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Festive hymns made feminist.
Kick the balls of patriarchy
Fa la la la, la la la la
We’re all sick of this malarkey
Fa la la la, la la la la
Old white men hog all the power
Fa la la, la la la, la la la.
Let’s bring down their phallic tower
Fa la la la la, la la la la.
A free downloadable pdf of the lyrics is available.
Advice on managing holiday stress from psychotherapist Karen Grierson.
Bitter holiday horoscopes to warm your icy heart.
New Year’s Eve is your night. You’re going to have tons of fun. At midnight, you’ll have someone to kiss and it’ll be very cute. Your resolutions are reasonable. You can achieve them. You’re level-headed, Aquarius. All I want you to remember this season is this: We all die alone.
U.S. folks, here’s a script for calling the FCC to support net neutrality.
My crafting, like my feminism, is intersectional.
My crafting, like my feminism, is intersectional. I’m trying to get out of the habit of saying things like “oh, this project is a piece of cake to complete!” and “it’s so easy, anyone can do it!” because, yes, another acknowledgment, a reminder: the world is not made up of people with the same abilities that I have. One person’s “easy” could be another person’s “crying themselves to sleep at night out of utter frustration”, for any number of reasons, all of which are valid. The whole slow fashion movement is based on a certain set of privileges that not everyone has. The money, the time, the brain capacity, the skills, the physical ability, the comfort — it’s not available for everyone, even if they appreciate what the movement stands for and want to take part. Some makers only buy organic cotton and natural dyed fabrics because they want to be mindful of the impact that their art has on the environment. Other makers shop at Walmart because it’s the only way they can financially accommodate their therapeutic crafting and their need to put food on the table. There is room for all of us; the definition of what a maker is doesn’t have to be squeezed down down down to recognize only people who are doing it in the ways we consider “right”.
Nine up-and-coming essayists who are people of color.
The promotion of black culture as less tolerant than white culture toward sexuality and gender is kinda racist.
Almost every Black community boasts visibly queer people in prominent places, be it the church, the street, the mosque, and, yes, even the barbershop. While the dance between masculinity and femininity, respectability and resistance, can be a complicated one, I have never been in any Black space where trans and queer people hadn’t taken up indispensable roles.
So while I know my experience isn’t universal, I am still surprised at the nagging notion expressed so often by those both within and outside of Black communities that we traffic in a particularly toxic strain of homophobia and transphobia.
The privilege of being pretty.
Not being okay doesn’t make you an inconvenience.
Admitting your struggles makes you strong. It’s OK to not be OK. It’s better to openly admit you’re not doing well than it is to suck back your tears and let your emotions build up until you’re alone in your room at night crying into your pillow while you feel like you’re drowning in your own world.
At some point you have to stop beating yourself up over what you could have done better, you have to let go, you have to forgive yourself because things won’t always work out in your favor, but they’ll work out some way or another.
A Google doc of affordable therapy by state from Crissy Milazzo.
How to Decolonize the Way You Think About Your Body.
(People of Color’s) relationship with food was manipulated during colonialism. Connection and ceremony with land and food were disrupted and, in many cases, banned. Europeans came with a different set of beliefs from that of indigenous peoples. In Europe, food played an important role in religious affiliation and social class, and Europeans believed that specific foods made up the colonial body. Indigenous foods became inferior, and more varieties of meat and dairy were introduced.
Then you add years of poverty and limited access to food, which inevitably leads to disordered eating. Recent studies tell us that if someone in your family engages in eating disorder behavior, your chances of developing an eating disorder are higher. Now imagine 500 years of this ongoing trauma.
News flash: academia kinda sucks.
The science of Us vs. Them and how to get past it (this is a long and involved article, but very good).
When subjects are instructed to look for a distinctive dot in each picture, other-race faces don’t activate the amygdala; face-ness wasn’t being processed. Judging whether each face looked older than some age wasn’t a recategorization that could eliminate the other-race amygdaloid response. But for a third group of subjects, a vegetable was displayed before each face; subjects judged whether the person liked that vegetable. And the amygdala didn’t respond to other-race faces.
Why? You look at the Them, thinking about what food she’d like. You picture her shopping, or ordering a meal in a restaurant. Best case scenario, you decide you and she share some vegetable preference—a smidgen of Us-ness. Worst case, you decide you two differ, a relatively benign Them—history is not stained with blood spilled by animosities between partisans for broccoli versus cauliflower. Most importantly, as you imagine her sitting at dinner, enjoying that food, you are thinking of her as an individual, the surest way to weaken automatic categorization of someone as a Them.
In case you missed the mention of it in yesterday’s check-in, The Collective is a PAC devoted to building black political power.
Maria de Jesus Patricio Martinez, an indigenous woman, has registered to run as an independent candidate in next year’s Mexican presidential election.
And in case you haven’t seen it yet, here’s the first trailer for Ocean’s 8: