Mid-week check-in

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This is the weekly post for those of us who are traversing together this hellscape called Personal Growth. Brag about this week’s accomplishments, ask for support, talk about what worked, what didn’t. Tell us how things are going for you.


149 Responses to “Mid-week check-in”

  1. jenavira says:

    I just realized that if I'm having Thanksgiving on Sunday (which I might be, depending on a variety of people's schedules), I need to buy my turkey tonight, which has dramatically adjusted my plans for tonight. Alas.

    I broke down at my dentist appointment on Monday, which was all kinds of fun, but I seem to have recovered more quickly than I expected to: I feel pretty okay today, and while I'm annoyed at my change of plans, it isn't ruining my day. Still. Crying at the dentist. (And they forgot to file down the bite on my new crown, so I really ought to call and see if I can get in sooner than my next appointment in two weeks, but ugh I'm so tired of spending every goddamn day at the dentist.)

  2. damngoodcoffee says:

    I had to teach in a class last night so get to leave early today, which is quite nice. 🙂 I am also taking off tomorrow and finally seeing the new Thor movie. After work I'm getting some comfort food (including a gluten free carrot cupcake b/c my bday's coming up next week :)), catching up on laundry & Stranger Things.

    Last night's class, however, got me thinking about how I really have grown (and am continuing to grow) in my role as an instructor. I definitely do not consider myself a teacher, and as a librarian, the way I interact with students is fundamentally different from the faculty here (in ways that put me at both an advantage [I rarely have to do any grading] and a disadvantage [I go into other people's classes and instruct, and don't get to build up a rapport with the students]). But I'm miles more comfortable now going into classes and interacting with an entire class of students at once, prompting them for questions and going into detailed explanations that prompt even more questions. I'm even getting slightly better at planning active learning activities, which has always been a struggle for me.

    Your quote for today, however, is definitely on point. One of the things I do really need to work on now, though, is dealing with my anxious thoughts on a day-to-day basis. I cannot afford therapy rn, so I am looking into free resources (like those from the Captain Awkward list on here a while ago) and self-help techniques to step back from my own thoughts when I need to.

  3. damngoodcoffee says:

    Oh, and this is more for the roundup, but this article: http://www.vulture.com/2017/11/louis-c-k-and-sepa… makes some really good, interesting points, I thought, particularly about 'death of the author.'

    • CleverManka says:

      Women’s work is individual and relational; it is about the person. Men, meanwhile, write about ideas and arguments. They can somehow stay separate.

      SO GLAD someone finally wrote about this, and with a really good article. Thank you for sharing it.

      • damngoodcoffee says:

        I love that part; the whole 'death of the author' thing is always something I've liked in theory, but it also felt like it was excusing/dismissing bad behavior of certain auteurs in a way I was super uncomfortable with. And there are a lot of male creators out there where you can clearly see their biases present in their work, and not acknowledging that doesn't sit well with me.

    • Onymous says:

      That's a weird article for me. Everything it says is true in the general sense… but I stopped with Louie CK in like immediately after he broke with 'everything is great but we're all miserable". I could write thousands of words on why he is awful.. so it's weird that people are just now reckoning with him, when his entire career has been "I'm terrible: laugh because it's universal".

    • Lee Thomson says:

      because women are representatives of their gender, always, everywhere, in all things and at all times, while dudes remain individual and are judged as such.

  4. Kazoogrrl says:

    Today! I! Bought! Plane Tickets!!!!

    I hate travel planning, so from here on out it's one big growth experience. On the other hand, going to London is bringing my goth side out in force. Looking at: West Highgate Cemetery Tour. Tower of London Tour. Candlelit Shakespeare at the Wanamaker Theater at the Globe.

    Oh, outfits. I'm going to post occasional ones to Instagram and will link here when I have them. Today, fairly boring grey Old Navy short sleeved dolman top and jeans, with a witchy but getting ratty Target hoodie, and motorcycle boots. It's a little Han Solo Season with the jeans/boots, may not do that again. Necklace is vintage from Etsy, made of horseshoe nails. Here you go!.

