numbers of spiders. For very gentle atmospheric creepiness, Mushi-shi is a gorgeous anime about a guy who travels around cleaning up after spirits, some of which do some pretty nasty things to people, but not maliciously – it's just a part of their life cycle.

    • Onymous says:

      I had basically no interest in Thor until I saw the font on "Ragnarok" which is the most deliciously Beast Master thing I've seen in ages.

      I mean I'm still not going to see it at full price but it's now on my dollar theater watch list.

  2. meat_lord says:

    Hi! Happy Friday. I have a sudden and overwhelming craving for pancakes.

    A while ago, I mentioned that I had gotten some perfume samples, and I've worn at least one of them enough to talk about it. It's "Book" by Commodity.

    Book is a green, woody sort of scent, and fresh out of the bottle, it's mostly cucumber. However, once it's on me, the cucumber recedes and the eucalyptus note comes forward. I can't believe how good eucalyptus smells on me, y'all. (The Datefriend climbed all over me to huff this scent when I wore it last night, to my delight.) I do wish Book lasted longer–it doesn't have the staying power of some other scents I own–but I really like it. It grew on me a lot.

  3. Xolandra says:

    I GET TO SEE NOSFERATU WITH A LIVE BAND THIS SATURDAY.

    I am unreasonably excited, even the tickets are too cool: https://www.instagram.com/p/Bacezk0FVze/?taken-by

  4. CleverManka says:

    Oh, and I'm still looking for spooky and Halloween-related stuff for this coming Thursday's(10/26) link dump!

  5. vladazhael says:

    I seem to have corrected some of the damage I did to my neck with knitting, and I hope it's more from keeping good posture and doing my assigned stretches and exercises than it is from not having had time to knit over the past few days. I spent last night at a presentation on forensic anthropology done by a researcher at the Body Farm in Tennessee (AMAZING) and the night before that shopping for jeans (SUCCESS). And this weekend I have no pressing engagements other than band practice, and that's such a weird and much-needed lack of plans that I honestly keep forgetting it's true.

    I guess I can stay on this planet, but I'm still ready to move to a less Bible Belt-ish part of it, convenient proximity to the Body Farm notwithstanding.

    • damngoodcoffee says:

      That presentation sounds totally fascinating. Stuff like that always makes me wonder how much weird/cool stuff is happening around me and where I can find out about it; b/c I'm sure there's a lot.

    • Heathered says:

      Jeans success = the impossible dream. Good on you!

  6. CleverManka says:

    Oh, wow, a presentation by someone from the Body Farm and successful jeans shopping?
    <img src="https://media.tenor.com/images/cb4887e7ca3d09834ef5a7feb4f1ed57/tenor.gif"&gt;

    I just now noticed this didn't reply to vladazhael, but I suppose y'all have realized that by now…

  7. damngoodcoffee says:

    I got fit for invisalign today and even though the most painful part was probably the initial down payment, I am so not a fan of having a lot of having those mouth measurements done. The molds are bad enough, but this time they did digital images instead, which still required a lot of stretching and fitting. I have a small mouth and large teeth and the whole thing was just super uncomfortable (and I'm not even someone who normally hates the dentist! But they can barely fit those things in my mouth they have to put in for x-rays, so this was unpleasant).

    This is break week between terms at work, but it's gone by in a haze of meetings and emails and soon the mad rush of the new term will start. This weekend I thankfully have nothing whatsoever on my plate, which I am very much looking forward to.

    Last weekend, however, I made my trip to Salem, and it was great! Thanks, CM, for following up with that prof. about Salem/Danvers. Unfortunately, we didn't get to see as much historic stuff as I originally wanted (too many long lines, too little time), but we did get to the Peabody Essex Museum where they were exhibiting Kirk Hammett's collection of old horror/sci-fi movie posters. We walked around a bunch, ate at a really nice spot for lunch, got to see a lot of fun costumes, watch a historical documentary on the trials, and visit the surprisingly informative pirate museum (I thought it would be just for kids, but it was great).

    • jenavira says:

      Okay, Salem also has a pirate museum? Dammit, I am making plans to go there some day soon.

      • damngoodcoffee says:

        It was pretty fun; and fast, too. The tour guide really knew the stuff and how to talk about it, which was great. The stories were a little gory, but, well, pirates.

    • Heathered says:

      Ugh, I feel you. Every dentist appt. = Them: Open wide. WIDE! Me: To get any wider we are going to need a scissor jack, just get in there and drill shit already.

      • damngoodcoffee says:

        Right? Like there's a point when there's really nothing else I can physically do to accommodate them. I did get this weird compliment(?) though: apparently my mouth is small but the skin around my mouth (which had to fit over the thing they put in there for pictures) is very elastic.

    • Lee Thomson says:

      Salem is such a sweet spot – I spent part of my childhood in Marblehead, and we'd come to Peabody Marine Museum (as it was then) so my brother could memorize the fishing dory, and I'd admire the figureheads. They were way less terrifying than the T. Rex head at the Boston Sci Museum, although staring UP at things on the walls was vertiginous!

      • damngoodcoffee says:

        I really want to go there during some other time of year, so I can explore more of Salem's history outside of the trials. Which will likely happen, at some point; I really appreciate how relatively close everything is in New England.

    • CleverManka says:

      PIRATE MUSEUM!

      I'm glad you had a good time despite long lines and little time. UGH I hope your mouth feels better by now. Even if it doesn't, I think that's a good enough reason to have ice cream for dinner.

      • damngoodcoffee says:

        Thank you 🙂 Luckily, there wasn't too much soreness, though with the warm weather this weekend my new allergies were an issue again. I don't think I even thought of having ice cream for dinner, which I think is a sign that I need to re-consider my priorities, generally.

    • redheadfae says:

      Yay for break week, I hope you get a nice rest.

      Are you doing before, during and after pics of the Invisilign experience? I've considered it if I can fit it into my budget.

      • damngoodcoffee says:

        The orthodontist's office does; they did the 'before pics' at my appointment on Friday. I've been assured by the orthodontist that this should work, and I need it to at least a little (my chewing has been affected). And this misalignment is at least somewhat b/c of some bad advice I got from a dentist a while ago- they told me to start using a mouth guard to stop clenching my teeth, and that it was fine to get one from the drug store, rather than a custom fit one. Big mistake. Messed up my bite pretty much immediately.

        • redheadfae says:

          Ugh, that sucks. Mine is from a bad dentist in CA.. filed down one of my teeth and ruined six years of orthodontic work. I now bite my inner lip all the time due to lower crowding.

  8. LaxMom says:

    ugh. Teenboy was made at dad and took it out on Teengirl, slapping her when dad showed up and she wouldn't wake up to go to visitation. Next week should be fun, the idiot ex is pushing Teenboy to include him in the senior parent event, which means I get to walk on one side of Teenboy down the football field with ex and co on the other side. No wonder Teenboy is edgy but it doesn't excuse hitting your little sister. Called therapist to make sure it doesn't get forgotten.
    Also dad didn't wake him up for SAT last week, hasn't scheduled the one that is supposed to happen in 2 weeks, and we are working on college apps. Idiot.

    Am having horrible toothaches. Dentist has checked everything out and it's "just" sensitive teeth, but anytime I eat anything not body temperature (even room temperature salad) my whole jaw aches on one side. Nice.

    Teengirl "quit" therapy last week. She is sleeping all the time, found out she isn't eating during the school day, is trying to avoid going to her dad's, and won't go to get her black belt awarded. But sure, there's nothing to talk about with a counselor…sigh. I have a call into that one, too. Of course I feel guilty because I"m too tired to wake up and make lunch/breakfast every morning…but I have been giving her extra time and driving her to school, but she still doesn't eat.

    Her bff since babyhood had a breakdown and hasn't been to school in a week.
    On the plus side, there was a cancellation and maybe I get to see the thyroid doc in the next 2 weeks. One my insurance covers.

    • jenavira says:

      You are doing so awesome in the face of so much. I hope your thyroid doc can do something useful ASAP. <3

    • Heathered says:

      Oof, that is a full plate. YMMV but I got decent relief from some bad sensitivity from those Sensi-Strips, and then more long term help by making a toothpaste with calcium powder and coconut oil to remineralize them. I can dig up the recipe if you want to try it (or mail you a Sensi-Strip if they're hard to find near you. Dentists sometimes have samples, too, that's how I got hooked.)

