Mid-week check-in

Clever Manka, · Categories: Check-In

This is the weekly post for those of us who are traversing together this hellscape called Personal Growth. Brag about this week’s accomplishments, ask for support, talk about what worked, what didn’t. Tell us how things are going for you.

78 Responses to “Mid-week check-in”

  1. CleverManka says:

    Guess who's down with a nasty head cold? Heyyyyyyy!

    It started on Sunday night and I haven't been able to sleep more than two hours at a time since then because my throat hurts so bad. Saw Dr. Sexy this morning (I conveniently already had an appointment) and got a negative on the rapid Strep test (small blessings) and now I'm in bed with ginger tea and honey. The honey is such a treat after three (four?) weeks on the restricted diet. I feel like I'm setting myself back by re-introducing sugars but he said I needed to get my throat stuff under control so I could get some sleep. Two steps forward…

    I made six and a half gallons (!) of bone broth while the Burgomaster was out of town last weekend which exhausted me and I think that additional fatigue (on top of the Kesha concert) opened me up to infection. But hey at least I've got plenty of broth for being ill. Which is a good thing because solid foods make me sick right now.

    I'm probably gonna be sleeping a lot of today so advance apologies if I'm not terribly active on the check-in.

    • LaxMom says:

      I'm sorry you're not feeling well but I'm glad you've got honey and a warm bed to recuperate in.

    • Doc_Paradise says:

      Honey is amazing stuff. Anti-all-bad-stuff and tasty. Broth *two thumbs up*. May you improve rapidly and this be the worst cold/flu you get all winter. Good luck.

    • Heathered says:

      Assuming your diet doesn't allow for rice, but I'm sending virtual jook just for comfort's sake.

    • vladazhael says:

      Dear Manka's head cold,

      Could you just not?

      All of us

    • RoseCamelia says:

      Oh no. I don't want you to be sick. But if you must, I want you to sleep, at least. I can offer imagined comfort.

      My 19-pound CuddleBoy will lie still next to you, pressed against your thigh or hip, after you invite him up on the bed. He'll gently agitate, maybe his muzzle nudging under your forearm, until you put your hand on his thick black fur. He'll maneuver until your hand is where he prefers to be touched.

      If you change positions, he will politely move out of your way. When you settle again, he will tuck himself in wherever you have an inviting curve, behind your knees, against your tummy.

      One of you will fall asleep. If it's him, his steady breathing under your hand will calm you, remind you he trusts you, loves you completely and unconditionally, will help you be still, help you fall asleep. I know, because he does this for me.

      If you'd rather not have a furry little mammal on the bed with you, consider imagining this one. Imaginary dogs leave no fur on the comforter.

      • jenavira says:

        can I just take this opportunity to express how much I appreciate your imaginary dogs? I do not have the spoons to take care of a real dog, so I'm very grateful you're willing to share. <3

    • Xolandra says:

      O god damn, you just can't catch a break, can you? Big hugs, I hope that you are pretending to be a mermaid who has simply lost her voice.

    • Kazoogrrl says:

      That is an impressive amount of broth. I'm guessing you have a second freezer (oh, I want one SO MUCH).

      Dear Manka's cold,

      Fuck off.


    • Lynn says:

      Ugh, feel better! I don't know if the ingredients are things you can have, but when I have been in bad need of sleep with colds/sinus infections, Theraflu will knock me out for a reliable 4-6 hours . Plus it's a nice hot liquid for your throat.

    • jenavira says:

      Ugh. UGH. Sleep, enjoy your ginger tea and honey and soup, and feel better soon. (At least these kinds of things have a built-in time limit, right?)

    • Absotively says:

      Wishing you sore-throat-relief and restful sleep.

  2. LaxMom says:

    So I grossly overestimated the number of trick or treaters I would get last night and have OH SO MUCH CANDY left over (like 4 huge bags plus 2 bags worth in the bowls). Good thing it was chocolate that I will eat! Lol I will send it with my kids whenever.
    Teenboy isn't having good car luck. Last Monday's tree-on-car drama seemed over, but then there was an announcement at the beginning of the final band concert THIS Monday that someone's car had their lights on and he had to put down his tuba and leave in front of the audience to fix it. Turns out he "crashed" his car in the school parking lot–tried to park in the grass where everyone pulls aside to when the lot is full, and hit a manhole sticking up 8 inches in the grass. Bumper, lights, wheelwell, tire are all massively hit.
    OTOH, he took his friends out trick or treating last night (in dad's car) and I told him to make sure he stopped at my mom's (she lives in the boonies and gets no kids, so we always make a point of being her only trick or treaters). Apparently she opened the door to see them all and said she was going to cry! His comment "then we went down to see grandpa's train set in the basement, but really I was taking my friends down there to show off his sci fi collection" (he has three walls of a 50 year collection).