    • Lynn says:

      Travel planning is the WORST. But London is so much fun! I am still mad at myself that I couldn't get things together to go back when my brother was still at the military base in England.

      My fun London story is that when I went in college we saw the Royal Shakespeare Company and only years later did I realize that the super engaging lead actor (who actually messed up a complicated comedic speech and had to backtrack in the production we saw) was David Tennant. Which just proves that my hoarding of all the programs for any production I've ever been to is a good idea.

      • Kazoogrrl says:

        I was hoping to get out of the city and see some small villages/countryside, but I think without a car it might not happen. I just want to stand on a hill/moor and pretend I'm Kate Bush.

    • CleverManka says:

      Love it! That hoodie is fantastic. IMO that sort of design only gets better as it gets rattier.

      Congratulations on the tickets! SO EXCITING!

      • Kazoogrrl says:

        It also traps pet hair, which may make it warmer but shortens it's work-appropriate life.

        We're plotting lots of scotch, whiskey, and beer stops.

    • damngoodcoffee says:

      London is so suited for bringing out our inner goths, I feel like. This sounds like such a wonderful trip!

    • Fancy_Pants says:

      Oh hey, that's my exact aesthetic. I love the outfit.

      Yay, tickets! Travel planning is the worst. I always find that if I can get drunk or a lil overcaffeinated or otherwise uninhibited and just book a bunch of stuff all at once, that narrows my options enough to make the rest of planning less anxiety inducing. Travel is too unconstrained of a problem for me to enjoy working on. Good luck, it's gonna be great!

      • Kazoogrrl says:


        I worry about getting the details right, my friend is much more relaxed. Between the two, I think we'll do ok, though I will continue to freak out until then. Also, I hate flying.

    • jenavira says:

      Congratulations on the London trip and also on your intensely witchy outfit, both excellent.

      The only place I wanted to go from London was Portsmouth, and I found the day trip entirely painless (especially as an American with…very different ideas about distances and public transit). Hopefully you will be able to stand on some moors!

    • vladazhael says:

      I am of the opinion that there is nothing wrong with Han Solo Season other than the fact that it covers up some of my Star Wars tattoos, but I don't think you stepped too far into that world anyway. Excellent witchiness!

    • Lee Thomson says:

      London! I want to go back to London, we got pressed for time, and there's still walking I want to do.

      Have an EXCELLENT time!

  5. Lynn says:

    Raven if you're here I did see your Habitica message but I am on a train with bad wifi so I'm not sure my response went through. Will pick a quest by tonight when presumably I will be at a hotel with better internet.

    I am totally using the bad wifi as an excuse not to work but I wasn't really planning on doing much today anyone because I am doing a HUGE favor for my colleagues by going down to D.C. for this conference early so I can scout some hotels for events we're going to run next year. Also because my three day weekend got ruined by having no heat or hot water for most of it (and getting my apartment completely stunk up by my chainsmoking super).

    So, uh, anyone else have a really strong emotional response to last week's Crazy Ex-Girlfriend? I will put mine in the reply in case you want to avoid depression talk.

    • Lynn says:

      SO, I probably would have cried regardless, but still being in the middle of grieving my cousin made that last scene so terribly hard. And the kicker was that it was when she actually signals the flight attendant and asks for help that I lost it — given that my most fervent wish right now is that my cousin had said something, anything about his mindset to any of his friends or relatives.

      I think it was a very true depiction of how depression brain can skew your thinking to make suicide seem like a good option, but the unfortunate timing put me in a really bad emotional place for days.

    • CleverManka says:

      No heat or water? UGH that is a shitty weekend. Smoking smell is just insult to injury. Hope it's cleared up by the time you get home from D.C.

    • Kazoogrrl says:

      I hope DC treats you well, though the weekend issues suck.

    • Räven says:

      No pressure on a quest!!! Kick something off when you can, or request something and someone will buy and start on your behalf. 🙂 I hope you enjoyed the train ride. I find a train very restful, myself, and an easy way to pass the time.

  6. littleinfinity says:

    Today's clusterfuck is brought to you by broken elevators and building management that won't let us use the staircase! We just moved into a new office and the bathrooms on our floor aren't even finished yet, so we have to take the elevators two floors up to pee. Which is annoying but basically workable in the short term … but today there is only one functioning elevator out of four, and my work buddy got stuck in it for 10 minutes with a bunch of other panicking people when it went haywire and froze between two of the floors. I am now terrified of the elevator, so I guess I live at the office forever now and I'll pee in my trashcan, NO BIG DEAL.

    • Lynn says:

      I wish I could loan you our COO for the day, who would probably already have scorched the ears of your building management with a rant on how that is NOT ACCEPTABLE. (At our old office she frequently had to intervene because of broken bathrooms or elevators, so I feel you.)

      • littleinfinity says:

        It is so NOT ACCEPTABLE! I don't know how they are justifying this, any cost they're saving is surely offset by lost productivity and whining.

    • meat_lord says:

      Arrhghghghhhh. My condolences on this elevator/bathroom situation.

    • CleverManka says:

      That is incredibly shitty. I would say "why can't they just let you all go home" but I work at a university where our entire building once lost all power for over two hours and they made us just sit around until things came back on. Oh, and over half the building worked in basement offices with no windows. So.

      • littleinfinity says:

        Yepppp that is about the shape of it! My boss might let me go home but ironically that requires getting in an elevator, so I think I might just sit tight and hope everything gets fixed soon.

    • Kazoogrrl says:

      I'd do it.

    • redheadfae says:

      Getting stuck in an elevator with a group of panicking people is one of my worst nightmares.
      :passes you a wide-mouth jar:

      • littleinfinity says:

        I know, so glad it didn't happen to me! ughhh. Luckily, the elevators seem to be fixed now, but I'll take the jar anyway just to be safe.

    • Lee Thomson says:

      that's appalling! I am outraged on your behalf, and I hope you make it out of the building safely and why exactly are you not allowed to use the stairs???

      There is a thing I thought I'd have to invent but didn't. I called it a porta-peni, to let women pee standing up, but apparently they are a thing, and that and a wide mouth jar would indeed serve you very well, and also be a fairly strong statement of protest? The actual thing is https://go-girl.com/

      • littleinfinity says:

        Made it out safely!  I have seen the GoGirl, it's a great invention. The first time I went to Burning Man, we were far from the portapotties so J made me a pee funnel out of half a water bottle and a bike innertube (to be aimed into a large sparkletts bottle for later disposal, just like the boys did).  It was a surprisingly sweet and thoughtful gift, considering it was a toilet accessory made of trash. 🙂     

  7. Doc_Paradise says:

    I'm baaack…

    My trip to Boston was fantastic. I'm still processing it all. Basically, I stuffed my brain full of experiences and discussions, and now I'm sorting through them. It was EXACTLY what I needed.

    Lee and I saw WHALES! They were amazing… seasickness was now… BUT WHALES! We also had a lovely discussion over seafood (so much wonderful food on this trip) and floated the idea of having a Mankanaut gathering. (Who would be up for something like that?) It was wonderful to meet Lee… much excellent adventure and conversation was had.

    • meat_lord says:

      Your trip sounds delightful! I'm glad you had a great time with whales and food and good company.

    • Kazoogrrl says:

      Yay travel! I'd probably be up for a meetup, depending on finances and already booked travel.

      A coworker just got back from Boston and said he loved it, so maybe it should be on my "sometime" radar.

      • Doc_Paradise says:

        My opinion of Boston/Cambridge/Somerville is that, if it were in Canada, I would have come home and tried to sell the guys on moving.

        • meat_lord says:

          Boston is my #1 choice for my Next Place To Live, honestly.

          • Doc_Paradise says:

            I'll come visit you. 😀

            edit: Actually… I've already promised everyone (and myself) that I visited in Boston that I will come visit again. It was 8 years since my last visit… I intend on being quicker than that next time.

        • Flitworth says:

          I miss living in Somerville sooooo much. I'm banned from saying anything about our total lack of sidewalks in the stix. Granted, can't have goats in Somerville but ….sigh.
          When I moved away from Boston the first time I comforted myself(?) by walking around Cambridge and reminding myself that never ever would I be able to afford to live in a house there, or even a nice condo.
          There is much to recommend it though.

    • CleverManka says:

      So glad to hear the trip was so fantastic!

      Also, I would love to meet up with a group of people, but alas I don't know that I'll be up to traveling even in the next year. *sigh* If you all put something together, though, I'll obviously give it my full endorsement. =D

      • Doc_Paradise says:

        Would it be more workable if it was near you and you could just drop in for a short period?

        • CleverManka says:

          Definitely, but good lord I don't want anyone to have to spend vacation days in Kansas City. =D

          • Doc_Paradise says:

            That bad? (I know nothing about Kansas.)

          • CleverManka says:

            I mean, I think so? There are cool spots to be found, but…ehhhh. I would never suggest it as a location for any other reason than it's in the middle of nowhere, which means nobody would have to travel completely across the entire continent. Most of the good stuff is on the Missouri side, anyway.

            Of course, if I suppose people are just hanging out in the hotel rooms and chatting or whatnot, it doesn't really matter. But as far as Things To Do and Places To Eat, it doesn't really qualify as Big City, imo.

          • Doc_Paradise says:

            Good point. It would probably be more of a Hang-In than a Hang-Out. Although… with all the cooks here… if we got a place where we could cook then we could always split up the prep and grocery chores for some of it.

    • RoseCamelia says:

      I missed you. Welcome back.

      I'd do anything to make a Mankanaut gathering happen. Seriously. Let me know what needs doing.

      • Doc_Paradise says:


        My guestimate on what we'd need to do to get the ball rolling starts like this:

        – What levels and quality of interest do we have? (ie Who would come? Under what conditions/requirements/etc?)

        – Who has organizational experience with this type of thing? (ie Who knows how to set something like this up… advice, not necessarily volunteering to organize it… I don't.)

        • jenavira says:

          I am fully in support of a self-catered Manakanaut Hang-In. (I have a trip to St Louis I have to get in sometime soonish, which puts me more than halfway there.) I would absolutely come so long as I had a couple months' heads-up to get the time off work, but I do not have spoons to do organizing right now.

    • Fancy_Pants says:

      Yay for good travel!!!

      Ooh it would be so cool to hang out with some of you! It would obviously depend a lot on timing and location. It would particularly be great if I could roll it into another trip (for example if we went to the Manka Homeland, I might tack on a visit to my Chicago friend). I will definitely be following meet-up chatter with interest.

    • vladazhael says:

      I am Very Much Interested in a gathering, though my time and resources for the foreseeable future are likely to be dedicated to my relocation, so it's hard for me to promise that I would definitely show up.

    • Lee Thomson says:

      I send you an internet hug because WHALES! and it was SO GOOD to see you and talk for so long!!

      Welcome home too. I am so pleased when people like Boston, it feels personal somehow.

  8. CleverManka says:

    What. A. Morning. Emails from entitled undergrads, a lack of response on an urgent visa issue (and the resulting numerous follow-up emails to everyone involved), then schooling some old white dude on the importance of personal pronouns (who assumed I'd share his shitty opinion because we have an acquaintance in common). Oh, and then a really weird (and long) phone call that I can't go into because of legal issues, but it was…it was fuckin' weird. All before noon! Ooof.

    I'm starting to eat better (I made a soup I actually liked and roasted a chicken that wasn't absolutely flavorless), but last night I had one of my mysterious stomach pain episodes and that's kinda put me off eating today. Hurray for having CBD oil in the house, which eased it enough that I could fall asleep. I'll take some more oil before my nap to try wiping out the residual soreness and maybe be able to eat a late lunch.

    I've been having stressful dreams over the past week. Nearly one a night and sometimes two. I usually am not bothered by dreams but I think the accumulation of so many unpleasant ones over the past week or so are not helping my cortisol levels.