      • LaxMom says:

        I"ve only tried one drugstore so far, they didn't have them but I've got more to try. I did buy some sensitive toothpaste for now, it's holding me over. I've had this happen before from grinding my teeth, so I know the nerve irritation will eventually go away…but damn, tooth pain is evil.

        • Heathered says:

          OK, feel free to hit me up if you'd like to try one. I hate dental pain with a passion and am more than happy to do anything in my power to alleviate it when it appears.

          • LaxMom says:

            Ah, figured it out. I have two dentist-made nightguards for tooth grinding–and the latest filling made the one fit badly, resulting in swollen gums and actually loosening the tooth by pulling it out of place. I had a scary day there when I didn't realize what was making the pain worse, but it's receding, finally.

          • Heathered says:

            I'm glad to hear it. Sometimes I bite down on my tiny night guard in the wrong way, and it is Not Good. Teeth are so weird.

  9. jenavira says:

    I am on Day Two of sleeping in until half an hour before I have to be at work, which is…workable, but just barely. (Today I had a meeting scheduled the instant I got to work, which I had of course forgotten about. I am so glad I'm not the lead on this particular project, because I am not bringing my all to this one.) Fortunately tonight starts my 3-day weekend. I have friends coming over, we'll watch Halloween movies and drink wine, and then on Monday I go back to the dentist for my second crown. Hooray. 🙁 At least I've already paid for it?

    I spent all day yesterday at work looking up knitting patterns on Ravelry and fantasizing about making cuddly sweaters and socks and blankets. I fully expect to do the same thing tonight. And I'm working on hunting down a Harvest Moon game, because relaxation means sitting in the pillow fort on the couch and not at the computer chair, and I might as well put that Nintendo DS to use.

    • LaxMom says:

      hey, pre-paid dental work is something to be thankful for. I need to help Collegeboy (should I call him Apartmentguy now that he's 21?) pay for his lovely unexpected oral surgery–he inherited my "random extra tooth in a weird place in your mouth" genes.

      I, too, am burying myself in therapy yarn. And sleeping more than is really bearable for work days. But sometimes sleep has to happen.

    • CleverManka says:

      I'm not sure I would count a Monday I got a crown as being part of a three-day weekend but I'm at least glad you get to skip work that day. Movies and wine sounds like a great way to kick things off. Have fun showing the Nintendo who's boss.

    • damngoodcoffee says:

      Ooh, what Halloween movies did you end up watching? I hope the crown goes well today. I have one as well, on what I call my Frankentooth, b/c of the amount of work it's had done, at this point.

      • jenavira says:

        We wound up not watching Halloween movies because we went to the board game store and the clerk was SO EXCITED about Mountains of Madness that I had to buy it, and we played that instead. (It's a lot like Forbidden Island or Forbidden Desert in basic gameplay, plus the Lovecraftian mechanic of, well, sooner or later you start to go insane, and your madness is things like "you can no longer talk unless someone makes eye contact with you" or "you can't use any of the words actually printed on your cards" or "you must stay ten feet away from the board at all times." Easy to learn, hard to play, best combination.)

        The crown seems to have gone okay, except now the other side of my mouth has decided it's time to be incredibly temperature-sensitive, so it's just pain all around. Also my gums feel like a pincushion from all the Novocaine; it kept wearing off and they kept having to give me more. All is pain and anguish, and I'm not even looking forward to my delicious soup for lunch. *le sigh*

  10. Absotively says:

    I have my appointment with the specialist my doctor referred me to!

    It's in March.

    I started a new pack of ye olde the pill yesterday, and already feel a bit better. This is month three. I am going to wait until I'm into the dummy week of this one, probably, and if it follows the same pattern of me feeling much better on the active pills and kind of lousy on the dummy week, I'm going to go ask my doctor about the extended cycle pills.

    Aside from that, I'm doing pretty good. I've been doing better than usual at getting some cleaning done, though I've been neglecting my KonMari stuff sorting; I've been reading N.K. Jemisin's Broken Earth books, which are really good; and I've been less stressed out about everything, which I think I can credit my vacation for.

