Friday Open Thread

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What weirdness do you have planned for the weekend/upcoming holiday?

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  1. Xolandra says:

    Frieeeeeeeeends. I travel to Toronto tomorrow with the express purpose of seeing Tori Amos and I am so stoked that i might actually die. Like, I am seriously worried that my heart will stop, having exploded from joy. Good thing GentlemanX just redid his first aid.

    It occurred to me today that I got sick for the exact same two week period this year that I did last year, and both years it prevented me from learning contouring so that my costume could include face. O WELL. Turns out I don't have a Hallowe'en party to take my Debbie Harry costume to _anyway_. Maybe next year!

    While in Toronto, I fully plan on eating at my favourite vegan anarchist punk cafe, D-Beatstro, and visiting my favourite little paper shop (although I in no way need any more stationary or ink), and maybe also Gerrard Street, which I have never managed to see. And also there will be record shopping (I got the new St Vincent yesterday, stoooooooooooooked, and a new Fever Ray dropped last night!) And I have two four hour train rides during which to hustle for my side-gig.

    O, and today I am wearing my favourite t-shirt from my favourite bar. It glows in the dark and reads "Special when Lit" on the back (said bar is a pinball bar).

  2. CleverManka says:

    The Burgomaster is gone this weekend so I am taking advantage of his absence to make a shit-ton of various bone broths. He can't stand the smell of simmering bone broth, which is both sad and highly inconvenient since bone broth is one of the key components to my gut-healing and the one brand AtN recommends is hella expensive. What with the bubbling pots and floating animal parts, it's gonna be a very witchy-looking weekend in my kitchen. The mood will be helped enormously by a fucking amazing apron that RoseCamelia gifted me. Pics of the apron and my Kesha show game face in a reply.

      • Thujaplicata says:

        Both of those looks are amazing! Where did you get your awesome witchy crown in the second picture?

      • vladazhael says:

        This is all fantastic. You should put that second one on a candle.

        I was going to do witchy things this weekend and finally make krupnik, but my partner in witchery and I have agreed that this week has been entirely Too Much and Friday night would be better spent being lazy in our own homes. So I send you my witchy vibes to use as needed.

        • CleverManka says:

          I thought it looked a little Pre-Raphaelite! =D And thank you, I need all the vibes I can get, I think.

          Enjoy your witchy laziness!

          • pseudonymica says:

            It looks entirely, beautifully Pre-Raphaelite! I was trying to think of what it reminded me of, and that's it precisely.

            (Ha ha, autocorrect always changes it to Pre-existing Raphaelite and then I have a brief existential crisis because what does it mean if these tendencies are pre-existing?)

          • CleverManka says:

            My long hair + pale skin + admirably sized schnozz = Pre-Raphaelite resemblance with the right lighting and very little other help. =D

      • Xolandra says:


      • Kazoogrrl says:

        You look glorious in both instances! And whoa, your hair is SO LONG now!

        I need to get a thrifted crock pot so I can render my own lard. I've heard that doing it outside is a good plan, so it might work for making slow cooker bone broth too.

        • CleverManka says:

          It's about halfway between my bra strap and waist when I pull it straight! Only cutting it once (maaaaybe twice) a year is just so much easier than maintaining an actual style. =D

          I've tried making chicken stock in a crock pot, but it's so so so tedious imo and is also too small for using whole chickens or making beef bone broth at all.

          • Absotively says:

            If your diet is going to include lots of bone broth for very long, an electric pressure cooker might be worth considering. It's probably a lot faster, and for most of the cooking time they don't release much smell. Mine is an Instant Pot and I really like it. I have the six quart, and my mom has the eight quart and says good things about it.

          • CleverManka says:

            Good to know! I'm not sure I want to add another kitchen item since I already purchased a freaking 20-quart stockpot for this, but I'll keep that in mind and ask AtN what she thinks of that method (a lot of easier/quick methods for broth making don't allow for the release of some of the minerals and nutrients we're striving to get back into my system).