    Wish I could start my nap right now, but I can't leave early. And today's one of the two days a week I have to walk home. At least it's not freezing today.

    • Doc_Paradise says:

      Ick. Is it possible that some of the dreams may be exasperated by hunger? I keep dried apricots by my bed for that reason, but I know you can't do that right now… perhaps broth?

      • CleverManka says:

        Huh! I hadn't even thought of that. AtN wants me to stop eating anything heavy after 5:30 but tonight I'll try a decent-sized (larger than what I've been eating) portion of protein right at 5:30 and then a cup of broth (with some added fat) half an hour before bed. Thanks for the idea!

    • damngoodcoffee says:

      My colleagues and I have been dealing w/uber frustrating patrons recently, I so do not have the patience to deal with it; go you for schooling the old white dude, though! I hope that your food/sleep situations improve, and that eating a bit more at night per Doc_Paradise's suggestion helps.

      • CleverManka says:

        It helped that the (awesome) person in the office across from me was making hilarious hand gestures to me behind the dude's back. We had a good rant-laugh about it afterward.

    • redheadfae says:

      That's entirely too much blech for one morning!
      I'm glad the CBD oil is helpful.

    • littleinfinity says:

      Yay CBD! But boo stress dreams, I'm sorry you've been dealing with that 🙁 It is horrible to feel like you can't even relax when you're asleep. I know THC tends to inhibit dreams but I have no idea if CBD has any effect on dreaming… maybe worth looking into? Hope you get a good nap, maybe walking will tire your brain out enough to get some quality sleep. <fingers crossed>

      • CleverManka says:

        Well, since the stress dreams have been going on for a week and last night was the first time I used the oil since my neck spasm problem last month, I don't think it's the culprit.

        Nap was good but I woke myself up snoring? WTF, I have never been a snore-r in my life…

        • littleinfinity says:

          Yeah, I didn't think that was it, but <shrugs> bodies are weird? And oh man, I never used to snore but lately J tells me that I snore all the time! I don't wake myself up doing it (YET) but I am somewhat horrified at this new trick my body learned.

    • vladazhael says:

      This CBD oil… have you found it effective at all for headaches and/or neck pain and/or sleep? Because these are my three main fleshprison issues and I feel like there's probably a more responsible treatment regimen out there than NSAIDs and liquor.

      • CleverManka says:

        I have heard mixed reports on how it helps headaches, and I haven't used it for one, myself….er, or did I? I seem to remember now that I think about it, that I did try it for one of my sinus headaches and since I don't remember the headache going away easily, it must have not helped me. But it worked miracles for my neck spasms (and abdominal pain). I haven't noticed if it affects my sleep. If you can afford it, it certainly can't hurt to try it. It would be much kinder on your stomach lining, yes.

        I have this brand (because they have a store right by my house).

  9. Absotively says:

    I finally assembled my new table. It is at a good height for folding laundry, and will provide a not-the-floor space for stuff sorting in the room with good light. It's a bit on the tall side, but I haven't actually sat at it at all, so I don't know if it's a problem. Still need to mount the cupholders and flatten/bag all the packaging.

    I have finally remembered that black Friday is a thing, even in Canada, so my current broken-TV-replacement plan is to wait for that. May post to Facebook to see if I know anyone who will help me transport televisions. Hoping to finish KonMari-ing clothing by then so clothes mountain won't be in the way of putting a new TV up. Finished Book Two of Avatar. Watched the first third of this week's Star Trek: Discovery episode. Am definitely still worried about Stamets.

    Have been playing this idle game on and off. Progress is very slow. So far it's pretty much what it looks like, a game where you build a town in a catnip forest populated by kittens.

    So a month ago I was complaining that the pill was doing good things for various symptoms I hadn't even expected it to affect, but the dummy week was lousy, but I was going to give it a third month and see if the next one was better before complaining to my doctor and asking about the extended cycle kind? Update on that: Third dummy week has actually been just fine. I was skeptical that giving this a full three month trial would work out, but there it is. Just need to pick up the refill, which I was delaying in case I was going to be making a switch.