    Teengirl and I carved pumpkins and handed out candy. While looking for a movie to watch, I found something called "Kung Fu Yoga"? I said, "It's got something to do with Ninja archaeologists in Tibet?" and her comment was, "sounds like it has all your life goals". LOL .

    I see the thyroid doc in 2 hours. I'm nervous, what if he doesn't believe me!?

  3. Doc_Paradise says:

    I'm doing final prep and packing for my trip to Boston tomorrow. I'm travelling alone, something I rarely do, and so far I'm liking it. Of course, I haven't left yet… but, because it is just me I can make all arrangements without having to negotiate or compromise with travelling companions. That's different and pleasant. I'm really looking forward to all the meet ups with online friends. That's exciting.

  4. Heathered says:

    Did I tell y'all I went to an eye clinic last week and it turns out I need bifocals? Awww yissss, motha fuckin bifocals. I can't quite get my head around it. Oh well, NaNo day one and I'm roughly halfway to word count at 9:20 am, so yay for that. Oh, and I start a new medication this weekend that might turn me into a Tex Avery wolf, so I'm a little worried. Other than that, it's going to get cold and I'm gonna make soup. With motha fuckin croutons.

    • Kazoogrrl says:

      Earlier this year I was at the pet store attempting to read a cat food can and fuck, I'm squinting. I've had glasses since I was 7, and I am epically nearsighted, so I've been avoiding the reading glasses inevitability.

      • Heathered says:

        I've been using readers for about three years now, but sometimes it's a matter of putting multiple pairs on at once (trinoculars?) and trying not to set myself on fire, so this diagnosis should not have been a surprise. It just felt like being stomped by the Monty Python foot and then handed a card reading You Are Old.

    • LaxMom says:

      I thoroughly recommend bifocal contacts. There was no adjustment period whatsoever, and the only thing that is hard is reading vitamin labels and knitting with purple yarn on purple needles in the dark.

      • Heathered says:

        WhooOOOOooo, I am afraid of putting little bowls on my eyes, but I love the specifics of your recommendation SO MUCH. Just diggin' in to some purple on purple midnight knitting with the lights out, as a witch sometimes feels the need to do.

        • LaxMom says:

          LOL I needed a knitting project quick for a long field trip drive + weekend with undergraduate students and no internet, camping. Grabbed the first needles I found, which were knitpicks 'majestic' colorway. Also grabbed the first sock yarn I could find…which was grey and dark purple. Then tried knitting by headlamp. It was…doable? but not my preference! It was hard to tell the yarn from the needles. I do have light up needles, but not in sock sizes.

          I had to get bifocals REALLY quickly, because hard rubber balls were being thrown at me at 50 mph. It was important to be able to see the end of my stick to catch them, and to be able to duck when necessary!

    • redheadfae says:

      I love my progressive bifocals (no line). I also have contacts, one for distance, one for near and the brain figures it out (brilliant!).

  5. vladazhael says:

    I make the long trek to do my 3-week work remotely experiment in… 10 days. And this is GREAT and I'm really looking forward to seeing my manfriend and I all parties concerned seem fairly confident about the experiment, but I'm trying to get my shit together to be ready to go and maybe if work could not keep adding more shit, that would be great? Please?

    …and yet here I am goofing off.

  6. Lynn says:

    Well the funeral was awful awful awful. Everyone was devastated and sobbing — my whole mom's side of the family, my cousin's dad's side, his in-laws. I stayed home sick Monday because a week of crying is hell on your sinuses.

    While my mom was helping my aunt make the funeral arrangements, the governor's office called. My aunt has been lobbying them and all her state representatives to reverse the cuts to state funding for mental health resources (red state so no not much chance of it, but bless my aunt for trying). So she had a pretty strong example of why those programs needed to be funded. The governor is a narcissistic moron in the classic GOP mold so I have very little hope the message will actually get to her but maybe the person who talked to my aunt will at least have a little more compassion for this issue from now on.

    I am going to do nanowrimo because I need to get something positive out of this horror show of a year, and also I think it will be a nice distraction. I even tidied up my whole desk area so I'd have a good place to write.