          • Absotively says:

            It is useful for things other than broth, so it might have one advantage over the stockpot! On the other hand, the stockpot may well have been a good deal cheaper.

          • redheadfae says:

            I have one and have given away my crockpot, however, its volume is pretty much the same as my crockpot, so it's limited in how much you can make at a time 🙁

          • Kazoogrrl says:

            It does involve a lot of chicken carcass tetris. The weekend after Thanksgiving is stock-a-palooza at my place.

      • redheadfae says:

        I miss your face! Looking forward to seeking you.

        Mmmm… bubbling animal parts.

    • Heathered says:

      I wish I could smell that broth through the interwebs; I've never tried it and it's a little intimidating. I made corncob broth recently (so, corn bones?) and it was really shockingly tasty.

      • CleverManka says:

        Why is making broth so intimidating? I know exactly what you mean and even though I know it's not terrible, it's still so…daunting. If you'd like, I can scan and email you the instruction sheets that AtN gave me for the three different times. Or check out Mel Joulwan's recipe for golden bone broth.

        I've never heard of corncob broth, but I can imagine it would have a lovely flavor!

        • Heathered says:

          There was a good recipe for bone broth in the paper last week, I'm just worried I wouldn't like it or would also be squicked out by the smell. On Thanksgivings past I would go from "Wow, that smells great!" to "Please kill me" with the turkey over a five hour stretch. But it still sounds so delicious! Oh well, ramen packets have their charms.

          • Absotively says:

            If you have a crock pot, one nice thing about it is that you can leave the house while it does its thing, so you aren't around to smell it.

          • CleverManka says:

            The reason this is Broth Bonanza here is that the Burgomaster is out of town. Broth-making smell makes him nauseated. =( So that is a problem for some people.

            He tried to make me a set-up that I could leave the crockpot going in a little cage outside (to keep the animals out but still allow heat/steam to escape) and it was such a pain in the ass I only did it a couple times. =( YMMV, of course, so if it appeals, definitely give it a try!

    • jenavira says:

      oooooh enjoy your broth and floating bones; making bone broth is one of my very favorite parts of fall and winter.

      • CleverManka says:

        I just finished getting everything in the pots! The little animal parts are now sitting in their 30-minute pre-boiling bath. One chicken and one beef (I borrowed a stockpot from some friends so I can have two batches going at a time since I'm on a limited schedule, here.

  3. Flitworth says:

    Any and all weirdness will be unintentional and cause me social anxiety!
    There is a dinner of 4 sets of neighbors Saturday and if I don't say something incriminatingly awkward, husband will. For example, we had a playdate w/ tiny human's partner in crime and I ended up revealing that I read craigslist for the human drama – particularly M4M* – to people I just met.

    I am so ready for Taika Waititi's Thor: Ragnarok. I don't think that learning who the director of a movie was has ever gotten me so stoked. For the most part I just have a no-go list – I'm looking at you Woody Allen. >:P

    *For a few weeks someone was advertising a "menu" of handjob options.
    Someone in a neighboring town upgraded their glory hole ad to say it's "five star".
    I could go on.

  4. vladazhael says:

    My band has a show Saturday night, and I am told to expect most people to be in costume, and all my Halloween costumes of late are just recycled con things, so that probably means I'm going to be sweating my ass off playing bass in my X-wing pilot gear. Which… honestly is about the most "me" thing that could happen.

    Beyond that, I mostly plan to chill as much as possible and perhaps catch up on some Netflix, because it has been a rather heavy brain week.

  5. Kazoogrrl says:

    Dance practice tonight, soup (I'm making white chicken chili) and Korean facial product hang outs with lady friends tomorrow afternoon, and Sunday is supposed to be rainy so probably some chores and then . . . catching up on my 2 month back log of to-read fics? Creepy movies? Making dog biscuits? Knitting?