    • Doc_Paradise says:

      That game sounds adorable… the link doesn't work though.

    • CleverManka says:

      Oh, aren't experiments on our bodies fun? I just love it when things take longer than you'd hoped to get results, too. Good on you for sticking with it to get the information you needed.

      • Absotively says:

        Thanks! I've had two different formulations of the pill not work well for me, and for both sticking it out for three months didn't help, so I'm pleasantly surprised by this.

    • Absotively says:

      Oh, also: Am trying to stop cracking my neck. That's going surprisingly ok.

      • littleinfinity says:

        Glad it's going well! Why are you trying to stop, any specific reason or just trying to break the habit? I ask because I am a chronic joint-cracker.

        • Absotively says:

          There is a thing where sometimes my left foot/hand/cheek feels kind of slightly numb, but not really, and I do crack the left side of my neck more, and I am 99% sure that these things are not related but I've decided I'd be happier being 100% sure that I wasn't contributing to the problem with a bad habit.

          And I'm a bit self-conscious about it, so there's a bit of just trying to break the habit in there too.

          • littleinfinity says:

            Hmm interesting! I'm not usually self-conscious about it, but I have had moments of "oh god I am now my mother" when I catch myself cracking my knuckles sometimes. Just because I remember being little and seeing her do it, and thinking how does she make that noise with her fingers?

          • Absotively says:

            Well, at this point in time I'm not trying to stop cracking my fingers. Or my toes, ankles, upper back, or lower back.

            Some of those might be follow-up projects, but some I just don't care about.

          • littleinfinity says:

            If I was not allowed to crack my lower back I would be basically immobile in hours (is my completely scientific self-assessment). It just loosens up my back and hip joints and feels SO much better.

          • Absotively says:

            I only crack my lower back when it's really stiff, and usually not in public, so it's definitely one of the areas where I'm unlikely to make any effort to stop cracking it!

    • Lynn says:

      Well I needed something to play for the next three evenings while I can't access my Stardew farm.

      It took a full four months before I stopped having side effects to the pill they put me on this summer. I was dubious when I learned in month three my particular side effects could last for at least four but almost like clockwork they eased as soon as I hit the 4th dummy week and haven't returned.

    • Räven says:

      …Okay, I have two trade ships and the zebras are such jerks. What has happened to my week….

  10. Fancy_Pants says:

    Hello lovelies, my south america trip is starting to wind down. I just finished a short (2 day) solo trek in the mountains where I saw NO ONE, not one single human, on the trail (and only like 3 dudes and a cat at the mountain hut for the night). It was the most alone I've ever been in my entire life.

    There were a lot of objectively shitty things about the hike. I was feeling generally weak starting out so the nonsense elevation gain was HAAaaard on me, parts of the trail were covered in snow and the trail markers were sometimes hard to find, there were verrrry fee accessible drinking water sources. BUT, I just…powered through it.

    Maybe now I will have convinced myself that I am a capable and independent person? I feel pretty capable at the moment.

  11. Flitworth says:

    I just gave a 2nd remote training. No questions. From anybody. It was awful. No feedback means I don't know if the training was bad or just nobody cares about their job (high probability) or what. We try to save money by having everyone remote and never going to a physical place for classes with other live beings and I'm sure the result is lower quality all around.

    I showed my hand to a coworker about my desire to leave. I was keeping cards close to my chest but since he also is laying an escape route if things don't change, it's not such a big deal. At least three of us (out of 7) have one foot out the door and I will be surprised if that isn't true of at least one other (upcoming nuptials and new babies are the only drag factor for 2).

  12. redheadfae says:

    So.. still shambling through this life.. trying to figure out why I had three lovely days of normal poo, only to go right back to my IBS-D style of mornings starting yesterday again. Been wondering if it's Gastroparesis, since one of the causes of that is.. peripheral neuropathy!