    • Rillquiet says:

      <img src="https://gifimage.net/wp-content/uploads/2017/06/candle-gif-17.gif"&gt;

      There really aren't good words. But there are many good thoughts.

    • RoseCamelia says:

      Lynn, I am so sorry for your loss. I read about it when you first posted. My thoughts are with you and your aunt. What a helluva parent she is, lobbying the governor's office.

      • Lynn says:

        Thanks. I know she would never think of it this way, but my sole comfort in this is maybe eventually she can have time for her own interests again, after so many years of being his primary advocate. You could really see how much it was wearing her down, even these last couple of years when things were more stable.

    • Kazoogrrl says:

      I'm sorry Lynn, I hope sharing with us can help a bit. You're aunt sounds like an awesome parent.

    • Absotively says:

      That sucks. I hope that the funeral brought at least a little catharsis, or if not that then a feeling of not being alone in grief.

      And I also hope that NaNo is sufficiently distracting! I haven't done it in several years, but when I did I really enjoyed the in-person events in my area – if you want a distraction that gets you out of the house at some point this month, the NaNo forums for your region might be a good place to look.

    • Heathered says:

      I'm so sorry for your loss, and your family's loss as well. I hope NaNo offers you a place to process and/or escape as needed. Our ballot here is only one measure–more resources for mental health–and it failed last year so this is the second try. Praying for improvement (and more compassion) on all fronts.

  7. Absotively says:

    KonMari update: I made space on the dining room floor! And I moved all my bottoms from the living room to there, and I started checking them for joy, and then I realized that I still needed to sort them more first (into skirts/shorts/jeans/other pants etc) so I put back what I had checked and did that. I swear, I thought I had got all the jeans with holes in the thighs in my earlier pre-sort, but I was plainly very wrong. Still need to go retrieve bottoms that migrated from clothes mountain back into rotation during the delay and add them to the pile. Also gave up on plan to use discarded tops for folding practice and just folded them normally, so they are now all ready to go to the thrift store.

    Also, the pile of bottoms had been occupying the couch space with the best view of the TV, so after I moved them I finally got around to watching several more episodes of Avatar: The Last Airbender and episode four of Star Trek: Discovery.

    Hallowe'en update: I did cook the pumpkin. It did not come out well. I have had ok cooked carving pumpkin before, but I think this particular one was prehaps not meant to become muffins. Online research has revealed that some carving pumpkins turn orange before they're fully ripe, but the seeds seemed normal, so I don't think that's it. I did come across one blog post from someone who just carved a pie pumpkin and then cooked it, which seems like a sensible approach for next year, if I can find any pie pumpkins that look suitable for carving.

    Other plans: Netrunner tonight, going to a live performance of Dr. Horrible and Once More With Feeling tomorrow, probably watching the Netrunner world championship stream a bit this weekend.

    Health stuff continues to be meh, mostly at the moment due to stuff that has gone away in the past when I get enough sleep, so I need to focus on that probably.

  8. RoseCamelia says:

    Y'all, I'm better. Been in a low trough. Still climbing out.

    It helps immensely that I found a radio/CD player while unpacking. I went out and bought the new Kesha CD because the rest of the music is still packed Gourd Knows Where. Listened to a radio broadcast of Bruckner played by the Houston Symphony. I worked at my filing backlog all through the concert. And it felt great.

    Also helping is signing up for a couple of house sitting websites. I have one confirmed gig in January near our favorite crow, Lee Thomson. Another January gig is possible in California near my favorite uncles.

    • pseudonymica says:

      Good plan getting new music if the old stuff isn't available! Sometimes I kick myself because I forget to give myself regular doses of that important consolation.

      I'm in Denver and visit northern New Mexico so let me know if you find a gig in that region of the country.

    • Heathered says:

      I'm sorry to hear you've been feeling low. Moving so often starts with excitement and ends with a total health collapse for me. It's like trying to play Whack-a-Mole with your whole life and everything in it, and things just will not stay put. I hope the travel and house sitting offers you some new vistas and a general sense of hitting "refresh" when it happens.

      • RoseCamelia says:

        Every. Fucking. Time.

        You nailed it. I have a mental health collapse with every move. After, if I'm lucky, sometimes During. This one is After.

        It is so, so good to be understood. Thank you, friend.

  9. RoseCamelia says:

    Over the weekend Houston had high temps reach only the 60s. I was so excited at the hint of autumn that I wore a cardigan! It was my lightest cardigan. But it was not actually cool enough outside. I had to wear it with shorts and hiking sandals.