    • LaxMom says:

      If there is one thing I've found out lately, it's that some of the schedulers really mean it when they say "call about cancellations". They insisted, they said, it's not unusual for people to call every day to see if there is a cancellation. They know how important it is. And I listened, and I took them up on it, and now I have an appt. Nove 2 instead of Dec 22. So if you can bear the emotional labor of calling repeatedly and hearing no (I had to only call once a week, I couldn't hear no more than that), it is worth doing.

      Oh, and my pharmacist worked with me on using the regular pills (covered by insurance) as the extended cycle pills (which weren't). I paid for one month up front, off the record. I then filled the RX as normal, and he submitted for the refill as early as he could officially, and between them we managed to get enough to skip the dummy week without changing my RX. I would have kept doing it if I could tolerate the pill side effects.

      • Absotively says:

        They have been very don't-call-us-we'll-call-you. And in theory nothing I need to see them about is urgent. For now, I think I'm going to assume that they call people in some set order if they have cancellations, because it seems like that sort of office.

      • Absotively says:

        Oh, and I don't think my insurance is likely to complain about the change in pills. I think there may be more restrictions on insurance companies deciding what treatments to cover here in Canada.

        I do kind of like the idea of sticking to the ones I'm on, because they've been good for various symptoms and have had few side effects, but they're triphasic, so switching is probably a better plan even if it does turn out to be better to use a monthly one continuously.

        • LaxMom says:

          ah. I was on the lowest dose ones and they worked really well –it was nice to not have suicidal thoughts once a month, and the no cramps and clear skin was nice, too. But I got so sleepy I couldn't function through the day. Of course now I know it could be my thyroid, so maybe I can try again when the thyroid stuff is better.

          • Absotively says:

            The ones I'm on are relatively low dose, and a different progestin than any of the extended cycle ones. But I'm willing to try the extended cycle ones first, because I do think my doctor will be happier with them.

            Part of me thinks that over-the-counter birth control pills can arrive any time, thanks. It would be much easier if I could just talk to a pharmacist, and honestly I kind of expect better advice from a pharmacist than from a doctor when it's strictly about choosing between similar medications. But then my insurance would probably stop covering them, so I guess there's a benefit to the current system.

    • Absotively says:

      Oh, and I've been cooking more since my fridge arrived! Very, very unfancy stuff. Instant pot steamed potatoes, sausages or those frozen stuffed chicken breasts, frozen vegetables, sandwiches and fruit and yogurt and cheesestrings for lunch. But it's tasty, and it leaves me feeling better than the stuff I eat when I can't be bothered doing even this much cooking.

    • meat_lord says:

      hello yes did you mention the Broken Earth series because i'm kinda in love

      • Absotively says:

        They are excellent! I am in the middle of book three.

        I read Provenance, by Ann Leckie, at the start of my vacation, and then when I was casting around for something to read at the end of my vacation I thought, "I keep hearing about N.K. Jemisin but I haven't read any of her work, I should fix that." This turned out to be a very good thought.

    • CleverManka says:

      Fucking hooray for less stress!

      Glad to hear you're already feeling better on the new pack. I hope your doctor will work with you on a different prescription if that turns out to be a good solution for you.

      And seriously, March will probably be here before we realize it. At least that's how it seems to me, right now.

  11. Doc_Paradise says:

    *yawn* The weather is beautiful here. Finally, a true fall day.

    I've been checking out curiousitystream for documentaries. So far. Not bad, but I can't get it to run on my phone (which might be the fault of the phone – I need to get a new one).

    I just finished reading "Suicide as Psychache" and am most of the way through rereading "People of the Lie" (which I'd read years ago and mostly forgotten the content of). Surprisingly, both are excellent reads for me right now and helpful to my mood.

    My mood has been drooping lately but I may have tracked that to being knocked off my eating habits since having the stomach flu. Remedying that is improving things. I got my flu shot this week and I'm doing daily exercise (squats, incline pushups, and crunches).

    BTW… Does anybody know what to do with leeks? I have 4 big ones and no ideas. I am also overwhelmed with potatoes, carrots, celery, and cauliflower. Help me Mankanauts.

    I *might* be modelling next week instead of in December because next week's model may not be able to make it.