    I'm seriously considering fostering a little kitten or ferret, just because I so dreadfully miss my furry companionship now that Jbird's back to work. Something very very short-term, anyway.
    I've taken to throwing peanuts out for the squirrels since the crows haven't been about much since my birthday night. I miss magpies all of a sudden.

  13. vladazhael says:

    Day 3 of the Project Hoth remote work trial, and so far, so good. I am keeping up with necessary work tasks (at least from my perspective) and I have yet to go mad, though yesterday's full gloom during all of the daylight hours made it rough. Today was better with an errand walk and some honest sunlight, so I think I'll have to incorporate some forced physical health time into this routine. Extra special bonus: headaches have for the most part been better since I've been here. I don't know if that's actual improvement based on better workstation posture and more frequent movement and regular dog walks and such, or just that I've fallen asleep on the couch so many times that I've undone my physical therapy and everything is back to its original wrecked position and no longer hurting from improving muscular habits… but it's nice to not be downing handfuls of ibuprofen on the regular. I hope that continues, and for the right reasons.

    • CleverManka says:

      Oh dear–I hope it's improvement based on the former! In my experience, any bit of regular moving around during the workday helps the way a body feels.

    • Lee Thomson says:

      Are you in the dark north? That can take some habituating right there! Forced walking is a very good plan, especially with a good dog. Also once Dec 21 flies by, the days get longer even if they stay cold for a while.

      • vladazhael says:

        Yes, I am in Wisconsin, so very much the dark north. And I'm from this region originally, but I've been living elsewhere for a few years, so there is some definite re-acclimating to be done. I fully expect winter to be quite a trial once I relocate for good – and I HAAAAATE snow to begin with – but it's something I've dealt with before and can again.

  14. exitpursuedbyaclaire says:

    I'm not going to win NaNoWriMo this year, but I've used that to allow myself to get back to the book I'd been working on before November. I really want to write that book, which is a good sign!

    The fiancé and I finally hung out with some friends that live in our neighborhood, which we have been meaning to do ever since we moved in…six months ago. Hopefully now that we've done it once, we can make it a habit.

    • CleverManka says:

      Getting back to something you wanted to do sounds like a win to me!

    • Lee Thomson says:

      Good for you working on a book, which ever book it is you are working on! Write the thing that speaks to you. Just the good parts.

      You can totally make the hanging out a habit! Keep showing up. Have a regular dinner together. It is lovely when it flips over to into routine.

  15. Onymous says:

    I'm working Thursday morning and Saturday over Thanksgiving weekend which means for the first time in 5 years I'm going to be able to do Thanksgiving dinner on Thanksgiving…

    Not sure if I'm going to do anything just yet but it's relatively new to have the option.

  16. Lee Thomson says:

    I've been stuck without electricity or internet, except my phone could do things? The electricity came back on at lunchtime, so I could start sewing some of the pieces I'd been working on – I finished Chariot (an shark, for steady forward motion) and Temperance (seahorse) and started a tiny side project. The internet didn't return until Mr Crow came home, and required him to turn things on and off in the correct order. Since it took him several tries, I feel less dim about failing at it myself.

    As for a Mankanaut meeting: We could maybe start with a month for a gathering? spring, summer, fall? if we can get a solid 10-15 of us to commit to a month and even a weekend within it, then I guess we count how many people and start seeing where it is A) cheap to fly 2) on a train somehow or III) driving distance? which varies madly person to person…

    I kind of like the idea of a hang-in too. If there are less than 15 or so of us, it should be possible to find some kind of airbnb to stash us all in. If we get up to 20 or 30 we might want to try to find some kind of retreat, bnb or campground that could house us, and negotiate with them around feeding us vs feeding ourselves.

    Weigh in – when, where, how far are you willing to travel and what mode of locomotion do you prefer? Let's see if there is any kind of consensus.

  17. meat_lord says:

    Have a cold, am being fed tea and various medicines by Datefriend. Am going to a con in Dec., for which I am very excited! Some pals and I will be doing a group cosplay for the one show that we all have in common.

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