    • CleverManka says:

      Yay spa days with friends! Thank you for the thought–maybe I'll join you in spirit by digging out my rhassoul clay and do a mask, myself. If you find any real winners in the product trials, please feel free to share them. I never wear makeup anymore so am always looking for non-makeupy things to perk up my aging skin. =D

  6. Rillquiet says:

    The barn where I ride has a tradition of hosting a pre-Halloween trick-or-treating event where kids can go from stall to stall to collect their sugar fixes. The students and owners dress up the horses (the ones who'll tolerate it, anyway) and play (g)host in a usually vain attempt to keep the children from double-fisting straight out of the bowls. It's goofy and ridiculous, but the barn staff go all out on decorating the place and making sure there's good candy, and some of the horses' costumes are genius. (Some miss the mark; one year a Fjordie was dressed as the Cowardly Lion, but a passing parent looked at the frizzed-out mane and said, bemusedly, "Art Garfunkel?") Himself's owner keeps his costume secret most years, so I don't know what he'll be rocking, but last year he was a very sparkly be-caped Liberace, complete with tiny candelabra and a paper piano on his stall; in the past he's been a silver Tiffany charm, "horsefeathers," a handyman (with his tail hanging out of some XXXXL jeans), and a camel. I look forward to Saturday with interest!

  7. Merripat says:

    Eep I cannot believe I missed the open threads again for several weeks! I shouldn't blame the time difference because it's only an hour, but I'm doing it anyway 😀

    I am slowly settling in – it's a bit hard to meet people because I live with the first years and while they're all very sweet, they are so much younger than me! And I am constantly exhausted and don't sleep well, so don't really do much in the evenings. And all the clubs and societies I've tried out so far have turned out the completely unorganised 🙁 But I unexpectedly ran into an old acquaintance from home a few weeks ago and met her for coffee this week, that was nice.

    AND I decided to finally join Facebook because everything seems to be organised via fb (which annoys me greatly) and I figured it would keep my anxiety in check because I wouldn't feel left out all the time.
    And since I had already done that, I then decided to at least try Tinder because when if not now? (Or something) And actually had a very nice date four hour long date yesterday 🙂 – it was rather awkward in the end because he asked how many relationships I have had before and I couldn't lie and had to say no and then he said "ah I kind of thought so" and that made me extremely self-conscious. But he realised it wasn't great and apologised, and we are probably going to see each other again 🙂

    BUT actually I have another two dates tomorrow and on Sunday, with different men, because surprise surprise I am actually a cool person who does get asked out! Who knew! So that's my weirdness for this weekend, three dates in four dates, more than I had in the last four years in total 😀

    Have to run now, but will come back later and read all about everyone else's weird weekends!

  8. Chris McKitterick says:

    This is where I'll be this weekend, giving a talk and masterclass on SF writing at Mizzou (and hanging out with friends)! Anyone else going?

  9. meat_lord says:

    This weekend will be pretty much entirely taken up with NaNo prep and helping the datefriend and a dear pal get ready for the gore pageant.

    The gore pageant (it… probably has an official name, but I don't know it) is a gore- and horror-themed beauty pageant at our local drag bar. I'll help Datefriend build a Pyramid Head helmet/head, since they're doing a Silent Hill theme, and I know Dear Pal is planning some sort of striptease that includes intestines. This is all terribly My Jam.

    T updates to follow in a sub-comment!

    • CleverManka says:

      I shall again beg for pics if possible. This is, indeed, my jam as well. I don't even play video games but I saw a Pyramid Head cosplay at a horror con I went to a few years ago and it was jaw-dropping.

    • Xolandra says:

      a gore- and horror-themed beauty pageant at our local drag bar.


    • meat_lord says:

      T stuff:

      I've been on T for 7 months now and things continue to go well. Facial greasiness has calmed down (tho I did not anticipate what growing facial hair would do to my jawline and neck in terms of breakouts…. sigh). I have enough stubble to shave around my jaw, and I actually kind of dig it! Nothing much on the upper lip, which is fine by me.

      I've gotten quite hairy. Most of it cannot be seen in office clothes, but the hair on my arms is coming in darker and coarser. My voice has gotten deep enough/ is cracking often enough that I fielded my first "Oh no, you lost your voice and it's been that way for weeks!" comment from a coworker.