    Kudzu of Joy got tickets to the whiskey show and gave them to Dr.TBD and I. It was AMAZING. I drank WAY TOO MUCH. I now want to spend all my money on whiskey. I even found a gin that I actually like (I usually hate gin).

  12. Heathered says:

    NaNo prep moved from talk to action last night which felt good; I'm trying to snowflake it. I bought some embroidery supplies with birthday money but wonder when I will ever have a chance to learn how to use them? Or what to make?? Today I'm blessed with a little paying work and tonight I'm making black bean coconut soup and it rained last night so we're all collectively breathing a little easier despite the grief out here.

    • jenavira says:

      Yeah snowflaking! I'm gonna try that this year, but my prep plans have fallen by the wayside this week in favor of sleep. Oh well, there's still time.

      The joy of embroidery is you can start as small as you want. I like putting tiny faces on things. (I mean, if you're gonna personify your pillows anyway, why not go all in?)

      • Heathered says:

        Tiny faces would be great for can't-name-her-emotions me. Also, the tinier and dottier I can get, the easier detail work will be if I ever get ambitious.

    • Doc_Paradise says:

      What is snowflaking?

      I bet Lee could give you embroidery advice. 🙂

      • Heathered says:

        It's a ten-step outline process that gets progressively more detailed as you go. Lots of tutorials online–look for the name Randy Ingermanson, he cooked it up. I'm SO BAD at plotting, because I have no idea what *I* want, how the hell can I decide for people I made up out of whole cloth? So it's forcing me to think that through.

        • Doc_Paradise says:

          Hmmm. Interesting. How effective are you finding it?

          • Heathered says:

            It's challenging for me in the same way long-form fiction is–I'm just not used to it or comfortable with the rules. But trying to figure some plotting and character traits out versus flying in blind is useful, since if there's a glaring contradiction somewhere you can fix it before it takes root. Pretty soon it will be time to try and get a bunch of scenes into a spreadsheet, and…I'm a little paralyzed about that. Hopefully simply starting will lead somewhere.

          • Doc_Paradise says:

            I'm really curious to see how it works for you. I mostly write by the seat of my pants so this looks very detailed.

          • Heathered says:

            I'm a pantser, too, so this is an interesting change. One nice thing is the way that sitting down to expand a sentence into a paragraph, then four paragraphs, then four pages, new ideas come up much the same as they do if I'm just drafting. The scene thing still has me blocked, though. Everyone is so much in their heads and not in the world because so am I, which makes it hard.

      • Heathered says:

        Ha, the GIF isn't showing up here but I LOLOLed when I opened my email. I assume that's what all our local firefighters look like right now.

    • CleverManka says:

      D'you have any recommendations for video tutorials for basic embroidery? It's something I've thought about doing and I figure I better try it now before my eyesight really goes to hell. I'm a terrible book-learner and not much better with videos, but if you have a suggestion for a good one, I'd like to at least look at it!

      • Heathered says:

        I'm all books all the time but I'll bet someone here is more video oriented.

      • Absotively says:

        About the only embroidery I've ever done is small cross-stitch kits, but those might be a good place to start? They're very straightforward, they come with all the materials and tools and instructions, and I suspect that moving from cross-stitch to fancier stitches is probably simpler than jumping right in with the fancier stitches.

        If it would be helpful, I can look at a few videos some time this weekend to see if I can find any I think look helpful. I can also ramble a bit about what I'd look for in a first cross-stitch kit.

  13. Flitworth says:

    I didn't really sleep Wed. night and apparently caught something so I'm lolling around on cold meds but working b/c I'm de facto supervisor (or supervisor pro tempore?) while actual supervisor is owt.
    The level of BS at work is significant. For a while, when I was mad, I would just drop a random Goat Fact into work chats. Now, I'm just going to write/say 'trucknutz' until a better option comes up.

    Husband just texted today that Taika is the director. I'm thinking of making him my celebrity clause. Have you seen his video about racism?
    "You don't have to be a full-on racist. Just being a tiny bit racist is enough."

    • Kazoogrrl says:

      If your celebrity clause what we call the "all bets are off" person? As in, "I love you but if I saw Mads Mikkelsen walking down the street, all bets are off".