    Cardigan on top, bare from knees to toes.

    I shook my sweaty fist at Houston's weather, but could not force it to comply with my desires.

    • Kazoogrrl says:

      It's supposed to get into the 70s the next two days, right after J caved and turned on the heat while working from home today. Ugh!

    • Onymous says:

      "Cardigan on top, bare from knees to toes."

      aka the lady mullet.

      I sympathize, I remember those ambitious days of wearing pants because I hadn't used the AC the day before, and how horribly that ambition ended for me.

  10. Jen says:

    This Halloween was the worst Halloween in history. Had to put old pup down – we found out during what we thought was going to be a routine 'oh your dog has an ear infection/cold/etc' visit that turned into …. found a mass…emergency visit to better hospital… to hemangiosarcoma… bleeding lungs… fucking hell. I'm at work because I don't want to be home RN. escaping my reality with that and neopets RN. yes I am a supernerd – holla.


    we have/had/whatever no fucking chocolate halloween candy in the house. fuckity fuck fuck.

  11. Kazoogrrl says:

    The Women of NASA Lego Set went live last night at midnight, so I stayed up to snag one for J for Yulemas. I'd actually proposed skipping gifts and only stuffing stockings, but this may be small enough to meet that criteria.

    Other than that I'm girding my loins to pull out my resume. I hate applying for jobs with a passion that astounds me, but something promising was posted so I have to get off my ass.

  12. Xolandra says:

    O Mankanauts. Today I live the Scorpio life – highest of highs and lowest of lows. More later (ESEPCIALLY A TORI REPORT, if you like), but for now, my management and my HR can suck a lemon and be… traumatized by smelling a trashfire. *flips table, stalks off in pretty new shoes*

    • RoseCamelia says:

      I love your new shoes. Very pretty. May HR and management suffer all the consequences. Suffer.

      • Xolandra says:

        Aw, thank you! They are suede and have purple flowers embroidered on them, and I just learned that they do not meet military causal dress code, so I think I am doing something right 😉

  13. jenavira says:

    Whelp, I dressed up for Halloween yesterday, but it took all the extra spoons I had apparently and now I'm completely drained. And it's the first day of NaNo, the second day of my work week, and I have a program to give at the library tonight! Hooray. *waves the white flag*

    I'm also having just a Bad Brain Day all around, and I am trying very hard to treat myself with compassion and kindness, but wow is it hard work today.

  14. Rillquiet says:

    A minor triumph, but at practice this week I told a partner that I was slow through a turn series he was trying to lead because I get badly dizzy if we do more than two in a row. And he's one of my favorites in part because his reaction was, "That's a thing it's okay to tell me and anybody you dance with! I didn't know or I wouldn't have led it, but I know you'll need to remind me, too." (My regular teacher has also offered that it's fine to slow all the way down and enforce a less rapid turn by sheer force majeure–leaders lead, but followers decide how to accept–but I'm still working out the timing on that.)

    Himself is going on a couple of weeks' vacation starting tomorrow, so I get a few Saturday mornings back. Late Friday nights, sleeping in on Saturdays, or both?

  15. pseudonymica says:

    I was really depressed about how little I could do for Halloween (it's goth Christmas and I'm a goth lifer), and even that small amount was too much for my feeble broken brain and body, boohoo etc.

    But there were high points. The best part, perhaps dangerously – okay, let's get this alarm bell part over: I'm hanging out with my narcissistic heroin addict ex again after successfully cutting him off for months. We have eight years of evil twin history I'm a lot stronger in regard to him now.

    Yay! I need to let that sink in: mostly I'm weaker now than I used to be, but I'm stronger when it comes to dealing with him. I won't deal with him when he's high or actively seeking a high, for example. At other times his stamina and feeling of wellness match mine nicely.

    Anyway, he had the idea to make paper plate masks since we had been too sick/depressed/broke to do anything more for our favorite holiday. The pure childish joy was fantastic! We broke out the glitter and pipe cleaners and refused to cater to our usual perfectionism. PseudoMr declined to make a mask but we three had fun together, passing out candy.

    • redheadfae says:

      I understand that feeling. I'm sad I didn't dress up or makeup or barely even showed up. In Shake My Fist fashion, I'm leaving up the decorations.
      This is the first Halloween in about 20-odd years that I haven't had a black cat.

  16. Onymous says:

    I still haven't checked in with a counselor like I said I would a month ago.

    Sorry about that. I'll try to tomorrow.

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