      I'm still figuring out how to present these changes, and how to navigate being closeted/ pretending to be cis while undergoing them.

      • CleverManka says:


        Sucks that you have to be closeted while you're doing this. I can't even imagine the frustration. Is it just at work that you have to present as cis? Do you have a place to revel in your changes in your private life?

        • meat_lord says:

          Happily, I am out as NB to my friends and immediate family–work is basically the only place I'm closeted. FWIW, I don't intend to come out at this job; I don't think my coworkers/ industry are ready for nonbinary people. I'm less frustrated than you'd think and more just glad that none of my coworkers have clocked me.

      • Fancy_Pants says:

        Ooooh! I LOVE the way my voice sounds when I have a cold and it gets all deep and raspy. I'm so excited for you that that's your real voice now!!!

    • Kazoogrrl says:

      This reminds me, a friend went to a Hannibal burlesque show last week in NYC, I need to see if I can find pics.

    • Lee Thomson says:

      I have to admit my imagine is completely halted at "striptease that includes intestines" – it all sounds amazing!

  10. pseudonymica says:

    I'm going to try not to overdo it helping PseudoMr vend at an oddities arts fair tomorrow – so undoubtedly lots of cool stuff and people and I won't be able to avoid overdoing it. And then decide if I have the energy/stupidity/joie de vivre to have PseudoMr pay too much for us to see a band we like a lot with friends.

    I'm getting depressed thinking about how much I can't do with my healthy social circle and how absurdly unhealthy my close social circle is right now – aside from PseudoMr, thank you PseudoMr! But he's a workaholic absent minded artist.

    I'm sorry for doing my thinking out loud right here, but I don't think I'd figure this out any other way. Maybe I should focus on the art fair, and how to get the most out of it. Based on the last one, for survival purposes I need to take a lot of water and snacks, remember to sit down most of the time. Dress up for Halloween fun and be happy with the friends I can see there.

    • Heathered says:

      Water and snacks for sure, and any little things you can line up that are reviving (a cup of tea or coffee, some pepperminty thing or other, a 15 minute power nap if there's somewhere safe you can crash). I hope you're able to enjoy it and have a good time!

      • pseudonymica says:

        A power nap in the car is doable and there will be enough trustworthy people around that it would be safe. I'm going to make that a must.

    • Absotively says:

      Are there any things you could invite your healthy social circle to do with you? If you can't do the things you usually do with them, they might still be willing to try things you can do.

      • pseudonymica says:

        Yes, actually the art fair is something that I know some are going to, so I just need to focus on the fact that I already have a plan that is more doable than a show at a club! And there are people who would be happy to just go out for tea. It's up to me to reach out to them instead of the unhealthy friends who usually consume the small amount of energy I have for socializing.

        • Absotively says:

          Oh good! Best wishes for finding a chance to talk to them a bit at the art show, assuming that that would be a good thing and not just a thing that would increase the odds of overdoing it.

    • CleverManka says:

      I think focusing on one thing at a time might be your best plan, here, and the art fair stuff sounds a lot more do-able than figuring out how to change/branch your social circles. I know what you mean by feeling limited with your social circles. There are weeks that go by with my only seeing the people at work and the Burgomaster. It's hard.
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  11. Heathered says:

    Weirdness here is just NaNo prep and anxiety (the library's having a kickoff event tonight so I hope to go and maybe steal someone's story idea since I hate mine now). Oh, and I tried fire cider for the first time yesterday, and got the ingredients to put up two jars of my own today. Expensive and murderously spicy, but I love the idea of just swatting down cold germs like whoomp.

    • CleverManka says:

      I've always been so intrigued by Fire Cider! Please let us know how it goes for you! Both the making and the taking.

      • Kazoogrrl says:

        I made it using this recipe, I follow The Great Kosmic Kitchen people. It's easy to make, and bracing to take. I don't know if it actually does anything for me, but I like the feeling of taking it, if that makes sense.