      • Flitworth says:

        Yes but the rule is like snooker – you have to call it in advance. So I have to tell him when I switch up. (If you're going to have a silly thing it might as well have silly rules). Of course, I don't recall who I last said, maybe Hiddleston?

        • Kazoogrrl says:

          We can have several, Taika's on mine too, as is Hiddleston, and Tilda Swinton, and any other number of tall/pale/silver fox/interestingly cheekboned people.

    • CleverManka says:

      I am 100% DTF Taika Waititi YEP.

      Random Goat facts in work correspondence sounds delightful.

  14. Lee Thomson says:

    I was rowing yesterday, which was perfect weather except for too much wind – normally I head upstream first, and then coming back is easy. I underestimated the wind, and coming back was substantially harder than going up and today I am sore ALL OVER but I feel like I have A) a new favorite put-in and 2) refined my deploy and retrieve strategies, so many things are lovely.

    In tarot news, the Stones are taking For.EV.AR and then I have to wrap my head around how I was planning on accomplishing face cards and the rest of the Major Arcana.

    • Doc_Paradise says:

      Your cards are looking great. What will you do with them when you have a full set?

      • CleverManka says:

        Aren't they beautiful? I've already got my foot in the door as a potential purchaser for at least a few of them. =D

      • Lee Thomson says:

        my hope is to photograph them and publish a deck with an oceanographically oriented LWB – I am encouraged by the pips all turning as well as I had hoped, and I am hesitating because I am overthinking all the ones with faces/people in them, trying to decide What To Do Instead – I have some of it thought out, but it is in that delicate semi-gelled state where it can be ruined as easily as it can be improved?

    • CleverManka says:

      Your set of pips that you posted was gorgeous!

      I'm so happy that you're finding such joy in your boat. I'm sure I'm romanticizing it terribly but it sounds just delightful.

  15. redheadfae says:

    I'm doing pretty good, friends. HR told us that the hospital will pay for Jbird's stay, ER, and all the other tests and office visits from his fall.
    I'm awaiting news from the specialists and I'm not letting the wait work me up. Just making the decision to not return to work because it's a) too painful and b) too exhausting plus c) stress, has lifted so much off my shoulders. I'm not going to fall into the trap again where I feel better and go back to work, only to set my physical and mental health all back six months. Not today, Satan.

    • Doc_Paradise says:

      Gold star for good news! And a gold star for YOU!

    • CleverManka says:

      So glad you're allowing yourself to not get worked up about awaiting news. And good for you making that decision. I know (you know how I know) that's a tough thing.

      • redheadfae says:

        It's been weeks of grief and sorting out not feeling like a failure (yay, good old military work ethics), and if it weren't for my therapist being so supportive, I don't know that I would have made the decision on my own.
        It's scary the SSDI called it "Total Disability" because that sounds so serious and final, but the fact remains that it only means that you cannot do your full-time job, or anything less sedentary. You don't get much less sedentary than a call center.

  16. Doc_Paradise says:

    I just tried out Sally Hanson "miracle GEL" nail polish (my treat to myself for getting a flu shot). I'm favourably impressed. It went on easy, didn't smudge, and dried (cured?) quickly. It is supposed to last a long time and not chip so that's the next test. Then I'll see if it can be cleaned off easily.

    I like nail polish. Does anybody have a favourite brand or type?

    • LaxMom says:

      the revlon colorstay gel envy(not gel) that you use with the 'diamond' top coat lasted pretty well, too. And they have decent colors.

    • CleverManka says:

      My favorite (back when I had probably 100 bottles of polish) was Zoya, followed by OPI. If you're not wearing a gel (gels never appealed to me because I liked to change colors often), the topcoat by Seche Vite is amazeballs. Yay, nail polish!

    • pseudonymica says:

      I like the Sally Hansen miracle gel. Once I got it to last two weeks without chipping somehow – surely that can't be right? But pretty good. I think I've layered it too heavily the last couple of times, which makes it chip faster, but removal has been really easy. It's fun to peel off. I know that's bad.

    • Räven says:

      I also favor Zoya, which incidentally rated quite high in a study about whether these 'toxin-free' polishes are legit (some other brands are totally lying). They often have good sale (email list/FB page) offers. I find the polishes wear pretty well when I use one of their base coats.

