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Anthony Friedkin’s photos of gay culture immediately post-Stonewall.
Just, everything about this article on empathy, so so hard.
What I did not love—what made me genuinely uncomfortable—were the hundreds of crotch-punches, big falls on the dance floor, faceplants on a bike or skateboard, and the like. I did not, even as a child, really get the idea of laughing at other people’s pain, especially when we really didn’t know, based on the footage, whether that person was hurt. It made me squirm. And even when Bob Saget would talk to the family who submitted the video, and get assurances that everyone was fine, I still didn’t love laughing at what I’d seen.
Related, taking it one person at a time, one person can make the world a better place.
Being forced to shut up can help one learn to listen.
Yes, the internet might be changing our brains, but why is that necessarily a bad thing? It’s certainly not a new concern.
With its streaming services and Wikipedia articles, the internet has lowered the stakes on remembering the culture we consume even further. But it’s hardly as if we remembered it all before.
Plato was a famous early curmudgeon when it came to the dangers of externalizing memory. In the dialogue Plato wrote between Socrates and the aristocrat Phaedrus, Socrates tells a story about the god Theuth discovering “the use of letters.” The Egyptian king Thamus says to Theuth: “This discovery of yours will create forgetfulness in the learners’ souls, because they will not use their memories; they will trust to the external written characters and not remember of themselves.”
(Of course, Plato’s ideas are only accessible to us today because he wrote them down.)
“[In the dialogue] Socrates hates writing because he thinks it’s going to kill memory,” Horvath says. “And he’s right. Writing absolutely killed memory. But think of all the incredible things we got because of writing. I wouldn’t trade writing for a better recall memory, ever.” Perhaps the internet offers a similar tradeoff: You can access and consume as much information and entertainment as you want, but you won’t retain most of it.
Louise Bourgeois‘s suggestions for artists.
Am I pleased or furious (or both) that there is now a writing prize for thrillers that avoid sexual violence against women?
There is never too much advice for good apologies.
According to Lerner’s many decades of research on the subject of apologies, failure to create effective apologies comes from a lot of places. It may be cultural (in some cultures, a core assumption for intimate relationships is that apologies are implicit, so never offered explicitly) or a learned behaviour from within our families of origin or other high-impact social herds, like church communities. For many people, acknowledging we have done harm implies “we are/I am Bad People”, and that is a massive shame trigger for a lot of us.
Where the process truly falls apart, however, is in a staunch belief that INTENT trumps IMPACT when it comes to determining what merits apology and what (in our minds) does not.
Art Rangers: A group of creators using art to protect the U.S. National Park Foundation.
Good vs. Evil’s existence in pop culture and its effect on culture in general.
Novelists and filmmakers who base their work on folklore also seem to focus on commonalities. George Lucas very explicitly based Star Wars on Joseph Campbell’s book The Hero with a Thousand Faces (1949), which describes the journey of a figure such as Luke Skywalker as a human universal. J R R Tolkien used his scholarship of Old English epics to recast the stories in an alternative, timeless landscape; and many comic books explicitly or implicitly recycle the ancient myths and legends, keeping alive story threads shared by stories new and old, or that old stories from different societies around the world share with each other.
Less discussed is the historic shift that altered the nature of so many of our modern retellings of folklore, to wit: the idea that people on opposite sides of conflicts have different moral qualities, and fight over their values. That shift lies in the good guy/bad guy dichotomy, where people no longer fight over who gets dinner, or who gets Helen of Troy, but over who gets to change or improve society’s values. Good guys stand up for what they believe in, and are willing to die for a cause. This trope is so omnipresent in our modern stories, movies, books, even our political metaphors, that it is sometimes difficult to see how new it is, or how bizarre it looks, considered in light of either ethics or storytelling.
This is a creature that exists. On this earth. Right now.
For those of us who love our anti-GOOP reads. Set aside some time for this one, it’s long. I would like to add, the person who suggested it said something very true: “In reading this I actually see how the patriarchy makes this appealing. When you consider that doctors don’t listen to their patients and the medical profession is dominated by men and research is largely centered around male experience of illness or atypical neurological states, of course it can translate to a lack of faith in science based medicine.”
Some good news for the Williams Lake Indian Band in British Columbia.
What the world would look like if we taught girls to rage.
We teach girls to capitulate, ostensibly for their own good, but drumming the concept of subservience into their heads comes with its own high price: Girls are twice as likely to experience depression by the age of 16, more likely to enter into marriage when they’re children, and HIV rates for women are higher than for men.
And as a result, we leave girls wholly unprepared for the crisis to come as they grow up. What is particularly cruel is that, especially in the West, society increasingly feeds girls “you can do anything” lies while the patriarchy remains intact. They can’t. And they have to know why.
Anthony Oliveira’s amazing response to the lack of the Toronto police’s interest in pursuing a serial killer that targeted gay men. The whole thing is chilling and distressing, but this paragraph is wrenching and gives you an idea of what you’re in for, so if you’re not in the emotional space for it, give this one a miss.
It seems now secondary that there are still gay bodies to be exhumed. That there was blood—gay blood—in the trunk of his car. Gay blood when it is donated is thrown out, and when it is spilt it is easy to forget, running unnoticed in the gutters.
Yami Kawaii, a subset of kawaii culture, fights Japan’s usual silencing of depression, self-harm, and suicide.
So as not to end on two major downer notes, the Burgomaster posted about Tuesday’s launch of a mission to Mars!