        • Lee Thomson says:

          that makes perfect sense – it is enough like something alcoholic to feel vaguely medicinal, and still exciting and in a smallish dose that you can recover without too much red-faced choking. That I can recover… I'm such a pasty-faced New Englander

        • CleverManka says:

          I love the implications at the end of the directions: "consume as desired."

        • jenavira says:

          Oh dang, that looks like the kind of folk remedy I need.

          (I've been making hot lemonade for sore throats, but with all this tooth trouble the last thing I need is something that strips the enamel off my teeth.)

      • Heathered says:

        The making involved a lot of coughing and weepy eyes from the horseradish and chiles! I chopped everything in the blender instead of grating or slicing, so it looks like a weird relish situation. The sample a friend gave me is delicious even without honey, bracing and tangy and weird, like liquid Wellness Formula. If mine is half as good I'll be delighted, and the pulp will make a pretty kickass soup base.

  12. jenavira says:

    I took the day off yesterday and it was glorious, I finally feel kind of human again. Of course now I'm looking at a week's worth of work that didn't get done (because I wasn't feeling human before the day off) and trying to figure out how to get caught up without burning myself out again. But! My upcoming vacation has been confirmed: I have the first week of January to myself.

    I think I'm going to offer Tarot readings on Tumblr for Halloween. I've been practicing for a long time but I haven't done many readings for other people, and I think it's about time to branch out.

  13. MLISCostFan says:

    Sunday, I’m working on my 1875 jade evening dress in a costuming workshop. Eek! I have costuming workshops for the next 3 Sunday’s! Mock dies.

    Otherwise, my craft room renovations are done, so I will moving 12 bookcases, 24 storage boxes in.

    Last “advertisement”, I have a closed (will be changing to secret) fb for my Insect Queen Project.

  14. Lee Thomson says:

    Just the good stuff:
    migraine meds tht work
    I am wearing a flannel shirt bc it is cold enough and it is making me absurdly happy
    ditto a long sleeved shirt
    the sun is out and it is gorgeous
    we needed ALL the rain we just got
    I get to see Paula Poundstone tomorrow night with the elder Crow (now 23, I have to start thinking of her, or just naming her, differently)
    the younger Crow is off on a geology field trip
    Mr Crow went to see Paul Krugman last night with the younger Crow and they had fun
    I'm starting the major arcana

    ALSO anyone with input on CBD and how it felt and did or did not change any part of their physical feelings pls weigh in? I talked to an intense young person at the Hemp store and started at roughly half dose and have no idea what I am anticipating but hope it might mitigate migraines

    • pseudonymica says:

      For me CBD has a subtle effect, where I suddenly realize that I've felt relatively better for an unnoticed amount of time, but otherwise I don't feel different. It seems to vary a lot from person to person but generally CBDs have a good record of helping many with few adverse effects. It wasn't miraculous for me though, so I would be wary of the words of intense young people at hemp stores to avoid disappointment. I live in Colorado and the spectrum of devotion at marijuana dispensaries is interesting. Some of the people are very knowledgeable. Some are way too stoned to be working.

    • CleverManka says:

      CBD oil (the strongest version) did miracles for my neck spasms–was it two weeks ago? I think so. I was immobile and any little movement (like bumps in the road when the Burgomaster took me to see the chiropractor) made me cry out in pain. Half a dropper of the oil and 20 minutes later, I could turn my head (slowly) without wincing! I believe it works best with inflammation issues so I'm not sure of its affects on migraines, but I hope it provides some relief for you.

      A friend of mine who uses it for general mood well-being (he has pretty bad depression and none of the regular mood meds work for him) says it's helped him a lot. He takes half a dropper a day.

      If it helps, the brand we buy is American Shaman (although the name makes me cringe). It's this one, the 750mg version.

    • LaxMom says:

      It was still too warm for a sweater here tonight, but I wore one anyway. It's weird having a last football game with no sleet or snow! Nobody's trumpets even froze to their lips!

      I found that progesterone cream really helped keep my migraines less frequent and less intense. But mine are 99% hormonal and predictable twice a month.