      • Doc_Paradise says:

        What toxins do I have to look out for? *ignorant*

        • Räven says:

          Most brands have I think now eliminated formaldehyde and toluene (but like, really recently!). Zoya eliminates a couple more to bill themselves as "5-free" – I don't recall offhand all five but this is the new eco-standard – and there is a still higher level of virtue called "7-free" that clearly adds two more. I think there are fewer known carcinogens in most nail polishes now than a decade ago, tho!

  17. pseudonymica says:

    This week, yes, ugh. But I don't really want to leave the planet so much as tunnel into it.

    In satisfying passive aggressive news, last night I very securely (and decoratively!) masking-taped our bathroom light switch into the on position.

    Today I got lots of needles jabbed into my neck muscles by a physical therapist! I feel like I've been poked and prodded all week but this time it was for healing purposes, hopefully. It was interesting.

  18. Onymous says:

    Just talked to my brother. Told him our dad had offered to pay for my school (but don't tell your brother). We mostly talked about things that weren't that but that is what is going to stick.

    So A) I think I just permanently poisoned my brother against our dad B) I think I have permanently welded my brother to me.

    • Doc_Paradise says:

      My parents do that "don't tell so-and-so" thing. It's toxic. It poisons relationships in all sorts of directions. I think it is FANTASTIC that you didn't go along with it and if your brother's relationship with his father is poisoned… you aren't the one who poisoned it.

      • Onymous says:

        Oh absolutely, I haven't talked to my sister about it, but we three brothers "love him but don't necessarily like him"? It's kinda the same with my brother but he takes priority over my dad any day.

    • CleverManka says:

      The only "don't tell them" circumstance that's okay IMO is something like "don't tell them about the surprise birthday party" (if that person likes surprise parties) or "don't tell them about this great present I found for them."

  19. MLISCostFan says:

    It's been an interesting week. I got the cage crinoline kit for the Insect Queen (name suggestions?) project. Ordered some beetle pins. My partner in crime has located insect models for casting. We had talked at Costume College about my project and has jumped in. Yay!

    The den/craft room is close to done, I can smell it. The flooring was installed this week, but the baseboards aren't. So close, sigh.

    My brother had the nerve to ask my mom for money to help buy a house for them. AGAIN, this makes the third attempt. I'm getting to ripping out new holes for both him and his wife. Perhaps I should suggest to my mom that further requests will actually cause reductions in the Xmas/birthday funds and/or inheritance. Hmm.

    I'm feeling emotionally drained today. I found out this morning that a college friend/roommate had a brain tumor removed recently. 1-2 years baseline. She goes to Duke on Monday for 6 weeks of chemo, then to University of Florida for clinical trials.

    • LaxMom says:

      I'm sorry that your friend is facing cancer, there is not a single good thing about cancer.
      You are my costuming inspiration. I am jealous. Today I found out that I once again moved and lost the cord for my sewing machine–good thing there are 2 other machines in the house. Teenboy is making a cover for his sousaphone, this year he's going as the sun, and putting lights in the bell. I was told I was relieved from costume duty, girlfriend's mom was going to handle it all. And then he came home wanting to sew things after school. win!

      • MLISCostFan says:

        I feel strange being someone's costuming inspiration, but thank you. It's awesome that Teenboy wants to sew stuff.

        • LaxMom says:

          If I had time and money I'd spend it all doing costuming, I think (or yarn). I used to do theater costumes back before kids, it's actually what i began my undergrad in many moons ago. So I enjoy watching other people's costume progress…it gives me hope that eventually I'll have time for that again!

          The two boys had mandatory life skills class in middle school, and both learned to sew. Budget eliminated that class for Teengirl, but she does a lot of hand sewing on her own.

    • CleverManka says:

      Is there any reason you can't just use Insect Queen? Because that sounds bad.ass.

    • redheadfae says:

      Ugh, I'm so sorry about sibling shit and the brain parasite your friend had removed. All my best for her continued recovery.
      I like the name Insect Queen as well.

    • RoseCamelia says:

      Queen Mercury, No Escape From Reality
      Queen Elizabee

  20. faintlymacabre says:

    I survived the drive. Dog survived the drive. Car survived the drive. This is a win.

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