Thursday Link Dump

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Festive hymns made feminist.

Kick the balls of patriarchy
Fa la la la, la la la la
We’re all sick of this malarkey
Fa la la la, la la la la
Old white men hog all the power
Fa la la, la la la, la la la.
Let’s bring down their phallic tower
Fa la la la la, la la la la.

A free downloadable pdf of the lyrics is available.

Advice on managing holiday stress from psychotherapist Karen Grierson.

Bitter holiday horoscopes to warm your icy heart.

New Year’s Eve is your night. You’re going to have tons of fun. At midnight, you’ll have someone to kiss and it’ll be very cute. Your resolutions are reasonable. You can achieve them. You’re level-headed, Aquarius. All I want you to remember this season is this: We all die alone.

U.S. folks, here’s a script for calling the FCC to support net neutrality.

My crafting, like my feminism, is intersectional.

My crafting, like my feminism, is intersectional. I’m trying to get out of the habit of saying things like “oh, this project is a piece of cake to complete!” and “it’s so easy, anyone can do it!” because, yes, another acknowledgment, a reminder: the world is not made up of people with the same abilities that I have. One person’s “easy” could be another person’s “crying themselves to sleep at night out of utter frustration”, for any number of reasons, all of which are valid. The whole slow fashion movement is based on a certain set of privileges that not everyone has. The money, the time, the brain capacity, the skills, the physical ability, the comfort — it’s not available for everyone, even if they appreciate what the movement stands for and want to take part. Some makers only buy organic cotton and natural dyed fabrics because they want to be mindful of the impact that their art has on the environment. Other makers shop at Walmart because it’s the only way they can financially accommodate their therapeutic crafting and their need to put food on the table. There is room for all of us; the definition of what a maker is doesn’t have to be squeezed down down down to recognize only people who are doing it in the ways we consider “right”.

Nine up-and-coming essayists who are people of color.

The promotion of black culture as less tolerant than white culture toward sexuality and gender is kinda racist.

Almost every Black community boasts visibly queer people in prominent places, be it the church, the street, the mosque, and, yes, even the barbershop. While the dance between masculinity and femininity, respectability and resistance, can be a complicated one, I have never been in any Black space where trans and queer people hadn’t taken up indispensable roles.

So while I know my experience isn’t universal, I am still surprised at the nagging notion expressed so often by those both within and outside of Black communities that we traffic in a particularly toxic strain of homophobia and transphobia.

The privilege of being pretty.

Not being okay doesn’t make you an inconvenience.

Admitting your struggles makes you strong. It’s OK to not be OK. It’s better to openly admit you’re not doing well than it is to suck back your tears and let your emotions build up until you’re alone in your room at night crying into your pillow while you feel like you’re drowning in your own world.

At some point you have to stop beating yourself up over what you could have done better, you have to let go, you have to forgive yourself because things won’t always work out in your favor, but they’ll work out some way or another.

A Google doc of affordable therapy by state from Crissy Milazzo.

How to Decolonize the Way You Think About Your Body.

(People of Color’s) relationship with food was manipulated during colonialism. Connection and ceremony with land and food were disrupted and, in many cases, banned. Europeans came with a different set of beliefs from that of indigenous peoples. In Europe, food played an important role in religious affiliation and social class, and Europeans believed that specific foods made up the colonial body. Indigenous foods became inferior, and more varieties of meat and dairy were introduced.

Then you add years of poverty and limited access to food, which inevitably leads to disordered eating. Recent studies tell us that if someone in your family engages in eating disorder behavior, your chances of developing an eating disorder are higher. Now imagine 500 years of this ongoing trauma.

News flash: academia kinda sucks.

The science of Us vs. Them and how to get past it (this is a long and involved article, but very good).

When subjects are instructed to look for a distinctive dot in each picture, other-race faces don’t activate the amygdala; face-ness wasn’t being processed. Judging whether each face looked older than some age wasn’t a recategorization that could eliminate the other-race amygdaloid response. But for a third group of subjects, a vegetable was displayed before each face; subjects judged whether the person liked that vegetable. And the amygdala didn’t respond to other-race faces.

Why? You look at the Them, thinking about what food she’d like. You picture her shopping, or ordering a meal in a restaurant. Best case scenario, you decide you and she share some vegetable preference—a smidgen of Us-ness. Worst case, you decide you two differ, a relatively benign Them—history is not stained with blood spilled by animosities between partisans for broccoli versus cauliflower. Most importantly, as you imagine her sitting at dinner, enjoying that food, you are thinking of her as an individual, the surest way to weaken automatic categorization of someone as a Them.

In case you missed the mention of it in yesterday’s check-in, The Collective is a PAC devoted to building black political power.

Maria de Jesus Patricio Martinez, an indigenous woman, has registered to run as an independent candidate in next year’s Mexican presidential election.

And in case you haven’t seen it yet, here’s the first trailer for Ocean’s 8:

34 Responses to “Thursday Link Dump”

  1. Flitworth says:

    Customer Service Wolf is a comic worth reading, the creator is or knows a librarian.

    I haven't been at work since Monday yet I have had less time to mess about on the internet.

  2. littleinfinity says:

    Y'all… it has been a heck of a year. Sometimes you just need to go where no one will judge you.

    A Man Got Stranded On A Fountain After Taking A Ton Of Molly And Stealing A Swan Boat

    • meat_lord says:

      The man, who was identified as 36-year-old Keith Thurston of Orlando, was found screaming while sitting on the fountain just before 4 a.m.

      MOOD.

    • Kazoogrrl says:

      A friend and I once climbed onto the water jets of a fountain in the middle of a park in D.C.. On the same day, I also laid back against the wall of the fountain at the Canadian embassy. Yes, were were tripping.

      • littleinfinity says:

        Yesss. Ah-mazing. The only time I got in "trouble" in Vegas was when I decided to wade barefoot through a fountain. Apparently you can do anything in Vegas except get in their fountains, and then a security guard will get mad at you.

        • Rillquiet says:

          OR, when slightly drunk, realize that someone was stealing your buddy's wallet from the side of the pool, leap out and give chase through a hotel lobby, and when hollered at by hotel security to stop or risk arrest, yell back, "You gotta catch me first!" and take down the thief with a flying tackle. (Momquiet's former boxing coach was ripped, brave, and impulsive. That story could've ended much worse for him, but as it was, I imagine that security-cam clips of his stunt are a staff favorite.)

  3. vladazhael says:

    I found this via the beauty as privilege link, and I just… https://www.allure.com/story/why-so-many-beauty-b

  4. phantom says:

    I loved the intersectional crafting one, I guess I think about it a lot but mostly in terms of disability (so like only the way I get effected I guess).

  5. pseudonymica says:

    Thank you for such a treasure trove, Manka! Since I haven't been able to work since I got my PhD, it's reassuring to know that (a) I might be happier outside academia someday anyway and (b) this hiatus isn't necessarily destroying my chances at tenure track academia if I do get that opportunity and want to pursue it in the future. I assumed it was.

    I am very, very excited about the Hyrrbook. And I'm going to need the holiday stress and it's-okay-to-not-be-okay articles because my dad's pneumonia got worse last night. They got him out of septic shock and last I heard he was improving but each report seems to be the opposite of the previous and i am holding my breath.

  6. Lee Thomson says:

    Thank you for the feminist carols, they made my day. I had been using DW (the animated Arthur's younger sister) and her misunderstood words for carols for the last few years:

    (to the tune of What child is This, or Greensleeves)
    what time is it, when the little hand
    is pointing at the umbrella stand?
    of all the things that Santa brings
    I hope one is a digital watch….

  7. Onymous says:

    Also cautiously optimistic about Ocean's 8.

    I mean the first three had like one and a half good movies between them because "let's get a bunch of famous people on screen and let them have fun together" is on balance a difficult way to get a good movie.

    But it seems like this one has an actual plot/heist (unlike O12) so that's a point in it's favor.

    • CleverManka says:

      I loved the first one, vaguely remember sitting through at least most of the second, and am 99% sure I didn't see the last one. With the exception of Leverage, I'm not sure heist stories are good candidates for ongoing episodes. Maybe because most heist stories, with the exception of Leverage, focus too little on character development.

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