  15. LaxMom says:

    It is gorgeous out, but I am still getting over the germs my children shared. As a result I am quite disappointed in my writing/research goals this week, as well as all the other ones.

    Teengirl is also quitting jazz band (sigh), too many endings, even though I understand this is her showing me that she isn't her brothers going forward in high school.

    Teenboy finally sunk in that the first college app is due and NOW is freaking out about recommendation letters, despite me telling him for the past 6 months now…this weekend will be interesting.

    If I feel well there is a plan to hike the national park towpath and look at the river otters, and then go with Teengirl and my geoarch friend to shoot longbows tomorrow. Tonight is the senior parent night football game/last Teenboy marching band on the field night. I won't cry, but I might bite through my lip trying not to.

    T minus one week until thyroid doc. I need to stay sane until then. (or at least, not get any more in-sane).

    • CleverManka says:

      I hope you can get in your hike without stressing yourself. It sounds like you could use a soothing/comforting activity away from home obligations and emotional stuff.

    • LaxMom says:

      tonight was great! I managed to hang out with the band parents for an hour without saying anything at all to the ex, despite having to walk next to him. Then as we marched down the field with Teenboy, all the football players who I coached for lacrosse called out my name, too, it was really sweet. Then ApartmentBoy came to see his brother's last marching band game, and he and I went out for burgers after. Now I'm exhausted! We "lost" three band members though while they were announcing all the seniors…they were standing at attention for 15 minutes or so and started passing out like flies. Poor kids!

  16. redheadfae says:

    I'm looking forward to a lavish food bash tomorrow night for a friend's 60th, she's doing all her food herself and she's an AHMAZING cook. I just hope my guts settle down enough between now and then so I can enjoy the things I can eat.

    I'm also decorating sugar skulls she made for me. They are bigger than I expected, but I got new puffy fabric paints so I'm looking forward to trying them out on the skulls.
    CM, if you would like one, either decorated or not, let me know.

    • CleverManka says:

      Oh, I hope you get to eat at least some of the things you want!

      In theory, I would love a skull, but there is already waaaaaaaay too much shit in this house already. I'm gonna start getting rid of some fabric soon if I can find one of those people who sell your stuff on eBay for you that doesn't live in freaking St. Joe (which is the closest I've found so far).

      • redheadfae says:

        I think these are impermanent, the sugar is a bit fragile, and I'm sure after I use them on the altar, they are going in the garden to decay, so if that changes your mind…

        I'm sure that I've seen a biz here in town that sells your stuff, but OTOH, it sounds like something I could help you do. You might even try the BST group first, then there's no shipping hassle. I have a lot of shit to unload myself and need an impetus to get started actually DOING it.

        • CleverManka says:

          I didn't get an email notification for this reply! Hmph.

          I know there used to be a resell business downtown but I haven't seen it there in ages and online searches found me nothing. BST groups always sound like a good idea but tbh it would be easier for me to take stuff to the post office than it would work out a time for someone to come to my house. And this way I don't have to worry about questions, etc. If I find a seller that doesn't look shady, I'll let you know.

          • redheadfae says:

            Yeh, I couldn't find anything that wasn't expired for trading assistants either. I may give it a shot with a few items myself first and see how I do on eBay. Flat rate shipping is great and the Post Office provides all the boxes and envelopes.
            Oh, and if you set up a USPS account, they will pick up your shipments.. even BETTER.

          • CleverManka says:

            TBH the mailing is the least burdensome part for me. I really don't want to take pics, write up descriptions, post the listings, and deal with questions.

    • Lee Thomson says:

      ooo sugar skulls!! I love looking at them, I love doodling them – I even made a bunch for the Circle a Day project in 2012 for the month of October (I was sick for half of it, which is why that month is so small)

  17. Fancy_Pants says:

    I'm at the airport and am still kind of a nervous wreck, but I can feel the travel excitement starting to seep in. My flight got rebooked to three hours later than originally scheduled which was a minor miracle and let me actually get all my prep done today. Have a good weekend and Halloween festivities, everyone!

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